Anonymous
8/23/2025, 11:27:53 PM
No.33553208
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>>33553849
Some years ago i noticed that the only time i hung out with my friends was when i had called them or arranged something, otherwise there was no contact. Anyway i decided to do a test to not initiate any contact with anyone for a month and see if they call me or something, i have been completely alone since
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 11:42:29 PM
No.33553288
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>>33553778
I meet up with a friend only when he initiates it and we have been friends for almost 20 years
Just the way things are, I guess Im more lazy, or more of a lone wolf, doesnt mean I don't like him
Anonymous
8/23/2025, 11:50:44 PM
No.33553343
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You and your friends are friends. You just aren't the their first choice.
I don't know how to fix it since i am in the same situation but I guess is better than nothing
Anonymous
8/24/2025, 12:15:24 AM
No.33553490
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>>33553778
>be me
>spend first 20 years of my life growing up with the same friends from across the street
>thought friendship was a lifelong bond
>job relocates me to Newport Beach CA
>rent a 2 bedroom because I figured I would have visitors
>I mean, if you're my friend, all you need to do is to fly here and you're set, I even have a spare car
>nobody calls unless I call
>nobody even texts unless I text
>definitely nobody visits
>out of sight, out of mind, I guess
>this goes on for a few years
>do like OP
>nobody even gives a shit
>not a single message to see if I'm still alive
>give up, sell spare car, get studio apt
>lesson learned: Friends Ain't Shit.
>find a girl, get married, have kids, move on with my life
>still low key pissed at all my old "friends"
Anonymous
8/24/2025, 12:56:09 AM
No.33553778
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>>33553288
this, i don't think it's inherently a bad thing. Like sure they may not be your closest friends, but they're still choosing to hang out with you
>>33553490
i get it man. But a lot of guys don't feel the need to reach out and it's not a mark of being bad friends. Some of my best friends moved and I just don't talk to them much anymore. And flying over to them to hang out is just too much effort. But they're still good friends of mine and if something happened and they needed me, I would be there
Anonymous
8/24/2025, 1:11:55 AM
No.33553849
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>>33553994
>>33553208 (OP)
Obviously, you give people no reason to want to be around you. Obviously. It seems obvious that you are not owed some divine right to have people want to be with you. Obviously. You're welcome!
Anonymous
8/24/2025, 1:44:26 AM
No.33553994
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>>33557429
>>33553849
not rly youre just being a dick to OP for the sake of being a dick
