>>76356792
The approach you described can come across as disingenuous and manipulative because it involves using one person (the receptionist) as a strategic tool to gain the attention or trust of others, rather than building authentic connections. Here’s why it might feel off:
1. Instrumentalizing Relationships: Treating the receptionist as an "anchor girl" to leverage social proof reduces her to a means to an end, rather than valuing her as an individual. Genuine friendships, even casual ones, are built on mutual respect and interest, not ulterior motives.
2. Calculated Social Engineering: The strategy of deliberately showcasing yourself as "safe" or "nonthreatening" by chatting with one person to attract others can feel like a performance. It risks coming off as inauthentic to both the receptionist and the other women, especially if your primary goal isn’t to connect with them as people but to achieve a social outcome.
3. Potential for Misrepresentation: If you’re presenting yourself as friendly and nonthreatening but your endgame is to pursue romantic or other interests, it could lead to misunderstandings or feelings of betrayal if others sense they were part of a calculated plan.
