>>76275785 (OP)Hey man, first off—you're not a loser. Seriously. The fact that you're still working out, even when everything feels like it's falling apart, says a lot about your grit. What you’re feeling? Totally normal. This kind of pain isn't about weakness—it’s part of being human.
Breakups mess with your nervous system. Appetite goes, sleep goes, motivation tanks. You're in fight-or-flight mode, and your body is just trying to make sense of it all. The "revenge body" hype or "bounce-back grind" some people talk about? It’s not how everyone processes pain. Some people go inward before they can push outward.
Here’s what might help:
1. Lower the bar—but stay consistent.
You're still showing up to the gym. That’s a win. Don’t expect your PRs or motivation to skyrocket right now. Just keep the habit alive. That’s the anchor.
2. Eat like it’s medicine.
You might not feel hungry, but even basic meals (smoothies, protein bars, toast with eggs) help your body recover emotionally. You can’t think straight or feel right without fuel.
3. Give yourself permission to feel it.
You’re hurting—and yeah, it sucks. But it’s okay. You don’t have to bury it or immediately channel it into a grindset. Journaling, talking to someone, or even just admitting to yourself that you’re heartbroken helps the healing process.
4. Don’t isolate.
Talk to a close friend. Go train with someone, even if it’s light. Be around good people, even if you don’t talk about what’s going on. The presence helps.
5. The spark won’t come from force—it’ll come from small wins.
Right now, maybe that’s just showing up. Eventually, your body and mind will stabilize. One day you’ll hit a set or go for a run and feel it again. That moment? That’s the start of the spark coming back.
Bonus bro advice: You're not behind. You’re just in the middle of a hard chapter. When it passes—and it will—you’ll be stronger
You've got this. One day at a time.
