Thread 33805563

I haven't had a date for six years. Not sure if I want to go the whole dating experience anymore. Like it's not worth the hassle. I dread the idea of having to be on top of my game, make conversation and being funny. Maybe this is just it and it's time to embrace the thought of living alone the rest of my life? I kinda like the quiteness.

Long term singles, how are you doing? Does it get easier to accept you're alone?

>>33805563 (OP)
Being isolated is one of, if not the most toxic things you can inflict on your own psyche.

>>33805574
>Being isolated is one of, if not the most toxic things you can inflict on your own psyche.
I don't know. It's different for sure, but I am not on the verge of losing my mind or something like that. I just wonder if being in a relationship is for everyone. Tried it multiple times. And looking back, it was always a kind of feeling of having to fulfill someone elses expectations. It shouldn't feel like that, right?

>>33805574
You can get used to it, even normalfags like OP eventually will do it.

>>33805597
>>33805647
You'll die like 20 years earlier on average.

>>33805659
No you wont.

>>33805563 (OP)
its gonna be harder cuz ur a fakecel lol. u at least had a chance and you fucked it up xDD. its only gets worse, fgt.

>>33805780
>ur a fakecel lol
I don't buy those incel bullshit theories. It's a poor excuse for being a shitty human being. Elliot could have gotten laid if he hadn't acted like such a entitled asshat.

We were talking about getting used to being alone.

>>33805563 (OP)
Most need social interaction, even if it's not sex. I'm more used to be alone, but I feel much better if I have a pleasant social interaction with someone. It's doable without having a gf, but not without any friends at all.

>>33805647
This is cope

>>33805891
Cope how? You just get used to things, even shitty ones

>>33805563 (OP)
No, it gets harder. I'm six years into it as well and ready to date again, but I'm scared to put myself back out there because my last relationship was such a shitshow.

We're social animals, OP. This is no way to live your whole life.

>>33805886
>It's doable without having a gf, but not without any friends at all.
Agreed. One must have some frens. I have two. See them 2/3 times a year. It's just enough to keep me sane

>>33805563 (OP)
I was alone from the ages 8 to 32 and yes you get very used to it. Normal. But once you get used to people the loneliness hits 20x worse. It's a sort of thing you have to start with, not retreat into.

I love it more every day. I’m never going back. I have more fun alone than I ever did in relationships

>>33805563 (OP)
I’m 35, virgin. It’s all I know. Isolation is easy. I’ve never had a gf, but when I observe my friends it seems so challenging to live with a woman. Even if a woman showed interest in me I don’t think I would be capable to live with one.

I will die alone and I accept it

>>33807411
>it seems so challenging to live with a woman.
I know right. Discussions about everything. Even if the woman is sweet, considerate and all kinds of positive things, I like that moment in the morning when I drink my coffee all alone in peace. No talking.

>>33807398
I feel like this sometimes but wish I had people to talk to more often than I do currently, but I am attempting to expand my social network. Geography is huge in networking though, and people cancel a lot otherwise.

>>33807417
acceptance is key to peace. I accepted that I’ll never know sex and love. I know 100% I will die in an empty household. But it is ok, I accept it now. I used to be extremely depressed about it, I had chronic stress. It caused me to have heart problems in my early 30s. Chronic stress is bad for your arteries, even if you’re a fit person. Once I came to acceptance that I will live alone. I started to feel a lot better

>>33807398
Do you still have sex?

>>33805563 (OP)
Stopped dating 10 years ago and I live alone in the forest now, slowly abandoning my residual relationships 1 by 1. Never been happier, personally. It's really a choice between selling your soul to fit in, or keeping it intact by isolating yourself from the beast system. The guilty conscience from selling out is worse than the loneliness in my view. YRMV

>>33805563 (OP)
There are like 10 men lining up for every mid white girl both in real life and online. You are fighting for scraps, as all the good stock is taken in high school and college the latest.
If you go out in 2025, you will see 3/10s acting like 7/10s.
Every year they are importing tens of millions of males who are bringing wages down and making housing more expensive, all the while the upper class gets richer from these schemes.

