Has anyone ever successfully gotten back with their ex? Years after?

>>938115891 (OP)
I dated a girl like 5 years ago. She sent a text back in April. I left her on read for a few days until she finally texted a second time. By then I had already reached out to a mutual friend of ours to get the real story. Still living with my parents while I worked full time and went to school made me a "loser". So much so that it was the main reason the relationship ended. But our friend informed me that the ex had completely failed professionally, gotten evicted from a shit apartment, and was forced to move back in with her mom. So I simply texted back "I don't date losers that live with their parents." Never, ever, go backwards, anons.

>>938116792
I have a very similar situation anon. I stopped seeing this girl in 2020, we were both doing a lot of hard drugs though. I got clean soon after. She sent me an email in March saying she was in a program to get clean and reaching out to the people she's hurt was part of it. We reconnected and shortly met up again, first time meeting back I stayed the night with her. We both also have mental problem, but her's are much worse. I haven't seen her since April

>>938117320
I've been talking to her every day since she emailed me though. I'm not sure its been worth it. It's been weird since the beginning. She has swings of saying she loves me and only thinks of me, to going most of the day without saying anything. She has some kind of discord 'bar' that people hang out in but I'm not allowed to know anything about it

Today I told her I wasn't able to pay for her therapy sessions and she told me she needed a few days for her mental health.

Does anyone here actually talk to their partner about problems? Does that ever work? Are some people unreachable?

>>938117536
Put on your running shoes and get fucking GONE.

I had an ex-gf reappear. She was needy, destitute even though she was working (barely holding her floral job down despite immense talent at it), drinking again.

The sex was awesome. She was fine part of the day. And then she accused me of choking her and I went to jail and spent $3,000 to a bondsman and $20,000 to a lawyer. I spent the next two years wondering when the hammer would drop.

It took months after I finally got indicted to piece together that she made the same allegations against other people, some of whom went to jail.

Case broke when I learned she was arrested for assaulting a family member. She called the police, saying she had been assaulted and choked, but she went to jail because she's a deranged liar.

I'm just telling you that I see red flags in your girl. She's being cagey, siloing information, asking you for money and punishing you when you don't pay.

RUN, ANON, RUN.

>>938115891 (OP)
yes, in a cuckold setup, which works for us. we broke up because i'm bad in bed, and barely last, while she has an extreme sexual appetite. we got a bit drunk together, admitted that we both still loved each other, but the sex situation was the deal breaker. i brought up trying again, but i would let her see other guys sexually. worked out great. basically, she'll fuck guys multiple times a week, but when i want sex, it's just us, even if it only lasts a minute. the best part about it is even if she's gonna have a guy over to fuck, i can fuck her and finish way before he even gets here. seeing her with big black guys has actually improved my sexual appetite too. i'll watch them with her, or listen and jerk a bit, and now i fuck her once a week instead of once a month. i know this is really, really weird for 99% of people, but it works great for us. our second chance has lasted longer than our first already.

>>938118280
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA YOU FUCKING LOSER

How come nobody likes Saba?

>>938118280
Thanks anon, but after we split up I let her stay at an apartment I had a month left on lease while I moved across state for work. I came back as a surprise and there were two old guys in my backyard that I didn't know. So I want to kill myself when I think about someone I'm with fucking other people. Good on you tho man

I'm probably going to follow >>938118152 's advice and let the few days mental break be the last of it. I think I really love her but I have problems respecting myself, so I let people take advantage. It gets old though

>>938118516
I don't dislike her, but I never really got gura appeal either. I would probably be called a poser by most vtuber fans though, I don't watch any of them stream

>>938118762
watching vtubers is like playing gacha

>>938118516
I hate her retarded fish tail so much

>>938115891 (OP)
Only for sex. That is the way

>>938118888
This is what we had going at first, but I told her I loved her when she told me she was going to kill herself on the train tracks

Marine sucks!

>>938118618
I should be clear that this woman was in and out of my life for a while. She'd stay with me, I'd get annoyed and tell her to go elsewhere. She'd been staying with me for a couple months when she turned on me, like the flick of a switch.

I wish you the best, anon.

>>938119178
I've been posting her because my girl has the same colored hair. She's ok. Who do you like instead?

>>938119178
proof?

>>938119346

>>938119534
doesn't seem like it

Thanks all anons, I was going to try to bust a nut to feel better but I gave up. I may keep posting or I may let the thread die

>>938119640
sorry looking at thumbnails. here's a double

fuck I almost reached for my phone to say goodnight. it might be too late for me

>>938118888
agreed. only consider being seriously involved if enough time has past since yall broke up. anything less than (at bare minimum) a year, isn't worth going back for.

people don't change that much in just a couple of months.

take it from me. me and my ex had been together for almost two years when she decided to break up. however, she came back after a month, in which we decided to give it another shot.
we only lasted about another month after that.

then, we were 7months apart. she appeared once again, stating she deeply regretted breaking up.

i decided to give another shot, convincing myself that maybe it would be different this time as we were some time apart.

well, to the shock of no one, we didn't last very long either after that either. the problems that were there before, were still there. on top of that, this time she betrayed my trust and made me a fool, so this time i was the one to break things up.

reconciliation sex is amazing. but leave it just at the physical level if you feel she hasn't changed, or if she came back too quickly.

>>938120245
wise words anon. what if it feels like she's changed but its a different set of problems this time? is it just sunk cost fallacy?

I also don't think I could be ok with just sex with someone. I've definately done that, but I get weird about sharing

>>938120573
>but its a different set of problems this time?
depends how different they are from the ones before. we all have problems (sure, some harder than others), but it's our duty to face them without using it as an excuse to lash out on the ones you love.

traumas don't justify shitty behavior.

>I get weird about sharing

understandable. you can keep it on a surface level. you can come to a mutual agreement that you're both just fucking, and if either develop feelings for someone else or decides they had enough, then each go separate ways.

>>938120573
Yeah, it can be done

>>938121137
very good points. I have my share of troubles but because of that I don't want anyone else to have them

>>938121242
don't give me hope anon. I want it to work. How long do you love someone who doesn't love you the same back?

>>938120245
Maybe it’s worth another shot? People change, you never know

>>938122106
some people change, some people don't. How similar are you to your 17 year old self? 23? 30? How different are you?

>>938115891 (OP)
Not as a gamer, but as a human I know it's possible

I've never had an ex because I never had a gf

>>938122922
your words give hope gamer

>>938123080
its possible if you aren't a disgusting internet freak. you can do it anon

>>938122339
I was trying to be funny

>>938124758
better luck next year