How old were you when you finally got your shit togethe

>>212490025 (OP)
23, had to join the military to do it though

>>212490025 (OP)
i'll let you know when that happens

>>212490025 (OP)
30 is when I stopped fucking around being underemployed and got my act together. 6 years later and im doing OK (80k/year; not a lot, but respectable)

>>212490025 (OP)
I'm 30 and my shit will never be together.
Such is life.

>>212490025 (OP)
38 and it still hasn't happened. Seemed like it was going to happen around 24 (girlfriend, job, etc) but it was a false alarm.

>>212490066
I second this motion (notion?) in your ocean

>35
>Living with mom
>NEET since 2009
>No education beyond the 10th grade

>>212490145
How did you fuck it all up?

>>212490393
Never watch anime, lads. Not even once.

>>212490025 (OP)
I'm 34 and pic related is me.

20. Seeing COVID happen and watching everyone bemoan living the way I had lived for so long made me realize how pathetic I was, so I got a job for the first time. It was a shitty retail job but actually having any level of personal responsibility for the first time in my life sewed the seeds for later growth. Plus having money I could spend on whatever I want without my mom OKing it and talking to people irl for the first time in years was so nice so I knew I couldn't go back.

>>212490025 (OP)
33
I had to sacrifice my sovl though. I became a stereotypical sigma grindset faggot (in the metaphorical sense) who gets bored of people very easily. I spend a good chunk of my FAANG income on hookers.

33. Highly accomplished and educated by my country standards with phenomenal carrier opportunities and wage. Unfortunately I am an incel also afflicted by alcohol addiction due to social isolation outside of work, the stick always has two ends. I never cared about the social aspects and was busy with grinding my studies and work experience ignoring it but once it hit I had to just go to coping with alcohol because I would have killed myself otherwise.

>>212490809
Scary I had to post with someone my age. I don't want to try out hookers or online dating, it will destroy the last shred of dignity I have, I am a modest man you see.

>>212491008
well you'd better figure out how to farm aura because there's no other way to get your willy wet at our age

>>212490025 (OP)
I have my life together but it will never be accepted by normies so I guess never.

>>212490571
>How did you fuck it all up?
Mostly by being schizoid. We weren't made for this society.

>>212490025 (OP)
I honestly don't think I ever will. I'm just an unemployable retarded mess of a person.

>>212491122
I fell for the STEMmaxx meme, I don't complain, the respect and money I get is phenomenal but concerning the personal front it is utterly useless, all the advice I got from my family was for nothing.

>>212490057
Same here, but then I left and it turned to shit again. I can't handle freedom and have a hard issue orienting myself. I need someone to yell at me apparently because I can't handle having to make choices.

>>212491304
I did my conscription as well. Was enticed like a decade ago now to enlist and go to some Mali shithole but I refused, I heal people not kill them, still, feels enticing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVbDZBz2Ago

>>212491008
Not him, but being respectfull and modest got me zilch with the ladies. I fell for the memes about what women want being discussed in the media. Turns out A LOT of women like men to be strong and dominate them. Still seething about being lied to by interest groups.

>>212491374
No one was around to teach me this social crap. I can write up anatomical pathology from radiological images in great detail but this whole dating stuff is an utter mistery to me.

27 (and then I lost it again at 29)

>>212491372
I servedin a military hospital and retired from voluntary service as a NCO. There are spaces you can occupy where you do not kill people. It just that NOT being on a shitty exercise field getting close to heat-stroke is somehow way less mentally taxing than navigating group dynamics and trying to get social cues. Especially women are just plain wierd. I am happier now that I realised treating them like they are the same as you is just wrong. Had to many female coworkers being difficult to work with and me being apparently "intimidating". It is not my fault you are 30 cm smaller than me and half my weight or can't handle being spoken to directly if there is an issue. I sometimes wish I had stayed in, could be paid hugely to move to lithuania nowadays.

>>212491304
Thats pretty much why I stayed in. Might get kicked out due to medical issues though, not looking forward to that

>>212491552
Exactly. Just try lifting weights etc or do some combat sports like judo, it is silly you have to but it will help you be more confident and feel better health wise as well. Then women will approach you more. Happened to me when I was in the army, was very confusing to me after being rather meek a lot of my years before.

>>212491374
>>212491552
Same, but it was worse in my case because my feminist single mom raised me to be what she thought the definition of a good man was which needless to say cucked me for years. She also made sure to instill me the values of men are evil and women will like it if you're an asexual paficist bitchboy because of course all the men she dated (and continued to date) were alpha douchebags and she hated them but yet they were the only kind of guy she slept with! I always thought that was odd but surely my own mother wouldn't lie to me like that.

>>212491200
>We
Not me.

>>212491663
>navigating group dynamics and trying to get social cues.
I went in to medicine expecting that hard science stuff, no one prepared us for the social dynamics at the work place, patient psychology and the general placebo effect of a grannie just talking about her problems and feeling better. This is why after my residency I am transfering to radiology department at our largest clinic in the region. Simple straightforward job and minimal patient interaction, I pray for the rest of GP's, they are doing gods work.

>>212491592
Best of luck. The comraderie isn't allways as it should be, but even if you do not like people in your unit and they do not like you in the end being forced to stay together 24/7 makes you know each other and what you can rely on each other for. Also being on the same page in regard to values and prioritising the group. Having been to civilian schooling after my time was very annoying at first. Unpunctuallity, not keeping appointments/cancelling last minute, not willing to do your part for the class. The last part was a big one, getting key,cleaning and not FUCKING PAYING INTO THE GROUP ACCOUNT for scheduled team activities. Everyone for themselves. I know I am wierd for expecting this of others, but the lack of enforcement behind rules and obligations drives me crazy.

>>212491683
Understandable. They banked on me being a big brain for years telling me the usual cope of finding a smart girl good girl because you work in le medicine. Utter dogshit.

>>212492034
The situation I find myself in.

>>212490809
You are Indian.

>>212492034
>>212492115
Classic, I got a lot of that too.
>When you're the next Bill Gates women will swoon over you!
Of course I wasn't the next Bill Gates I just wasn't a total retard but it's not like anyone in my family knew the difference.

>>212490809
Good afternoon saar

28 now
have gf, great job, in shape

>>212491975
we dont stay together 24/7 but we do see each other quite often, sometimes too often and it causes drama. Im also a supervisor now so i feel kinda left out from the after work fun that everyone seems to have
on the bright side im almost done with school actually, just 2 more classes
you got this anon, youll adjust and thrive

>>212490025 (OP)
if you see this post it means i have yet to get there

>>212491683
I didnt get it this bad because my single mother was not doing anything on purpose, I just tried to raise myself and listened to what I was told in the general sphere.
>>212491813
I am a nurse now, I like working with patients most of the time but I can't stand addicts or nagging grandpas/grannies anymore. The latter are more annoying because they have the whole "I am entitled to this" attitude. They want a buttler quite often.

>>212492534
I work and worked as a GP under a family doctor while doing my residency in radiology in order to not get shit pay. I seen it all and fully understand. Thankfully all is past, I will work in my facility for a few months then move on to the largest clinic in our region. All is good for now.

My parents said I needed to move out when I was 27 and living on your own kind of forces you to get your shit together

>>212493418
I agree and it does but you need to weight it in. A lot of us anons can't afford living alone or it would be a worthless waste of money renting. I rent alone no problem, even if I was in a shitty financial situation I couldn't live with my bipolar hoarder mother, I would just blow my brains out with my legally owned with license 1911.