>>33805563 (OP)
It depends on the person. I've been single for 18 years. Mainly because the only girl I dated was set up for me by a mutual friend and it never got really serious between us. We dated for under a year and it was almost completely online. We only met up IRL 3 years after I dumped her, realizing we weren't in a position to get serious. No drama and nothing traumatic happened. I'm surely a rare case, but I am the sort who enjoyed isolation during Covid. I was glad I couldn't go places. I started wanting to date again a couple times. The first time I wanted to was 10 years after my break up and that's when Covid started. Now I'm in my 30s and when I think about it, I realize that with what a relationship could bring me vs. all the things that could go wrong, I'd rather stay single and have my peace. I never even had any serious relationship issue. It's just I know about that stuff 2nd hand and I'm not good at dealing with conflict.

>>33805597

>>33805597
It shouldn't be about meeting someone elses expectations. You should try to find out what the expectations are. That's what a first and second date are for. However, if you find out that you'd need to be someone else other than yourself in order to become their person, the relationship isn't meant to be. A comfortable long term relationship has both people accept each other for who they are without trying to nag them to change anything.

>>33805574
No it‘s not. Read c.g. Jung

>>33805857
don't listen to him, he's some german faggot based on the xDD
or some sort of slavshit

I've never had a single friend in my entire life and I fully intend to keep it that way for the rest of my life. There are no friends in this world. All relationships form the way that they do based on power dynamics. All relationships are purely transactional. Anyone who you think is your friend will turn on you in a heartbeat once you are no longer of use to them.

The sooner you learn this, the better.

There is no such thing as good people, OP. All human beings are profoundly rotten to the core.

>>33808903
>No it‘s not. Read c.g. Jung
Did you read him? Did you understand him?

>>33811014
I'm going to sound like a normie, but I respectfully disagree. I have a friend I have known for 20 years. Someone who has always been here for me. If I would call him at 4 AM he would pick up his phone. He never hurt me, never used me, or had some ulterior motive.

He's my best friend.

Yeah, there are a lot of shitty people. A lot. But keep searching for the good ones, I would say.

They are out there.

>>33805563 (OP)
can you afford escorts?
try not to kill any of them unless you're gay

>>33805659
Truth? That would be a blessing.

Being alone is obviously not good anon.
You have to put yourself in a social group that meets regularly. Join a book club, find events at your local book stores and libraries. If you go to the gym, that is not a good place to make friends and hit on women people are there to get their workout finished; unless you are doing a class like cycling or whatever other stuff they got going on then yeah it can be social.

If you don't put yourself in regularly occurring situations (weekly / biweekly / monthly) you are not going to meet a people and get a girlfriend. Not socializing makes your social skills dog shit (brain melting finding i know).

i just banned from the libraries for 2 years

>>33808805
>Every year they are importing tens of millions of males
Uncomfortable fact is this is one of the main reasons 10 men line up for every mid white woman. Foreigners are invading and fucking our women while taking our jobs. We need to deport all of them legal and illegal alike. Everything comes back to this point that more non-whites need to be sent to El Salvador prisons until prospects for the white man improve.

>>33805563 (OP)
Yes if you have autism since you're immune to human social hierarchy, no if you're normal brain, your brain will shut down without social hierarchy.

>>33805563 (OP)
As for me, there is no biological mechanism by which I could give a shit about being outside your hierarchies. So no, it doesn't get easier, because it started 0 difficulty and thus can't possibly get easier.

I'm on the other side of the spectrum. My gf left me a week ago and I'm anxious alone in my house, I'm always wanting to be with friends and doing things. I wish I could spend time alone without anxiety or feeling like I'm wasting time

>>33813096
How can your brain shutdown?

>>33805563 (OP)
You'll never be content with it, but you can be "used to it" being your daily life, hell once you're truly isolated it's hard to go back to normal.

>>33813356
Remember how normalfags were freaking out when lockdowns were a thing? they had to live how autists live for a few months and it made their brain go apeshit, it ruined zoomers as a generation because normalfags cannot live like how autists do.