/adv/ - Advice

How the FUCK do I last longer in bed.
I know it has been asked a thousand times but nothing seems to work.
>Think of something else
Doesn't help much.
>Use a condom
I already do.
>Take breaks
A 10 second pause gives me 10 seconds more stamina.
I'm tired of having the sexual prowess of a 90 year old man.

Look I know this place thinks anything outside of being straight is retarded but I am being serious.
>Never once had a real crush on someone, back then I just labeled someone who was nice to me as a "crush" to fit in.
>I saw attractive people the same way you would see a nice piece of furniture or painting.
>I thought people were joking or exaggerating when they say things like butterflies in stomach or heart racing.
>Kissing just feel boring, I felt nothing, it felt like something I was suppose to do rather than something I enjoyed.
>I remember thinking that the shit people do for sexual pleasure or love was because they were insane, not because they were really feeling something.
I just can't bring myself to care about relationships.

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Easiest job to walk in and ask to interview and actually get a response?

Most cocksucker managers just tell you to put an application in (As if they don't just ignore 99.9 percent of applicants)

Really basic jobs shouldn't feel like a privilege to get. America sucks.

i am so fucking tired of other women being prettier than me. all i have going for myself is that i'm skinnyfat and mildly funny. i fucking hate my ugly recessed jaw and stupid chinky eyes and freakish bulb nose. i get so mad looking in the mirror. my mom is beautiful, my dad is handsome according to older women, why am i so fucking cooked? what the fuck can i be doing to make myself less difficult to look at? it's such a fucking waste. i hate my face. don't even get me started on my nervous autistic redditor hunch posture, holy shit. someone, put a hit on me. fuck.

>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

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Who knew when I confessed my interest in you that it'd result in a lifetime of stalking and egomaniacal behaviors instead of any real love.

Happily Married 13 years. She was a virgin when we met. Still in love w/ an active sex life. Wife is a 38 y/o yoga-goddess & homesteader. I am a 45 y/o fit/lean construction & tradeworker.

we have great sex 4 to 6 times per week. we have done just aboot everything. I make sure she cums at least once per session, she is usually multi-orgasmic. we have several toys already: "Rabbit" style thrusting vibrator, AKADY clit suction vibrator, a 3 motor dual armed clit vibrator that slides over my dick and vibes my balls/her clit with the opposite base motor, and finally; a small vibrating butt-plug.

I/we have tried the "come hither" fingers 1-2" inside her pussy upwards towards her bellybutton, while bumping my palm on her clit. while she does orgasm, it's not earth-shattering and there has been no "Gush" or squirt.

I believe she has gotten us EITHER: 1) a We-Vibe Chorus Pro
2) a LELO Enigma
I think it's 80% likelihood to be the We-Vibe Chorus Pro.

she was and to a lesser degree still is a bit on the reserved side. don't get me wrong, she is and has always been down-to-fuck and get her rocks off. that said, I think maybe she has a mental block at the thought of "peeing" during sex (I know it's NOT pee). I have let her know I think seeing her pee in the shower would be hot & flat out told her I think it would be out-of-this-world HOT if she squirted during orgasm. as such; I have "given her permission" to "let go" but I think her oppressive upbringing is blocking her from embracing the flood.

how do i:
1) let her achieve squirting orgasm
and/or
2) give her the most powerful orgasm of her life, leaving her convulsing and speechless even if not squirting

I have read tantric books, sexual PHD articles and even consulted Grok... i am even covertly tracking her period cycle to help. what reccomendations to YOU have, Anon?

if this is not allowed on this board, my apologies. please just remove it and don't ban me. it's an honest quest for real answers, not just smut.

how do i as a black person keep living in a world where everyone hates black people (including other black people)

I want to become a more interesting person because my only hobbies right now are the gym, self-improvement and video games (not even real hobbies). The only real hobby I have is reading, and I'm pretty sure it has the opposite effect I want.

I'm also still a khhv at 19, so preferably something that would also make me more attractive to women.

>you need to cope and wageslave or you're bluepilled
Is he on to something?

Never go to therapy anons, the people shilling this shit are often "therapists" themselves, which are grifters. These parasites need to get a real job, starve them out.

