I'm a closeted boymoder and last night my boyfriend took me out to meet his friends, when we got home he mentioned he told them all I'm trans weeks ago despite me specifically telling him I don't like people knowing. I don't know why but this has pissed me off so much I'm debating dumping him

Am I overreacting?

>>40032903 (OP)
Your bf probably didn't want his friends thinking he's gay.

>>40032903 (OP)
he didn't respect your feelings when telling them your secret about a topic that is clearly very sensitive to you. you'd have to think twice before being fully open with him now because he could just tell personal stuff you share with him to other people. you're not overreacting at all imo

>>40032954
yeah it’s just this. dont worry it means youre cute op

>>40032903 (OP)
You have a right to not want to be outed and a right to be angry. I think there’s a dialectical argument to be made that he may consider boymoding/masking a form of self harm (I know that OP image is a joke but it speaks to some basis in reality that you might consider), but that’s a conversation he should have with you before speaking with others about you. Also he may have been well-intentioned in hoping to avoid having you overly misgendered, but that’s again another matter that merits communication first.
Basically, you have every right to be that mad, but he probably doesn’t understand why what he did would make you so mad. That doesn’t entitle him to act as such, but there’s a chance that he thought he was doing the right thing

>>40032903 (OP)
id say you're not overacting but it's best to have a conversation with him about it before hand if you care about staying in the relationship.

>>40032954
>>40033133
He'd come across as gay regardless since I dress very masc and don't voicetrain

>>40032903 (OP)
If your boyfriend can't respect simple boundaries he's probably not worth keeping around, he'll get worse with time

>>40032903 (OP)
>despite me specifically telling him I don't like people knowing.
>I don't know why but this has pissed me off so much
Well... To be fair, such a betrayal of trust isn't USUALLY met with celebration...

>>40033636
>don't voicetrain
why

>>40034395
mostly because I have bigger priorities and every time I try it makes me cringe so unbelievably hard I want to die

>>40032903 (OP)
bruh u found a guy thats not afraid of showing his tgirl to his friends and u are complaining??? lol most of these moids dont wanna be seen with us in public much less introduce us to their friends

>>40037257
but I don't want to settle for a guy who won't gag when he looks at me, I want someone I can rely on

>>40033943
Yeah I get that feeling, maybe its just because my trust was broken but I feel like he'll tell people everything I find private if the conversation fits it

>>40033113
yes join us back in the bucket op

you have a right to be mad at him for that, it is a pretty shitty thing to do

>>40032903 (OP)
that pic reminds me of a mtf friend of mine who spent about 5 years getting vocal chord surgery, ffs, and srs until she finally went to college and got a good job.
Oddly worked out for her though. Graduated at the top of her class, and the company that hired her had her host a video for them and promoted her.

>>40032903 (OP)
How directly did you tell him you don't like people knowing you are trans? Could he have thought you wouldn't mind his closest friends knowing? He is clearly comfortable dating you and his friends seem accepting.
Being upset is not overreacting but you should have a thorough conversation about your feelings and expectations being in line with eachother instead of dumping him over this.

>>40042457
icon, I hope to channel her
>>40042483
I had said "it's private to me as I'm both not girlmoding publicly and I don't want stranger's opinion of me to be changed by only knowing me as 'the tranny''