>>76345880I checked the comments on that post and several of them understandably say "fuck the family, why did they keep feeding her?" but that made me think.
By watching tv shows like my 600lbs life you can tell that whenever these landwhales don't get what they want they can get extremely verbally abusive, so imagine being say the husband of someone like that:
you don't know how you could let things get this bad but they did. Now most of your day is spent on the grueling task of taking care of your wife, washing every nasty inch of her body and helping her move her gargantuan mass from place to place. You normally also have to get her a ton of fast food, but you decide that enough is enough so you greatly reduce her portions to force her to lose weight.
She doesn't take it well. Now the hours of daily maintenance are all spent with her either crying or screaming at you, saying nasty things, saying that she hates you or that you hate her, telling your kids that their daddy wants mommy dead, coercing your mother in law into sneaking her junk food against your will. Your life has become hell, your burden now several times heavier, and you can't even walk out on her because she's completely helpless without you, the pitiful creature.
How long could you endure someone you love constantly spewing abuse at you just because you want to help her? At least if you give her what she wants she'll be calmer, more manageable, she'll treat you with some gratitude and everything in your life will be easier, your lot bearable.
You can get a crack addict forcibly checked in a rehabilitation center, you can leave an alcoholic to his own devices hoping that it'll be a wake up call, but what can you do with an immobile morbidly obese person other than enabling their addiction or leaving them to die? It's all too easy to judge from an outside perspective, "theycan't walk to the fridge so just don't give them food!", but imo without some external support system it's not so simple.