IGNORE THERAPY POSTERS AS THEY ARE MOSTLY THERAPISTS SHILLING THEIR GRIFT

is it common for men to often look much less attractive in 2d (photos, videos), than in real life?

recently i had been obsessing quite a lot over a guy i am kind of into, and i caved and looked up some videos of him, since he doesn't have social media. he is not really famous or anything, but if you know where to look, there are videos of him/including him. and i realized that in video/2d form he looks quite unremarkable, i felt nothing when looking at those videos. but irl, whenever i have been around him i have always felt completely smitten, and too nervous to look at him or even to make eye contact for too long because of how nervous he makes me feel (because of his attractiveness).

for context, we don't personally know each other, he's more of a distant friend of a friend.

So my grandma is going to get aided suicide because shes really old and is basically waiting for her death in the retirement home. I understand her and i do not want to change her mind and desu im kinda happy for her that this is possible because she is not having fun anymore.
Heres my question:
Do you people have any regrets not asking your grandmother something before she died? Any life lessons or questions you regret you did not ask?
She is my last grandparent and i want to use the short time there is left for us together

Hi all, F18 here, in the future I’m hoping to do mental health nursing, my plan is to serve in the army as a MH nurse, I’m actually studying for a career that’s not even related to it, but I plan on switching next year so this won’t go to waste, I’d say I have good intuition and emotional intelligence, but these days I feel like it’s slipping away, and I’d like to continue building that up, I was wondering if I could talk to anyone, add them off of here? Anyone struggling with mental health issues, i.e. (anxiety, depression, identity crisis etc) I’ve been very attentive on mental health discord servers, but the amount of requests I got was just overwhelming, and I felt more used than anything, since then I got rid of it, it was too draining and I got busy with school but now I have more time, and I’ll have to get over those feelings because I know it’ll be an emotionally demanding job, I was taught the best way to tackle someone struggling with mental health issues is to befriend them first

>Didn’t meet my wife in middle or high school
I should just kms now, yeah?
How was I supposed to know that the dating “scene” would become what it is today?
I would have smashed every last video game, severed every nerdy friend connection I had, spent 12 hours in the gym everyday and the other 12 on a sportsball field if I had known it was then or never.
Humiliation ritual to the max.

How to stop masturbating when bored?

20f

For instance im 20 years old i want to heal my brain after a period of 3 years as a neet give or take. So i wanted to do things that are mentally stimulating like shogi or chess, playing videogames that aren't braindead and actually requires strategy and thinking, reading books, re-learning languages (i know french and arabic fluently however after so long of not practicing nor engaging with content that uses the language i became rusty and i need to start learning vocab again) and also pick up my other hobby i abandoned which is drawing. And on top of that i have to study at home because i dropped out but im trying to atleast get a diploma online. And i also just found out staying in your room as if you're in a coma has significant consequences to your body and i now have back muscles that cant support themselves so my spine is bad, my legs are bad, my grip strenght is zero etc etc.. and then after that i have to think about what job i want to do.. And as someone who spent 3 years doing fuck all this is very overwhelming and i have absolutely no clue how i can fit all of this into my day to day life without inventing a time slowing machine that makes a day last 50 hours.

So the question is how do i start managing my time, have discipline to commit to my hobbies, unlearn bad habits and start to actually live because doomscrolling all day is not gud. I want to stop this as early as possible and get my shit together by the time im 22 so that i dont stay like this until my thirties

Hello anons, I turn to you because I am going insane.

I love my gf. She is smart and a genuinely independent and critical thinker, doesn't use any social media, doesn't care about any pop culture, and doesn't give a shit about gossip. These are traits that I've rarely found in people as a whole much less attractive women my age, so I feel very lucky. Probably does not come as a surprise that she is autistic.
We're also well aligned on lifestyle preferences - both want kids, similar level of expenses, similar preferred activities, it's obviously not 100% identical but we match well enough.
The only thing that doesn't match is that she does not seem to desire sex. At all. I know the usual cuck posters will emerge from the woodwork now and tell me she is fucking Chad behind my back but if you believe anything of what I am saying, believe this part. She had no partners before me, does not masturbate, does not consume porn or smut of any kind, does not go out partying, she doesn't even notice if people are attractive. I genuinely believe that if it were up to her sex would be for reproduction only.
And I am going insane trying to deal with it. My options are either keep at this and kill myself before 30, break up with her and lose what I otherwise view as a one of a kind person so I can sleep with some basic whores, or cheat, which I would like to think I'm above.

What the actual fuck do I do? I'm open to anything here, I just something from real people and not the therapyspeak-trained LLMs that have infested every other platform in existence.

