>be me, an engineering undergrad
>from a third world country
>lower middle class
>5/10 at best
>will turn 20 next week
>half assed everything since birth and never did anything significant
>missing classes regularly just because i'm too lazy to get up
>chronically online these days, feel like doing nothing. cant even get myself to watch films(the only thing that i loved doing) . realize ive been cucked by short media content so hard
>days just go on and on and nothing seems to happen
>look up some self help video, nothing happens

i dont want to live like this. ive lost some of my best days of my life doing ABSOLUTELY nothing but staring at my phone and scrolling endlessly.

i wanna get out of this shithole mindset. ive had enough. i dont wanna use my phone for 12 hours a day every fucking day of the week. i want to live life again. how will i achieve this? i need serious help.

>>22912180 (OP)
Replace your phone with a flip phone. Or use the health and well being settings to limit and track time spent on apps. Things like tik tok and YouTube shorts are designed to keep you scrolling for hours on end. Put the phone down put a rubber band on your wrist and snap yourself with the rubber band every time you reach for the phone.

4chan is not where you should ask advice for

>>22912180 (OP)
You have to go cold turkey on the short form media. Watch absolutely none of it. It adds nothing to your life. Do the rubber band thing for everytime you get the impulse to watch one. Uninstall tiktok and even YouTube if your phone allows you to.

>>22912188
while phone is the major problem, i feel like me not having any ambitions anymore is worse. its killing me from inside.

>>22912215
What ambitions did you have before? Have you abandoned them?

>>22912215
people try to feel happy/motivated, and THEN do things, but alot of the time it's the other way around
you do things, and then you become happy/motivated
maybe take martial arts classes or something, it seems to work for many people

motivation/ambition will come once you've started doing enough active & engaging shit

>>22912215
The problem is you aren't bored enough. If you do what I said and can really keep yourself away from the phone, eventually you'll get so bored that you start doing homework or chores.

It's all about dopamine. Short form content provides instant gratification while completing longer tasks like homework or chores give a delayed sense of gratification. You need to retrain your mind to enjoy doing regular stuff again. The ambition comes back after you stop being addicted to digital crack.

>>22912229
i was always interested in robotics or atleast building stuff let it be any minor thing. i didnt have the exposure back then but now i do and im not able to do shit. the thing that scares me the most is that i'll ruin my 20s too this way. i dont wanna be mediocre

>>22912259
>i'll ruin my 20s too this way. i dont wanna be mediocre
>will turn 20 next week
Even if I understand your fear, don't be that worried. You are way too far from ruining your 20's, in fact, you have the time and prior knowledge to enjoy and use your youth properly
What is that knowledge I'm talking about? Well, that "self-awareness" you're talking about. You know that what you're doing is bad for your goals and life, and with that you already took an important step on overcoming the problem
As someone who has been chronically online these last weeks too, I can sure you that your best bet is to get bored of Internet. Specifically get bored of TikTok and Youtube. Even if I've never used TikTok, when I watch videos on Youtube I know that eventually the algorithm won't have anything to recommend me to keeping me chained watching videos. But why should we wait? Just get rid of that shitty social media, and do other stuff. Take a walk; read a book; study for your next semester. It's on your hands, Anon. Best wishes!