Thread 33644486

What's the best way to tell a mentally ill suicidal girlfriend that you don't love her anymore and you want to break up?

>>33644486 (OP)
"I don't love you anymore, bye, ps: I shat in your dish washer"

She's going to be too disoriented about the dishwasher to try to change your mind, this is when you run.

>>33644498
This is the only option really

>>33644486 (OP)
Just like that.
She isnt your responsibility.
I know it sucks, dude. My highschool gf was like this. That relationship dragged out years longer than it should have.

That was 20 years ago. Shes still alive. And regardless, its your life. You have to take control and move on, and understand her killing herself is all on her, and has nothing to do with you. Shes in charge of her own life and emotions and its her own failure shes like this to begin with.

>>33644511
I feel like I lead her on taking about future plans like getting married and having kids but I just can't take the daily meltdowns anymore and I don't want to raise kids with a crazy mom.

>>33644486 (OP)
"I don't want anything to do with you anymore"
If they doe it is whatever.

>>33644486 (OP)
Fake your death

>>33644486 (OP)
>>33644511
There are better ways of handling it than this. You can treat her with empathy and act like a responsible, mature adult.

Sit her down and tell her that you empathize with her mental health struggles but it's getting to the point that it's no longer sustainable for you. Tell her that there would need to be a massive change and she'd have to put in a lot of effort for you to feel this relationship is worth saving.

Then, if she genuinely expresses an interest in changing, you can give her a second chance and work with her, if you feel like you have it in you, or tell her you'll help her grow as a friend, or tell her she has to do it on her own if you're a real dick.

And if she has a bad reaction, then you can dump her with a clear conscience.

That's what happened to me. I said basically above, and she reacted very badly. She usually rages, but this time she just got a huge scowl on her face, pushed me away and slammed and locked the bedroom door. So I said mmkay and left. Later, in text, I talked to her about it again, and said we could try working on things together if she wanted, and she said she didn't want to work on anything. And so, I left her for good. Her mom called and talked to me (we were renting from her) and I explained the situation to her mom and told her about her struggles and wished her luck, and that was that.

It doesn't always work out, but I think everyone deserves a chance before you just ditch them. Maybe I'm too nice but just dropping someone is too shitty, no matter what a turd they've turned into. I could never do that to someone I once loved and shared a bed with.

If someone broke up with me I would just want it str8 without them complaining about shit.

>>33644486 (OP)
"show don't tell" but not exactly show.
She probably doesn't like something, idnno. Maybe you being drunk, you saying racial slurs, anal, something. Do at least one, maybe all of them at the same time, once she's sick of you she won't feel so bad when she dumps you at 0% risk of her offing herself. Ta Da your problem solved.

>>33644486 (OP)
>mentally ill suicidal girlfriend
OP when you describe your GF is this your way of telling us he is MtF trans? You had me there for a minute LOL.

>>33644582
If you read my post said
>dragged out 5 years
There were second, third, fourth, fifth and sixth chances
Get off your high horse. "If you leave me I'll kill myself" is wildly unacceptable behaviour and shouldn't be tolerated for more than 2 seconds. Leave these people to sink or swim. They dont deserve empathy at that point, its manipulative abuse. 99% of the time they jusr tree branch to some other dude and start the cycle over.

>>33644486 (OP)
Just break contact. You are your own person. It only sucks if you've somehow had a lot of contact with her family or know her through school/work because then you'd hear about it if she went through with it

>>33645045
>I know ill make them break up with me

You say this like it hasn't very frequently been tried by people.. this has extremely explosive back firing results. You dont do that.

This thread is full of retards today

>>33644486 (OP)
I've been dealing with the same thing for the past months, so i can sympathize.
There's really no good way of doing it. You just need to tell her you need to talk and then do it. The alternative is leading her on and making your life a living hell just so you can go through this at a later time. You can tell her you'll still be there to support her, but that could also backfire depending on how emotionally unstable she is. She might try to beg and try to get you to come back very persistently, but you'll need to stick to your decision. Try letting her friends/family know you broke up with her and that she needs support, if you can. Other than that, there's nothing else you can do, except maybe forcing yourself into staying in an unhappy relationship for the rest of your life.
I know very well how hard it is to go through with tough decisions. It's easier to stay in a perpetual state of moderate misery. You just need to work the courage to do it.

>>33644486 (OP)
It's subtle posts like these that want to make me blow my fucking brains out.

>>33645062
Good meme pretending like everyone under the age 30 isn't mentally ill, let alone a girl who would date some 4chan loser.

>>33644519
tell her she has a few months to change or its over.

>>33644486 (OP)
i threatened to kill myself with mulitple girlfriends. it's usually* an empty threat.

>>33644486 (OP)
Lol just stay with her and let her drag you down too, faggot.