Does any anons have experienced with polygyny?

I have tried to gather information regarding polygyny, but most materials seems to be of Muslim origins or studies on the Amish people.

I discussed the idea with my GF and after some time, she agreed to it and found it superior to common monogamy or polyandry.

The primary logic evolved around economic stability and pregnancy. Since each part will have an income, it will be collectively shared, decreasing the chance of any economic issues.

Since one male can impregnate several females, this also leaves a greater safety net for child sharing and caring, build upon the idea of helping eachother.

Main issues/conflicts seems to arrive from unfairness, jealousy, lack of leadership and limiting growth. Successfully solving these problems would enable the relationship to flourish (assumably). But it is highly depending on the personality type of the females.

I have a lot of notes. But have no one to discuss it with. One friend told me it could be seen as unethical for my GF, since we have been together for five years and it is only recently I came up with it to her, which I agree with.

It seems silly polyandry is seen as empowering in western culture, while polygyny is mostly seen as limited patriarchy.

I find the Islamic way retarded, since it evolves around devolving females and beating them. Compared to evolving (making them competent) and teach them to discuss internal matters together. A lot of females lack basic principles, which can be taught, giving them a sense of real unity and growth based on a evolved (or modern) form of polygyny. It seems utterly useless to limit it when certain female personalities have a good affinity for developing something outside the cultural and societal accepted doctrine, each unit have to follow (like a dogma)

share all your notes OP. what are you thoughts of dealing with the cultural shunning?

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>>936014634
I have openly said it to family, friends and colleagues. Most found it obvious I had that idea and have never felt any kind of shunning regarding it. I highly doubt anyone would give two shits about it in Denmark.

One of my closest friends showed some concern. He argued that the return of it was probably not worth it, since it could require a lot of work, while also saying even through my current gf agrees with me now. Then her attitude could quickly change when confronted with it directly. That is why she will control the scenarios and I will not attempt to persuade her, if she in any way will be uncomfortable.

But it is indeed a balancing act. Creating this kind of subculture in a culture with strong feminist ideals could be challenging. I see no problem from my perspective nor life, but it could pose a challenge for my gfs and their social sphere.

That is why the most important attribute in these types of exchange comes from a diplomatic and knowledge-based system. Albeit, supported by hierarchy, which gives the females a supportive and fair figure. That figure also needs to be dominant if needed and have high problem-solving abilities (obviously).

I also believe a lot of males would love the idea. But lacks the skills to do it or can barely handle a single female.

I've seen many situations like these (no clue why, it just keeps popping up in close circles) and my honest opinion is that it's not a good idea, because someone always ends up getting hurt sooner or later (even if they were originally into it), and naturally it will have a huge impact on any offspring coming from the ordeal . If you don't care about that and only care about your own pleasures that ofc doesn't make a difference, but you seem interested in the ethics behind it. Ethically there is no need for poly-anything in western society, so imo it does more damage than good.

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The potential impact on children seems to be biggest problem if conflicts arises. I am in no way naive enough to believe it wouldn't happen to me. But the same could be said about common monogamy and those children do not get spared either, but the dynamics in monogamy and polygyny cannot be compared. Hard to draw parallel lines between those two, since they are made up of different mentalities.

I do have a hard time arguing with myself regarding the ethics. On the one hand, there is a lot of positives in those relations (collectively positives), but on the other hand, there's also great negatives (individualistic negatives), mainly for females.

Firstly, there's this moral, cultural agenda which I am doctrinated to believe in. But I have to remove that from my mind, since it is too complex to judge. I prefer to navigate in what I know to be true.

Examples for polygyny (These are sterile examples based on no conflict):
- Great economic benefit with polygyny in a western society (Bank loans, greater sharing of resources, etc.)
- Greater safety net for individuals, e.g. against sickness or having someone to trust or recieve help from.
- A more varied upbringing for children based on having a higher amount of people in their life with different backgrounds and perspectives.
- A greater capacity to produce children, including supporting them. A single western females would have a hard time, since they also needs to get an education, job, family, friends and so on. Generally be allowed to grow in other areas than being pregnant.

Opposites:
- Extreme increase in the chance of jealously, misunderstandings and competition between females. This could influence the children.
- Potential for cultural conflicts if interacting with common western culture. This could be a stress factor for females, especially from their family and friends.
- If seen from a pure scope of equality, then polygyny can never be seen as ethical.

I forgot to thank you for your perspective. It is hard to find someone with any experience from a non-muslim background.

I cannot deny that my thinking is influenced by personal greed and lust, but it would be unfair to judge purely based on equality. For example, if there were a gender imbalance in the population during wartime, it would be devastating if polygyny were not allowed based on equality. These women shouldn't die alone, but that's irrelevant to my point; I'm just presenting a "fair" case.

However, there's another issue in Western society: the inactivity of men and the eugenics-reinforcing behavior of women. Again, I don't know enough about it, and I believe it's too complex to judge based on a few parameters.

The situation isn't as extreme as it is in wartime scenarios. However, it has produced many confused men and women who cannot effectively engage with each other. Personally, I see sperm banks as unethical and as a symptom of anything but medical necessity.

Ultimately, I believe many of these women would rather engage in polygyny than start a family with a "lesser" man. By "lesser," I mean a man that the female brain automatically filters out—they deem what is lesser. In purely equal terms, it would be better for a woman to start a family with a lesser man, but that could also be seen as unrealistic. Therefore, the result will be either no children or a sperm bank. There aren't enough high-quality men in Western society.

I also wish to start a large family, but I can't think of a way to achieve that and be equal. Ultimately, everything we do is based on egoistical principles, but not everything is egotiscal.

>>936014298 (OP)
> I discussed the idea with my GF and after some time, she agreed to it and found it superior to common monogamy or polyandry.

This is a unique larp ill give you that.

Think you can keep up with someone as fiery as me? emaquiie

>>936017544
No bots, trannys or coconut-brained decepticons

>>936017204
My mother lives in an arranged marriage (Muslim) since she was 15 and I asked her if she ever had any interest in having a second wife.

>>936019314
just talk to her, not everything in life need statistics and science

On average, women have about as many girls as they do boys. What do you do with the excess males? Cast them out of the group? There is a reason monogamy exists across cultures: it’s the most pragmatic solution.