Thread 33840333

25 year old virgin. I feel like the insecurity of being a virgin is stopping me from pursuing a relationship. I’ve tried the whole “it’ll happen when it happens” shtick but it’s never happened for me. Idk why, I can make female friends who I love wholeheartedly but just can’t get a girlfriend for whatever reason.

Anyone have experience going this route or should I keep believing in the fairytale “lose it to someone I love”. It doesn’t have to be an escort, maybe I can go to /soc/ or one of those kink forums for meeting up with people.

just man up and suffer through your virginity. a lot of us here are 30+ year old virgins. you'll live. i still have hope that i'll find my first girlfriend at 36, and i certainly wouldn't hire a WHORE to get STDs from.

what exactly are you fearing? stop being insecure, a lot of men deal with this problem, it won't kill you

>>33840333 (OP)
Do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, “The two shall be one flesh.”
1 Corinthians 6:16

>>33840491
Christian women are the biggest whores because the church doesn’t police them.

>>33840333 (OP)
Paying for a whore is more shameful than being a virgin.

.t 38 year old virgin

>>33840333 (OP)
I did, and I regret the fuck out of it.

>>33840522
There is nothing shameful with going to a prostitute.

>>33840333 (OP)
I did, and have never regretted it.

>>33840588
Yes there is. It’s dirty, at least as a virgin you’re still pure. Paying for sex with a whore is disgusting

>>33840594
Sex with a hot girl is disgusting to you because you are gay.

>>33840668
Sinner

>>33840333 (OP)
I've lost my virginity to a thot I picked up from a bar.
It was a very subpar experience. I can't imagine paying for it.

Unironically if there's no connection there you'll have a better time jacking off.
Also PSA, blowjobs are far better than sex.

>>33840333 (OP)
I lost my virginity and 22 and proceeded to not have sex again until I was 26. Like you OP I thought it was gonna be some big moment and that things will be different now. Turns out the problem wasn't that I had never felt a vagina, the problem was that I was a pussy. You have to make the moves OP, a woman will not simply jump on your dick. You either start making things happen or nothing will.

It's time to get uncomfortable and try new things. Don't pay for sex but do not put so much importance on it. I lost mine to some girl from the club and have no regrets. I didn't have to pay for it and the sex was gonna be bad either way so who gives a fuck. The importance you place on sex isn't the act itself, it's the validation you get from having a woman want to fuck you. Paying for it will only make your feelings worse.

>>33840333 (OP)
>Should I lose my virginity to an escort?
No
>Should I lose my virginity to two escorts?
Yes
Go big or go home, nigga.
>t. 27 year old virgin by choice

I lost my virginity to a whore at 26. Why? Because im autistic and ugly ,and don’t forget short. So I got some cash and fucked this dirty Latina MILF whore with a condom , (smelled like fish) and she sucked me off bareback. Was it stupid ? Yes. Did I get a UTI? Yes. Did I develop a massive addiction after the fact for the month? Yes, I even got attached to one whore and she got creeped out by my schizo/autism tendencies . I fucked a lot whores that month ranging from Japanese young SLUTS, to Brazilian milf bimbos, different races all the races. I also blacked out off of a ton of Xanax and alcohol. Needless to say I almost died and blew 15k in month. Not going to lie , if you can find some good clean whores and don’t get attached it’s fun. They will “take care” of you, mind you it’s a job for them, but sometimes they have fun with it if you’re not being a depressed loser in the moment, and HAVE good hygiene. These whores can actually be really clean (hygienic) 95% of the time l. I don’t regret it any of it , I only regret not having more money to waste. As for the STD scare I got tested and it’s good i guess doctor told me it was a UTI that did pass eventually. Um maybe don’t do what I did … and try tinder

>>33840594
With that cope, you're not going to go anywhere. Theres nothing "pure" about having failed a basic developement task.
It can happen, but its your responsibility to fix whatever went wrong and correct the error, gloryfying your state with pseudeo religious weirdo beliefs is not going to help you in any way whatsoever.

>>33840333 (OP)
pussy should be 0 dollars
no exceptions
you are a simp if you pay for it

>>33840333 (OP)
>I feel like the insecurity of being a virgin is stopping me from pursuing a relationship.
This is so fuckin pants-on-head backwards

no one fuckin know you're a virgin on your dating profile or when you're walking around being a guy on the street, no one knows you're a virgin when you're going on dates. even having sex it may not even be obvious that you're a virgin, my first time I told the girl after the fact and she was like "huh, could've fooled me"

and buying sex from hookers will translate to 0 real life skills or knowledge or confidence with real women. hookers only leads to more hookers.

