I’ve always been a bit of an outcast socially never had many friends and the ones I have had have disappeared a long time ago. Recently I’ve lost all my social anxiety and been able to chat up with a few people and get the chance to hang out. I’m actually not too bad at talking and can usually get an invite or invite someone else out, but my issue is having no idea what to do when we’re actually together. There’s nothing in my town or any of the cities close aside from shopping, eating, or drinking. I’m outgoing but I feel like asking someone to hike with me is hella cringe fr in today’s social market. Are there any good ideas of what to do when I’m with friends or even dates other than stupid obvious shit? I don’t want to smoke weed every time I’m with someone but that’s all I can think of that doesn’t take much work. Should I not worry?

>>22951744 (OP)
>I feel like asking someone to hike with me is hella cringe fr in today’s social market.
that's a bad attitude to have
"social market" lol
>>22951744 (OP)
>I don’t want to smoke weed every time I’m with someone but that’s all I can think of that doesn’t take much work.
what do you mean by "much work"?
my friends and i used to just walk around town and scream at people on their balconies and shit
we broke into a public pool in the middle of the night once
really any sort of shared experience which isn't just an IRL discord call will be good, and it doesn't always have to cost money
if your friends don't actually WANT to do anything except IRL discord calls, that's different, but they probably will
>Should I not worry?
yeah, i would worry less
if yo uget along well with them, just trust the ideas you come up with
they're not gonna drop you over having a shitty idea

>>22951762
By much work I mean like having to try to keep them entertained. I get what you mean though I guess I wouldn’t want to hang out with people who only like having me around cause I distract them.

>>22951774
ah ye
i think crazy shared experiences is what usually works the best, i guess htat's kinda vague though
it's good to keep them entertained, but it shouldn't feel like nothing else happens in your interactions, it should be back and forth atleast
my friends used to do LAN parties for like 8 hours

i saw you asked about dates as well, but i wouldn't know
i could imagine a hiking date being interesting

you shouldn't be afraid that any of your ideas are "cringe" you know?
it's fine to be polarizing to people
i think lately people try to avoid being disliked by ANYONE, and they end up being boring/forgettable as a result
idk

>>22951781
No it makes sense that’s what I’ve done my whole life I think, try to get everyone to like me. I have noticed the more I argue with someone about things I believe the more we get along if it’s not a super polarizing topic. I just think maybe I haven’t had enough exposure to being myself around other people maybe I just have to train it like a muscle.