I'm under 5ft and I already don't look my age anyways (20yo male but people always think I'm a child or rarely a girl). So I often think about just trying to look more like a child.

I'm not thinking about this with the intention of tricking anyone or anything related to actual children. I just want to be liked.

I want other people to be more patient with me, I want to be pitied and helped
I try to compensate by acting more mature, serious etc, but wouldn't my life be easier if I just did the complete opposite of that?

Should I try to act and dress like I'm younger?

I don't want other people to think I'm a creep for it

What do you think?

Im 19 and keep accidently cold-approaching woman that are like 35 and then its awkward as fuck and I just walk away. Even worse I accidently did this to a high schooler the other day cuz she looked early-twenties. What are some signs a woman is 18-29?

I figured I would ask this here as some of you might also have similar things going on and it might creater a good conversation.

I am both very gifted and very very dyslexic.
In life dyslexia has held me back a lot, as soon as someone sees you make frequent spelling mistakes they treat you like a full retard. Reading and writing are treated as the most important part of intelligence and education by most people.
Now in conversation I can get places, but not writing.
How can I get past this in life? How have others delt with it. Is it ever going to be possible to bypass the basic assumptions that a person with poor spelling is retarded?

Just a good mid day /adv/ thread topic.

It's not too late to get it off your chest.

>buy snack for a week
>eat all snack in 2 day

why am i like this?

How to stop being a fookin parasite in today's economy?

i am 25 and i got addicted to porn at a very young age. it has totally destroyed me.

i have also been out of routine for over 5 years and have not been working or in education. i don’t even keep up basic hygiene like brushing my teeth. i struggle with anxiety and depression

i know that i am better than this but it’s so hard to climb out of the hole i’ve dug so deep. it’s so hard to keep everything up daily.

like always it’s late at night and i just finished drinking a monster and ate a bunch of shit food and ended up watching the same porn as always which is interracial and sissy stuff and that’s another problem itself.

then a short while after i finished a girl i used to speak to came to mind who confessed her feelings for me and i looked at her instagram and she is having so much fun with friends and her new boyfriend. this isn’t the first time. i feel left behind but it’s all my fault. i know what i need to do but it’s so difficult.

please somebody help or give me advice that i can take

I'm 24 and I've been dating this girl for close to a year now. It's been going great and we haven't had any big issues in our relationship. She's only my 2nd girlfriend. My relationship with my last girlfriend was very stressful and hectic so being with her is far better. Both of us love each other alot and I don't want to lose her.
But over the past week I've come to learn that she has undergone several plastic surgeries in the past and she has never told me any of this. She has done at least:
>breast augmentation/enlargement
>rhinoplasty
>lip fillers
>liposuction
And maybe more but those are the only ones that I'm confident on. She spends like an hour in the bathroom doing makeup everyday but my previous girlfriend did that as well so I don't know if that's not normal. I find her attractive without makeup on anyway
I don't know if I'm right about feeling this way but to me this makes me somewhat angry because she has never told me about this and I feel like she has tricked me in a way. It also seems inauthentic and vain especially because she has never mentioned it. The thing is that I probably never would have guessed. She doesn't have the "bogged" look and nothing stuck out to me as unnatural before I found this out. I don't want to break up with her but I sort of feel betrayed by this and I don't know whether or not to bring this up with her.
The only reason I found out about this is because one of her former friends (I guess they had fights or something so they aren't friends anymore) saw me at the gym a week ago and started trying to get back at her by telling me embarrassing things about her. None of the things she said made me think about her differently but she talked about how she was very insecure with her appearance and that she was obsessed with plastic surgery. Which I guess is why she wouldn't tell me and it worked because I never suspected anything but I do feel tricked
Am I overthinking this or should I talk to her about this

I am madly in love with a married woman I met on Tinder.

She wants the marriage to be open and the husband doesnt by the sounds of it. Me and her have sexted a few times and shes the only person minus my ex who has seen me naked. It was the only intimate thing ive done with someone minus my ex.

I have told her almost every bit of trauma in my life and she has too.
I have helped her with rent and groceries since she can't get food stamps at the moment. It was my idea to help her.

I really treasure our friendship, but I am falling very unhealthy in love with her.

I talk to her all day everyday. Her husband sounds abusive by the sounds of it. I am recently divorced and shes the first woman ive really opened up to about it. I have a lot of emotional scars from my ex and I feel shes the only person in my life who understands me. We are meeting up for the first time this weekend and im unbelievably excited.

