>>29080590to put it simply its very hard to "make friends" as a kid because I was both highly advanced, and going through "that'.
so I was much more mature and dealing with much more "real" shit than all kids my age, and was scared shitless to squeal on him (though I did once to a degree but he managed to ice it completely out which only heightened my fear of him and reluctance to tell others)
its actually worse now as an adult, I went through 18 years of hell and now, as a grown man, no one would ever give a fuck, really, no one wants to hear men's problems, I didn't talk about it with people then, and I don't know (beyond randoms on the internet)
while I am a very resiliant, resourceful person, it still haunts me, and what always haunts me the most is me being complict with it at the time, as weird as that is, now it hardly matters, I'm just another working poor schmuck, there's no reward or relief from hardship.