Pedophilic? Or completely and morally ok? Started seeing this girl recently and had a friend tell me its borderline pedophilia cause shes barely 19 but it just sounds like gay, virtue signaling, holier than thou bull shit to me. Since when is it pedophilia to date an adult woman?

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>>22918263 (OP)
Legally you are doing nothing wrong. Morally, well, it will depend on who you're talking about. Because even if she's an adult, it could seem like you are taking advantage of her or something like that
I won't judge you, so do whatever you want. But I would personally rather to be with someone close to my age

>>22918263 (OP)
Hesiod said men should marry at 30 give or take a few years, and they should marry a woman who is five years a woman (I.e. five years since her first period) and a virgin. Hesiod was one of the founders of Ancient Greek philosophy and morality and is a good representation of Greek thought at the time. Plato and Socrates drew from his works and days. The Greeks of course went on with these foundations to build one of the most proliferated societies in history, establishing the basis of our philosophical, artistic, political, mathematic, and scientific values which we still carry today. All of this is to say that a 27 year old marrying a 19 year old is not only normal and healthy, it’s what was deemed the optimal scenario by some of the wisest minds in history, and has been the standard for thousands of years.

>>22918288
...how would it be taking advantage, though?
unless, women as adults, are not equal to men as adults.
remember, we're not talking a 30 year age gap here.

>>22918263 (OP)
She's 19 dude. Believe it or not but women have agency. They can make their own decisions. That's what they tell me anyways.

Like 90% of college students are female right now, right around that age. At the same time they apparently aren't capable of making their own decisions, and aren't smart enough to see that they are being taken advantage of (whatever that even means). So they need to be protected from themselves basically.

Why are they allowed to vote again?

>>22918381
it's more an issue of leverage in a relationship as a function of societal status/purchasing power
Bitch can't even buy her own beer, doesn't have a good paying job, is probably staring down opening up untold amounts in student loans for college, doesn't have her own house, etc.

>>22918408
if nobody has a good paying job and can't buy things that everyone else can as legal adults, shouldn't that be the thing we try to change instead of protecting muh wamenz?

>>22918381
I'm just using the same mindset that many people has. In defense of that mindset, if we consider how immature and childish some people are even when they reach adulthood, then a young adult would be exposed to be "used" by older adults, even if it's, for instance, an age gap of 5 years. Sometimes younger adults get involved with older adults, and even if it's, let's say, 18yo with 27yo, in general the one with 27yo has lived and went through way more things, and most likely has more knowledge than the one with 18yo. Of course, not everyone is a fucking psycho who wants to ruin your life for getting involved with them, but know that the risk is there
As >>22918408 says, a 19yo lady is just entering adulthood, and it's probably studying in a college. If she dates older men, then what she could expect is them to have status and money, things out of her reach for the moment of course. Then the question is, is she ok with that? is she ok with being a kept woman by a man with objectively more wealth than her? she don't care about what feminists and other people could say about that kind of relationship? If the answer is yes, then go on, and best wishes
You know, decades ago people used to pick their partners using that logic. Most young women wanted an older men with wealth to have a guarantee that living with him would be at least possible
Last thing, as >>22918403 says, women have agency. They know what they are doing even when doing something wrong. So if they had bad experiences with older men, that's their problem and their responsibility. If it was a +40 years old cunt, then don't do that again. If it was a dude who had just some years more than they, then pick a proper man next time by meeting him properly. Simple

>>22918464
>but know that the risk is there
then the risk is theirs to take at that point.

you cannot just throw around pedo accusations. what happened is not child rape, it's a woman getting strung along. it takes away from the victims of actual child rape, like the 300,000 of them that vanished under biden.

if you, as a grown adult, get into that situation, you are not an innocent victim. you're a fool. and i can say that with the certainty that it has never happened to me.

maybe that's because when i was a child, plenty of people did lie and take advantage of me, so i'm used to figuring that out. or maybe it's just because i'm not part of the demographic that everyone universally agreed was dumber than everyone else for thousands of years.

im so glad this is a good advice thread and not a steven crowder change my mind pol CIA social tension bullshit thread

>>22918470
you use that term a lot, social tension.
what exactly is the issue with the society being tense?

yeah when i come onto 4chan bant,, this is exactly what i want to hear about
and the thing is, you can't find this sort of shit anywhere else
this is why i come to bant, it's the ONLY PLACE to get this sort of thread
it's not beamed into your ears constantly online and in real life and on TV at all

>>22918473
fuck you

>>22918469
>you cannot just throw around pedo accusations
I haven't done that, mate. In fact, I said to OP that legally it's all ok with that relationship he's talking about
>if you, as a grown adult, get into that situation, you are not an innocent victim. you're a fool
And I strongly agree with you. Maybe it's a matter of how the person in question was raised, or the experiences that they had like the ones you mentioned, you know, that people lied and took advantage of you. So eventually everyone should learn from those experiences, I hope

If you ask me, anybody over 18 may date anybody over 18. So a 20-19 couple is as acceptable as an 18-500 couple, for instance.