I ejaculated on my ex's feet while she was asleep and recorded it. She had told me sleep sex was ok (I at least think?) so I didnt think anything of it. And we made sex tapes all the time so it didnt seem like a big deal at all. She said i sexually assaulted them. She told a few mutual friends and pretty much all of our mutual friends had my side. She went insane and wants absolutely nothing to do with me. But I would do anything to grab lunch with her and apologize.

She came out as trans last year and within a month was on testosterone. Never asked my opinion about it, never brought it up before. Just said "i go by sage now and my pronouns are he/him". They would do nothing but sit in our bedroom and talk to their trans friends on discord.

This girl I met on tinder has helped me get through the divorce in a way no one else has been able to. I feel She understands me. Everything about me. Shes been so supportive and encouraging. I would do almost anything for her and I love her so much.

I've moved to Ohio recently in order to complete A+ certification and share rent with my friend. I've always been at the absolute bottom rung of employment, struggling to keep anything for more than a few months at a time. No version of my resume can have less than a year's worth of cumulative employment gaps in the last five years. Friend took one look at it, told me I was unemployable with it, and none of his advice applied to me except to shuffle the dates around in order to slightly reduce the gaps.

Does anyone know if there are any free or cheap services for improving my odds? Career centers in Franklin County to get resume crafting advice? Department websites that can actually help me get something instead of sending thousands of applications on (((Indeed))) for every rejection letter? It feels like for every job I get and lose, my chances of ever surviving let alone paying my friend back for the time he's held me up let alone ever achieving independence are getting lower.

Hi! New to this site but it seemed the best place to ask for advice for my problem. For context I go to high school in a very very blue state. My family and friends are all very progressive, as am I. I’m not all too politically involved, but I would still considered my a leftist and feminist. Honestly, I’ve never really had much more than smalltalk with conservatives.

That is, until recently. There’s a guy who I’ve gotten to be friends with recently, very polite, charismatic, assertive, and more than a little handsome (quite built). I’m usually not into guys much but he has honestly won me over. That is, until just a few days ago I found out he’s a republican from a friend. Not just a republican but pretty far right :/. I was shocked because he didn’t seem sexist or mean or anything, nothing like what I’d expect. My friends all obviously think I should avoid him, but I’m starting to think what I know about republicans may be off.

What exactly can I expect from dating a right winger? Is the wife beating, sexist, racist stereotypes true? Asking here because I know this site leans right and I’m curious about your viewpoints. Thanks :)

(ignore the nautilus I was sure what image to put and like cephalopods )

I've started taking antidepressants and now I can't cum, I rarely get horny and I very rarely get close, I've tried all my toys too and none of them worked

I'm a woman with a pussy, since that matters here

>be me
>log into TikTok on my phone day
>randomly get shitty notice about ToS violation
>can't use account anymore unless I make a new one but new throwaway email accounts get instabanned
>sadge

Are device-level bans a thing and any way to bypass them? Utter bullshit cos barely commented or interacted, just doomscrolled Boptok

How do you know if you're being a nuisance or just showing interest? It feels kind of sad having to be always the proactive subject of a two individuals only group. I'm talking about meeting up with a woman for a second or third date.

> I lack social skills

> I look at social psychology books that explain how people work

> I discover the principle of Instrumentality, an essential principle in attraction theory which holds that all social relationships are the product of people's invisible use of others to achieve certain desires, specifically emotional ones. And the whole relationship will depend on what is offered and how much is offered.

> I discover that EVERYONE in my life will function this way: all the possible relationships I will have with everyone on this planet will be created, destroyed, or defined by the amount of specific emotions and feelings I give to people, and if I don't do it well or don't do enough or someone else does it better, people won't care about me and I won't have any kind of relationship with anyone, not even romantic ones. No existing relationship is based on disinterest, or on being a good or bad person, or on the type of personality you have, but only on what you offer.

> I discover that the reason I have no friends or partner is my fault, because I never had the ability to fulfill anyone's emotional needs. Everyone else played their role better than anyone else, and therefore I have not been anyone's social plaything.

>I look at philosophy related to this and discover that Nietzsche spoke about it. According to him, morality was a mechanism of the weak to proclaim themselves equal to the most powerful.and that being “good” at something is actually based on what you can do.

>I am depressed and I don't know if it's true or not.I can't tell anyone this, not even my family, because they'll think I'm crazy.

Wtf I do now?

