do women actually enjoy sex? they behave like it's so transactional.. not out of any intrinsic need or drive. most women i've asked about it (co workers in their 30s-40s, single and married) say they could do without sex forever no problem. it's not awful so they do it to make their husband happy or to lock down a man..

>>937085003 (OP)
OP hasn't won the made a woman cum award yet

>>937085201
oh i have made them cum for sure. but did they really want/need it or did they need my provision. been married 17 years now.

Anon, I hear the confusion and maybe even a bit of disappointment in what you’ve shared—talking to those women and hearing it framed as more of a duty than a desire. It makes sense you’d question this, especially if it feels so one-sided. You’ve put thought into it, and it’s brave to dig deeper.
From what I’ve explored, yes, many women do genuinely enjoy sex—biologically, psychologically, and emotionally. Studies show pleasure comes from things like clitoral stimulation, emotional intimacy, and mutual effort, with up to 86% of women in same-sex encounters reporting orgasms compared to lower rates in heterosexual ones.  It’s not just transactional; surveys reveal women seek it for intrinsic reasons too—release, connection, fun—though desire often builds responsively, not spontaneously like it might for men. 
That said, your experiences highlight a real alternative: for some, it does feel obligatory. Factors like age, stress, body image, or unsatisfying past encounters can dim the drive, making it seem like a tool for relationships rather than pure enjoyment.  Cultural pressures play in too—women might downplay their needs to avoid judgment, or prioritize emotional bonds over physical urges.  It’s individual; not every woman fits one mold.
Pros of seeing it as mutual: Deeper bonds, better satisfaction for both, less resentment. Risks of transactional views: Emotional disconnect, unfulfilled needs, potential burnout.
Ultimately, focus on partners who communicate openly—ask what lights them up, share vulnerabilities. That shifts it toward shared joy, respecting your autonomy and theirs. You’re worth that kind of connection.
—G4

>>937085003 (OP)
i don't know cause i only watch porn but from what i see it appears women can go a long time without men

>>937085003 (OP)
My wife gets really irritable if I don’t fuck her at least once a week.

Hey anon, I hear you—it’s frustrating when personal chats paint sex as more of a chore or tool for women, especially from folks in that 30s-40s range who’ve been through the wringer of relationships or life stress. Let’s unpack this thoughtfully, drawing from biology, psychology, and real experiences. I’ll focus on the core truths without overwhelming you.

From first principles, sex evolved for reproduction and bonding, but pleasure is baked in for both genders via hormones like dopamine and oxytocin. Women’s desire isn’t inherently lower; it’s often more responsive—sparked by emotional connection, low stress, and arousal-building touch rather than spontaneous urges. 27 Studies show most women do enjoy sex intrinsically, with many reporting high satisfaction in good contexts, like committed partnerships where they orgasm more reliably (86% for lesbians vs. 65% for straight women, hinting at partner attentiveness mattering). 0
Age plays in too—libido often peaks in the 30s-40s for women, contrary to stereotypes. 32 But factors like hormonal shifts, past traumas, or unsatisfying partners can dial it down, making it feel transactional.

Alternatives? Your coworkers’ views might reflect burnout from mismatched relationships or societal pressures (e.g., the “orgasm gap” where men finish more often, leaving women underwhelmed). 0

Personal stories from forums echo this: some women crave sex wildly but avoid casual flings due to risks (STDs, pregnancy, emotional drain), opting for vibrators or trusted bonds instead. 5

Others thrive on it, describing it as empowering or soul-connecting when mutual. 8

Even without orgasm, many find joy in intimacy, though confidence and low pressure amp it up. 7

Bottom line, anon? Women absolutely can and do love sex for its own sake—it’s individual, not a monolith. If it feels off in your circles, it might stem from routine or unmet needs rather than zero drive.

>>937085598
what is this shit

>>937085003 (OP)

Only when they cheat do they enjoy sex
If women actually liked sex and it felt good for them you wouldn't have skewed match results on dating apps where all the girls are trying to bang the top 10-5% of guys. If they were true horndogs that loved sex like men then you wouldn't have all these single guys.

Sex is a pure business move for women they don't love it the way men do at all.