My mom divorced my dad years ago. His sin? He worked too much, wasn't home all day until night so my mom got bored of him. He had to pay alimony and lost half of everything he owned. I never thought much about it until recently when I saw the same situation in a TV show and then in a movie, so it seems like it's something that happens often IRL.
I'll become a dad soon and I'm getting worried. I'll need to work to pay the bills and provide to my soon-to-be family, but if going to work during the day is such a sin in the eyes of women, does it mean I'll eventually lose her and my child? What am I supposed to do? What the fuck are we men supposed to do in this situation that used to be completely normal decades ago, but now all of a sudden is not enough?

>>60516863 (OP)
women want their cake and eat it too.

>>60516863 (OP)
Ravage her every night when you get home after work

>>60516863 (OP)
you're supposed to be rich and take her out you poor pleb creature. working is the least sexy thing ever.

>>60516863 (OP)
You wanna know the uncomfortable truth about women? They're biologically designed to leave you. It doesn't matter how rich, handsome, or famous you are. They all get bored or sick of you given enough time.

every day that passes i become more and more glad i am a low earning loner bum living with mommy and taking my sweet time in life
>>60517574
trvthnvke

>>60516863 (OP)
TLDR
>Start a family

I'm an ugly, 32 year old, virgin, autistic workaholic that's going to die alone and be forgotten.

I'm nothing but a cog in a machine. Nothing.

marry an autistic or asexual woman

No...

>>60516863 (OP)
Sometimes there's nothing you can do
Its your biological impulse to put your whole life on the line for your spouse
Then one day, when your body, mind, and soul are ground down into paste, they'll just say
>I'm not happy
And the bottom falls out
I had dreams once
Now I'm leveraged to the gills gambling on crypto because its my only way out
I mean this in the nicest way possible, op: keep some finances set aside for yourself, and tell *nobody* about them. It might just save your life

>>60516863 (OP)
That's why you are supposed to be a crypto millionaire before you start your family, anon.

>>60516901
the only proper answer itt. people grow apart without intimacy. if you are not intimate, you will end up hearing that "the magic/spark/butterflies are gone" from your wife. but fuck her properly and she's all giggly and says how much she loves you. it is normal for both men and women to express their own love and be assured of partner's feelings this way.

this becomes especially crucial when you have kids. you will get an hour tops to spend with each other. instead of both moaning how stressed/overworked/tired you are (you from working & wife from caring for the infant) just have sex. you can reassure how much you value each other's efforts afterwards.
>t. happily married dad of 2

>>60520777
What if she's fat?
My wife is fat so I tell her to go to the gym but she doesn't go enough or it's not working basically so we don't go intimate.

>>60516863 (OP)
If you get married then you deserve to get divorced raped. Should have gotten a prenup but even that won't save you.

>>60520777
How many years have you been married for. If the answer is less than 10, you shouldn't be talking.

>>60516863 (OP)
they divorce you even more if you wfh.

>>60520786
Be careful, the girl I planned to marry dumped me because she randomly put on 40 pounds and I encouraged her not to do that. She had hoebag friends and some bitch therapist in her ear, I’m sure telling her that if I loved her I wouldn’t tell her not to be fat

>>60520897
I can put her on weight loss medication but it's very expensive.

>>60520897
>She had hoebag friends and some bitch therapist in her ear
Worst type of crabbing. Bucket crabs.

>>60520908
Generic ozempic is pretty cheap right? I’m counting on it to save the dating market here in the south, the land of heifer women

>>60520920
No it's still expensive especially if you consider how I have to pay the mortgage in a big city but she's still feeding the infant so she can't have it in her bloodstream anyway.
Yeah I should have gotten her thin before having kids

>>60516863 (OP)
Why not just not get married? Like you can do literally everything married people do without the legal repercussions of divorce and as long as you don't like in a cucked country that auto marries you then you're gold.

>>60520842
Kek that's true

>>60516863 (OP)
don't get married unless you have >$10m

>>60516863 (OP)
Every day, the entire universe gives me reasons NOT to have children. I mean, I don't think I'm emotionally ready, the current market is so screwed up that I can only make real money with things like kaka, and dating is a pain in the ass
Gen x had it all, and yet they still decided to screw everyone else over

>>60516863 (OP)
Married for 7 years, together for 15, 3 kids
She's a stay at home, I work a lot (own a business the week and spend the weekends fixing a second house I plan to rent),
The secret is to marry a low maintenance, shy girl, but try to spend as much quality time as possible with her and the kids. Don't be that retard that sinks in the couch infront of the TV the second you set a foot in the house because you're boohoo tired

>>60517574
That's the reality for most people, not only women.
In the past people would compromise, they understood that building something durable meant stability and made it work.
Throwaway culture permeates all aspects of life nowadays.

>>60516863 (OP)
BALANCE

work and life balance. That's it

you have to live with/near family. we fell for this scam where its the "normal" thing to do to move away from close family, no when you go to work the grandparents or uncle/aunt need to watch your family

I am saving up to buy a house in my parents neighborhood, ideally I can buy their neighbours house

also what is sauce?

>>60516901
What happens when you have kids and they wonder why mom and dad are fighting without clothes on every night

>>60523936
neighborhoods should be full of kin

>>60520821
>if less than 10 dont talk
im nearing 9 years here and agree with him, so do tell what you think makes the magic stay alive. I think the other side of the physical intimacy is just making sure youre doing your part around the house

could also be letting yourself go or giving her too much time in her own head leading to these situations

>>60520908
>ozempic or substitutes
I dont see the need to risk it theres more and more horror stories coming out about the side effects when you could just do daily 2+ mile walks

>>60517574
shouldve gotten a virgin sorry you let a whore ruin your life haha

>>60526170
>2 mile walks
5 mile runs minimum or bust
You will become fat