>I’ve tried the whole “it’ll happen when it happens” shtick but it’s never happened for me. Idk why, I can make female friends who I love wholeheartedly but just can’t get a girlfriend for whatever reason.
The whatever reason sounds like what you said just there where "it'll happen when it happens" sounds like you just waited around waiting for a girlfriend to materialize in front of you without actually making anything happen or put anything in motion.

>>33840333 (OP)
Even if you have sex with a escort you're still spiritually a virgin, and a tainted virgin at that

>>33840333 (OP)
do it
I lost my virginity at 12 but then life happened, bullying happened and teenage years were not kind to me so I was shy and insecure and by the time I was 21 I hadn't had sex at all again after that torrid period of my 12s.
I said fuck it and went to a brothel, I had a bad time but I demystified sex again for me and went again and had a good time. for a couple of years escorts and prostitutes from brothels were my main source of sex.
by the time I got a gf at 25 I was ready to have sex and I even applied a trick or two I learned with her.
I mean it's not ideal I guess and nowadays I'm having all the sex I couldn't when I was younger
but the option was staying a virgin until 25 and who knows if I could have gotten that gf at 25 if I was still shy and insecure by then, at least about sex.

>>33840333 (OP)
Yes go for it. I was like you failing at dating and getting friendzoned left and right.
Lost it at 27 and wish I did earlier. Got more confident and motivated of 1 year of whore mongering then got my first one night stand with a cute 20 year old blonde co worker .
I was so nervous my first time I was shaking and teeth chattering when I gave the how the money
She was really nice . She told me to be more assertive as a take it or leave it on pursing relationship then being a beta chump

>>33840522
We all pay in some form. If women find it empowering to be slurs. May as well be a John .
Unless you live in some religious arrange marriage culture it is not feasible.
You should try sex at least once before yours 40
It’s ok not everyone gets love and relationships
>>33840525
Go on.>>33844082
Hell at least he’ll get experience, women hate virgins . After a certain age he may as well lose it because it’s unlikely he’ll find a female virgin that wants him especially as he ages .

Do what you want, whores are for you - for your pleasure.
Your sexual life is your personal business, you don't need it dissected and validated by social justice warriors. Women who would hate you for it would most likely never want to fuck you anyway even if you remained virgin. No one really cares about your issues as a man, no one cares about systemic discrimination like in marriage law or war or in taxes, and you can be sure that women care the least about it

>>33840333 (OP)
Are you sure the knowledge that you paid for your first sex is not gonna hurt you in the long run?

Also, what is up with those female friends "you love wholeheartedly"? Seems pretty sketchy to me. Like, if you have the social skills required to make many great female friends, how is it that you never had even a one night stand? Seems to me like you are hiding or missing something.

>>33840333 (OP)
Anon, dont you know some fat or ugly girls? Its doesnt necessarily have to be a whore

>>33841193
holy larp kek
only 4chan niggas can lie about fucking whores and still come across as larger losers

>>33840333 (OP)
Just fucking do it.

Either way, you'll still be a loser afterwards.

Being a virgin doesn't matter really matter, you have problems in life because of low testosterone and being a beta fag, but getting pussy won't solve that. Might help temporarily, but you'll be back to being a loser fag a few days after the post nut clarity.

>>33844197
>You should try sex at least once before yours 40
I’m not paying for a prostitute. That is lowly and pathetic.

>>33845229
It's neither lowly nor pathetic. Many of the men who occasionally go for prostitutes are normal, successful men.

>>33845471
They are coomer trash behind closed doors and cheat on their wife

>>33845007
They’re female friends because I like them but can’t see them as relationship material (like being too fat, not very smart, or too young)

I lost my virginity to an escort. It really didn't change anything aside from my V-card being gone (though admittedly that was a huge weight off my shoulders). I've still never had a girlfriend and I visit escorts 3-4 times a year for sex.

Most people don't list the downsides of it but I will: First and foremost, the stigma against paying for sex means you'll have to keep it a secret.

After a while you WILL catch an STI. I've gotten gonorrhea and chlamydia multiple times from giving/receiving oral and from condomless sex.

I admit I'm a dirtbag that loves giving creampies to hot babes so any time I'm offered condomless sex (usually by an escort I'm a regular customer of) I don't say no. I know I really shouldn't and I'd advise against it.

Never bring an escort back to your place. The one time I did, she stole stuff afterwards while I was in the bathroom cleaning up and I only noticed long after she was gone. Always go to a motel or other neutral area.

There's a chance you'll be secretly filmed and the video will be uploaded to porn sites. I've found one video of myself and an escort on literally pornhub with a completely mislabelled summary saying we were college students, and there might be more videos elsewhere.