Thread 33649766

Older anons, what were you like in your early 20s? what sort of place were you in?
If you could go back with everything you know now, what would you do differently?

>>33649766 (OP)
Insecure, unconfident and socially anxious

I am a bit better now, but living alone and working remotely is starting to erode that

I would say - if you have even a vague idea about what you want to do with your life - just so it. Fuck the risk. Just do it. The alternative is a slow death and you're fucked in the long run anyway with ages death of loved ones and a slow decline for yourself probably

I was arrogant in my early 20s replicating people's elitism until I was 25. Point is never be arrogant. You say you are gonna do something you fucking do it. It does not matter what the world thinks of you. The world is skeptical of you already. But you got to be your own best friend through it all honoring your own word.

Be kinder to my gf now wife, put a baby in her sooner, cut down on beer drinking, and start lifting weights sooner and heavier. Overall I got my shit together eventually but I should have started sooner.

>>33649766 (OP)
I used to have hope and kept striving for the future, always trying to see the good in everything and holding on to that belief that kindness will pay off eventually no matter how hard life gets. I'm 35 now and a complete defeatist who doesn't want to deal with anyone. If I could go back I don't know what I would do.

>>33649766 (OP)
Listening to my parents is always the worst decision I ever made when they dictate much about my personal life. They don't know me, they put their vices and interest for me to follow when in reality I have not a single interest with those stuff.

They made me do this and that for summer when all I've been doing was just wasting time and making myself look stupid while entertaining their goals and call it family bonding. This is one of the primary reasons why I don't have self confidence about myself. They're the ones who always puts me down for the sake of reputation and social etiquette.

The more I detached to them, the more I learned about myself. I started to know my interests and dislikes. I became confident and initiative ever since. They were being overprotective over nothing. I've been a rebel ever since. Sometimes you have to break it to them and show them what you're capable off. This advice also applies to anything else in defying others like friends, your superiors etc.. your girlfriend/boyfriend.

Only you gets to understand yourself. Nobody else in this world will especially when everything revolves about money and manipulation.

>>33649766 (OP)
Insecure, not confident, , cheap, closed minded and unwilling to try new things. I wouldn't be so quick to judge and I would be more open to new experiences and not so fucking uptight. I'd also smoke waaay less weed.

>>33649766 (OP)
bad times. smoking weed and playing video games all day, every day
quit sooner and dump my loser friends

I'd start investing (and learn about investing) earlier.

Nothing fancy. Just major indexes like the S&P 500, and it's foreign counterparts (like TSX 60).

My parents never thought me how to invest, but it's INCREDIBLY important to invest early. I had to teach myself in my early 30s. I could probably retire at 45 if I started investing in my early 20s.

>>33649766 (OP)
>what were you like in your early 20s? what sort of place were you in?
barely starting to become sociable. I think I made my first true friends when I was about 21 or so, but once that happened I would go out with them nearly every night.

>If you could go back with everything you know now, what would you do differently?
the banal bullshit everyone would do aside, like investing in crypto? I'd find myself a delinquent girlfriend, I'd do so while trying to look like the fucking nerd I am.

>>33649860
>>33650541
How did you end up getting over it?
>>33650571
What would be a good way to go about investing if I'm broke?

>>33650644
>How did you end up getting over it?
I decided to stop smoking weed and I met my now fiance. Getting laid certainly helped a lot but quitting weed helped a lot as well.

>>33650644
>What would be a good way to go about investing if I'm broke
invest in educational courses so that you get a job that makes you more money. you ain't going anywhere with investing if you can only spend 20 bucks a month on it.

>>33649766 (OP)
Regarding girls and relationships, I was shy and not very confident. I didn’t really have my own sense of fashion until my early 30s.

Thankfully, I had enthusiasm for my work and career so I was able to advance with the company. After I had money, I was able to try out different clothes and go to different places and meet people. I’m glad I focused on my career early because I don’t have the energy to do that anymore.

>>33649766 (OP)
>what were you like in your early 20s?
I am 30 so my 20s is barely behind me. I spent the first three years in college, kind of an odd ball but liked well enough for a couple friends, a gf, and active social life. I left my home state and lived over 1000 miles from home after graduation in late 2018, made a couple friends, it was really bad in 2020 when the pandemic lockdowns came. Everyone was locked down and I became really insular, I didn't date at all during this time. I left in 2022, moved to a medium sized city for a job, only have one friend from there and didn't socialize much, I moved again in 2023 to where I am at now. I haven't dated since I was 22 in college, I have only made maybe three friends, I have become more pessimistic than I used to be for the future and feel detached from society, time spent stuck inside wasting away. I wish I could change my trajectory but nobody wants me these days so I have kind of given up as I don't know how to meet people, how to properly socialize, and how to meet women to date and marry. I have a great job with excellent pay but I am kind of stuck with no real path forward so I start to wonder why I should keep going.

If I could go back, I would never buy that gaming computer that pushed me to stay inside my home antisocial for so long, although I think I might have been killed by the pandemic more than that, I was barely getting established when COVID hit, it was supposed to be the golden age of my life and it was robbed by our corrupt government, the lockdowns have had a very negative lasting impact on my life.