What are some sweet things I can do for my boyfriend? I am so awkward when it comes to romance; every once in a while I like to message him to tell him I’m thinking of him, but I really want to do more! I want him to know how much I love him. Please feel free to list anything you have enjoyed in the past or that you think you would enjoy having someone do for you.

how do i fix this?

>The world is black and white to her.
>People who she disagrees with are demons or possessed.
>She doesn’t want to work and feels too old (32 btw).
>She claims that she doesn’t need to work, just needs to pray.
>Doesn’t have ambition to buy a house, just want her permanent residence to be in heaven.
Diagnosis?

I care about my girlfriend deeply, but we have very different values and definitions of what a good night looks like.I prefer calm, quality time together, while she enjoys clubbing and nightlife with her friends. Earlier in our relationship, we talked about how clubbing made me uncomfortable and she agreed to stop, but over time she started going again and I tried to be okay with it since it was something she really wanted to do. Recently, she left a night we were spending together to join her friends at a club, and it brought back all the original hurt. I feel like I’ve been bending my own boundaries just to avoid conflict, and now I’m carrying resentment while she feels restricted. I don't think going clubbing is something someone in a committed relationship should do. If I was there I'd be less of an issue for me, but I don't want to go clubbing. I’m trying to figure out if staying means losing parts of myself, or if breaking up is the healthier long-term choice

Europa

Finally moving to BC with my gf after planning for two years
I’m coming from Australia. Any tips on fitting in?
Gonna try and find work in engineering (yea yea I know) but I’m kinda stoked.

Any Canadians have advice on making it worthwhile?

Europa

Talk me out of killing myself by tomorrow 12 PM.

How do I last longer in bed?

As soon as I put it in her, I cum within 3 minutes.

I've been at my current place for nine years, have a HELOC with interest only payments. Value is about 145k if I can finish the kitchen and some other items. I owe 100k. Need about 15-20k for repairs. Was laid off from IT, entry level so competition is everywhere. I have an hourly job but it doesn't pay enough by itself to stay, I'm losing 500 a month while on unemployment and will start losing 1500 a month, maybe a bit less, after that runs out. I have a couple offers on the place where I'd pocket about 10-12k. I'm also working remote sales in the mornings and have about 25k commission coming from that in a few months, whenever the deals close. By then though, I could run out of my meager savings, about 4-5k. Should I sell now just to preemptively save myself from potential disaster, or stay and try to make it work? I'd be able to lower my housing cost by about 600-800 a month living with roommates or in an RV. A friend of mine said I should "bet on myself" but I'm not too sure that's realistic in this situation.

How do I stop not sleeping at night for graduating late for causes largely outside my control?

I turned 25 recently it's not over for me but I really need to start busting my ass. I've been huffing mad hopium+copium recently and wanting to get a decent career and get my life on track but I keep hearing about how fucked the economy is, people complaining about how they can't afford to live etc etc (im an amerimutt)

It's funny because a lot of these doomer videos on youtube of guys saying this kind of thing are either guys in their mid 20s like me who have never done anything but definitely could just start right now or 30-35+ millenials who have somehow gotten to the age they are now with no skills education or anything to show for their years of life and are complaining they can't make enough money. Yeah sure the economy is rough, no one is doing incredible basically no one can buy a house or afford brand new cars. Whatever lol

I was doing mental math at work today of what it would look like to be able to live without family (we all work and pitch in) and ok rent is pretty bad a place that doesn't have a perma roach infestation junkie/human garbage neighbors and maybe its own washer/dryer is gonna cost minimum like 1600/month where I live and then just going by the 1/3rd rule i need to make effectively about 57.6k a year (after taxes) to afford it comfortably which is sort of absurd but achievable. I don't think t he economy is THAT fucked that you can't have a decent life if you can actually apply yourself. I don't wanna be super rich I just want to be able to live comfortably and maybe buy a few guns and play some vidya. What do you think/what is your experience and what advice can you offer me in this regard? Is it really that bad out there economically?

If someone gives me a mysterious liquid, and I ingest it, and soon my body feels so much better than it did before ingesting it, how do I know that it was the liquid that made me better and not a placebo effect?

long story short i made some poor finical decision with my ex and she left me out to dry. i have a game collection worth about 60k and i was thinking about cashing out to pay everything off have a little left over. problem is its kinda like something ive been working on for years and while i think about the financial freedom...i feel like i might miss the fun of the chase and collecting in general...should i sell the collection or get out of the debt naturally?

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