>>149135221
Here are the steps in a 4 year olds brain
1. She ASSUMED she did Arthur a favor by pointing out his toy was not working
2. Arthur hit her.
3. She now knows the toy was broken because of her expectations.
4. She also now knows that Arthur was mad because his toy was broken.
5. Arthur has toys she's not allowed to play with because she might damage them
She gets it, you don't need to bring it up again. She won't throw another toy plane out of a window.
>>149135227
Try using a few more neurons whenever you read.
>>149135239
Not really, you can if you want, but to a 4 year old it would seem arbitrary. "why am I allowed to touch some of the toy's Arthur plays with, but not others." In this situation, she now realizes, that if Arthur requests that she not touch something, she ought to leave it alone. You can't go through the house identifying every to she can or cannot touch, it is a case by case basis. I tell my older son that it is his responsibility to put things he doesn't want his younger brother to reach in places his younger brother cannot reach. He is more than welcome to ask for help on that. He should also communicate what he's not allowed to play with.
When my six year old cried because my four year old broke one of his toys, I replaced it at a later date, but he (4) also realized he'd upset his older brother. He cried about it as well and wanted hugs from his older brother (who wasn't keen on giving them to him because he was rightly upset).
Kids are dumb and smart, they fuck up, but can intuit where they've fucked up. I didn't need to tell the 4 year old he fucked up, he now overzealously returns that specific toy to his older sibling whenever he sees it anywhere.
