i am 29 yrs old...
i write smartcontracts for a network and been making good money.
it's a remote job so I stay at my own home most of the time.

here's the thing, my parents visit my home recently, it's a small home and they wanna see me live in a larger house. not only that, they dont want to see me work at home anymore, as in they wanna see me work like everybody else - drive/commute to work, meet some people, hang out in the evening, etc.

is this a valid concern? we had a long talk but mostly it's me listening to them talk, comparing me to other siblings/cousins/their friends' sons and i dont explain anything, not defending myself. im trying to be a good listener and a good son here. i spent hours thinking about what they said. then again, after been absorbing too much /biz/ posts, i like what i do (wfh, crypto work, etc.). should i really buy a bigger house, expensive cars, change my job, etc.? or my parents are being retarded?

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>I'm 29
>Should I live my life the way I like or my parents?
Gee, I dunno.

>>60580773 (OP)
Nah your parents are just materialistic and want you to perform. Im in the same boat as you and you should absolutely crash out on them to atleast have them shut the fuck up. Then they can crawl back to you because ultimately if you fail, they deem it as a fail on them (narcissistic).

You're an adult, you dont need to beg for their approval. Always assume them as being naive rather than genuinely malicious.

>>60580773 (OP)
Your parents are wrong in buying a larger house, and they are right in you not meeting people for nepotism.
What work will you do when AI reads rough customer requirements and develops smart contracts from that and perfect industry knowledge?
This is the very likely outcome next year, 2028 at the latest.

>>60580773 (OP)
>they wanna see me live in a larger house
For what purpose? A single person doesn't need a big house. Are they getting old and are thinking of moving in with you so you can take care of them? Or just to have more? Or to grow a family with? Or to rent out for more income? What's the motivation besides "have more" or "show off your wealth more"?
>they dont want to see me work at home anymore, as in they wanna see me work like everybody else - drive/commute to work, meet some people, hang out in the evening, etc.
Commuting is hell, why do they want you to be in hell? What do you mean they want to "see you at work", they don't wake up at 7am in the morning to get ready and climb in the car with you and sit in traffic to get to a shitty office with an open floorplan where you can't think. You commuting has 0 impact on their day-to-day lives, it literally changes nothing for them, so why do they care?
Sounds more like they want you to have a more active social life and building a network of useful connections. Working in person might help with that. It might not.
They also probably hope you find a wife and have grandkids and (correctly) believe that you working from home won't lead to that, so they want you to change your behavior to attract a partner. More expensive car, having friends, meeting people, they hope that might change that.
>comparing me to other siblings/cousins/their friends' sons
That's rude. Have you ever openly compared them to other cousins/friends parents and how much they don't do enough or don't give enough compared to them?
>should i really buy a bigger house, expensive cars, change my job, etc.?
It's your life, that's for you to decide, not your parents. How are you 29 and not realized this?

>>60580815
>crash out on them to atleast have them shut the fuck up.
wdym by this? like deliberately fail myself?
>ultimately if you fail, they deem it as a fail on them (narcissistic).
hm they did say that "we almost fail when we see that you're not as 'normal' as your brother and ur brotherinlaw. look at them, they have nicer home, bigger cars, and you're still stuck with this shitbox"

>>60580827
>What work will you do when AI
fren isnt that why we're all working rn? to be financially secured so that we dont have to work a job to survive when that happens.

>>60580901
>A single person doesn't need a big house.
that's what i told them too. i also told them that bigger house = more expensive = tougher to resell as the income:houseprice gap keeps on widening. but they call me stupid and that i shouldnt think about selling and should just rent it out. u can see now why i dont talk much because anything that comes out of my mouth gets immediately shot down.
>They also probably hope you find a wife and have grandkids and (correctly) believe that you working from home won't lead to that
they did mentioned that. hmm still is it worth it to change my lifestyle to what i dont like just to get married? wont it be more likely that i will meet someone that i dislike because she's living the lifestyle/mentality that i dont like? sorry if this is a stupid question. at the same time i do think they're hit with FOMO because all of their friends' sons n daughters are getting married n have grandchildren while they're still not there yet.
>Have you ever openly compared them to other cousins/friends parents and how much they don't do enough or don't give enough compared to them?
never. like i said, it's usually them who do the talking. i never compare someone to anyone. i know everyone have their own hardships, circumstances and their own reasons for not being something that the society expects them to be.
>How are you 29 and not realized this
hmm i do realize that. thats why i keep on working this job and live in a small house and drive a shitbox. just wondering if im being "rejecting life improvements" as my parents said

ALL PARENTS ARE LIKE THIS
>when someone's son is poor
>"aww poor guy wish we could help him"
>when their own son is poor
>"YOU'RE NOT OURS. DON'T EXPECT FREE HANDOUTS. WE WON'T HELP YOU."

The Jews just keep on winning.

>>60580773 (OP)
they're fucking tripping
you have the top job every one wants and they want you to go slave in some adult daycare?

>>60580773 (OP)
Don't, they're literally just trying to use you to gloat. Boomers will have a loving family, a good life, and die bitter because they didn't have a nicer boat or a bigger pool than their neighbor. That's the conditions they were raised under. You need to assert yourself, you're about to be 30 for Christ's sake.

>I write smart contracts

Your parents intuitively know you don't have a real job and instead work at an international money laundering scheme filled with fraudsters and scammers. You also should probably listen to them instead of other fraudsters and scammers online

>>60580773 (OP)
Parents just parroting what they see from others doing "well", so yeah a tad retarded. Just voice your side and don't remain silent when they push boundaries.

Buy bigger house than they have
Buy newer car
They will shut the fuck up.

Your parents are ignorant, OP. Better be happy alone being yourself, than be miserable not being yourself... just to be with someone else.

To all parents anon, you cannot relive your life through your children. Your life is over. It's your children's turn now. Back off.
>But I only want the best
No, nature of parents is that they want the SAFEST for the children, not the BEST. Let your children discover their strengths, weaknesses and objectives so they will know what's best for them.

>t. parenting expert

>>60580773 (OP)
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