How do people establish romantic relationships? I don't understand. Feels so unachievable to me. I know how to build a career and earn alot of money, how to get fit or learn a foreign language, but getting a girlfriend is an unknown concept. I wouldn't care if I wasn't getting older (turn 33 after tomorrow).

There is a couple of places I get out regularly, but no success so far (more than a year of trying to find someone). Only one girl appeared in my circle and she didn't like me despite all my efforts and courtship. And I thought I was a good bf material. After her, no girl appeared in my life so far. Afraid I will die alone. I want alot of kids and also want to experience life with a woman, like people in their 20s do. I guess only younger girl in her early to mid 20s will suffice, but I doubt many of them would like to date an old dude. Feel like a creep even looking at them.

Hate my life and decisions I made which led me to this situation. Can't even experience joy in things I like.

>>22844118 (OP)
don't get preyed upon by some BPD woman

you might feel eager to get into the most satisfying relationship possible as fast as possible, but this often leads to abusive dynamics
if you feel like you can't have any self esteem without being in a relationship, you run the risk of abusive dynamics as well

>>22844131

I'm a virgin at almost 33. I wanted to have a relationship for like 16 of them, yet was unable to for plenty of reasons, huge part of which are introversion, isolation in school, lack of girls in my uni, later family responsibilities. Was able to get out of this circle at 31 and a half years of age. Year and a half later and I'm srill there.

>>22844459
i think you should try to find a social circle you feel happy around, before looking for a romantic relationship

it's not supposed to feel like people are sapping you of your energy
i'm glad you got out of that circle eventually
just know you can find people who don't do that sort of thing