Why does every potential partner suck

They're either dumb, boring or unfunny and I literally can't find anyone I don't actively dislike

I've been on 3 dates in the past 2 months and have turned each of them down after because everyone is shit and dealing with their nervous flirty energy makes me want to blow my brains out

And don't get me started on dating apps, everyone is either overly horny or boring on them

I know I sound really toxic but I'm just so tired of everyone right now, maybe I'm depressed or something but I need someone who can make me laugh

>>40041316 (OP)
Maybe you're the problem anon?
Post unsee btw

>>40041330
probably but I've been in long term relationships before that were great and I haven't changed the way I've acted so everyone I meet must be the problem, after all I'm infallible

and here (older pics as I have the flu atm)
>https://unsee cc/album#60sKAPMjf3vT

>>40041316 (OP)
>>40041388
you probably have autism or are closed off emotionally not allowing you to make genuine connection due to fear of vulnerability

>>40041483
Yeah, but I'm pretty good at playing a role and coming across as charismatic, the issue is when the person falls for me I never feel anything towards them nowadays

>>40041316 (OP)
>>40041499
No don't gaslight yourself, most people suck and you're right to be picky. You're probably not wrong, you've probably just gone on a string of mediocre dates with annoying people

Unfortunately there's no quick fix for loneliness. You can keep dating but you're gonna have to wade through a lot of this if you're actively searching. A good match only comes a couple times in your life, if you're lucky

>>40041316 (OP)
crazy how you get as many dates as you want but your standards are too high meanwhile no one even considers dating me yet you're the one complaining

>>40041316 (OP)
>>40041533
drop your discords
it's mating season :D
You just have to keep on keeping on until you find the person you feel is right for you

>>40041522
I know, it's just so annoying to repeatedly be the 'it's not you it's me' person over and over, I want intimacy again but it feels like I've become too stuckup to ever get it, maybe I should just try dating a boring person for a while or something
>>40041546
I would but unless you live on terf island I don't think it'd work out

>>40041316 (OP)
You get fucking dates shut up and quit complaining you probably aren’t just looking right or are the asshole
And not I’m not bitter and jelly

>>40041585
>maybe I should just try dating a boring person for a while or something
I wouldn't recommend it. A bad relationship is more frustration than anything, and you'll just feel guilty for stringing them along while you feel nothing for them and can't even trick yourself into thinking you do. And it'll drag on longer than you plan for. Unironically you're better off just finding a casual fuckbuddy where there's no illusion of commitment or serious intent

>>40041388
You're hot but have you thought that maybe you're the issue? What if you're the boring one and not the people you're talking to

>>40041316 (OP)
do u boymode for the dates? or girlmode? what kind of people are you dating??
(sorry, also a boymoder and really curious and nervous about dating)

>>40041623
But I don't attract fuckbuddys for some reason, I only attract hyper romantic types. Also I don't want sex, I want to spend all day in bed in someones arms whilst we tell each other dumb jokes only we'd find funny, I just want intimacy again
>>40041631
I'd agree if people didn't keep asking me to be their manic pixie dream girl, people always have this weird idea that I'll coax them out of their boring shell or something
>>40041638
I boymode publicly and girlmode privately, my transness isn't a reveal though as I look pretty fem, I get asked my pronouns a lot by strangers

>>40041690
I get you. Honestly maybe you just need to make some more friends and focus on other stuff for a while. It's not the same type of intimacy, I know, but ideally if you're around people you like and you're doing things you like then you're more likely to just randomly meet somebody you're actually gonna like

>>40041388
My transbian cock is fucking diamonds

>>40041744
I have made friends with people I actually like, but they're all in relationships :'(

>>40041754
>more
Expand your world a little bit, go new places, do new things, meet new people

>>40041316 (OP)
I feel the same about trannies, I if I could mix and match them it would be perfect but everyone of them that I've dated has had a serious flaw that stopped them from being a good partner.

>>40041388
Why do you people call yourselves boymoders wtf? You're literally an onlyfans slut.

>>40041761
I guess but I'm craving intimacy, not connection, I have enough friends and I can't be bothered to wait around for my soulmate to turn up in a ribbon decades from now
>>40041831
because these photos are from when I used to do OF to earn some money on the side, it's not how I look on a daily basis, nowadays my hair is short and I do an embarrassing job at convincing people I'm a cis man

>>40041875
Best of luck to you finding someone, I had the exact same issues with people being dull boring or dedicated to some shit autistic game, I somehow managed to find the perfect girlfriend here, maybe somewhere here can fit you needs

>>40041875
Well then keep at it, hopefully you'll find someone soon. But I dunno, what I'm trying to say is that expecting your "soulmate to turn up in a ribbon" by plugging your way through a stack of dating-app characters might be less likely than finding them by going out in the world and doing interesting shit and interacting with the other people who go out in the world and do interesting shit

>>40041899
If an eligible UK 4channer wants to throw their hat in the ring I'll happily give them a shot
>>40041921
I agree completely, it's mostly just impatience on my part where I want to rush into something, but I agree with your advice

>>40041965
>If an eligible UK 4channer
Every UK 4channer I've met here is gross as fuck and has the social skills of a retard I am not gonna lie, you after a gf or bf? Probably worth trying the normie apps like tiami tinder etc

>>40041974
either, and I use dating apps but it's like wading through shit with the amount of weirdos who add me

I'm gonna have a nap, if people post here and the threads still alive when I wake up I'll make sure to reply

>>40042076
if it dies though here's that pic of my ass as a gif as a thanks for letting me vent

https://files.catbox.moe/bv5l65.GIF

>>40041831
manmoders are the real boymoders now

>>40041990
You're a student tho by the looks of the image in your unsee, surely there's other students at your uni who are suitable for you? Like at some society or some shit

>>40041316 (OP)
my boyfriend and I found each other on Hinge
I was actually about to delete the app the day before he sent the first message because I got fed up, but I decided I had to keep playing the numbers game
I think I had close to 100 matches before that happened

>>40041990
>>40042099
Yep that's how it is though, you push through the mounds of shit and hopeful find that one person who clicks pretty well with you keep the apps going they'll help, you've got an really good ass and body, as autistic as it sounds try checking the hornygen every so often, I messaged my gf there after she was looking for a tall top and she was like 90 mins on the train away in Scotland which led to us talking 8 hours a day together having the time of our lives, so maybe you'll have some fate there

why would you want to date as a boymoder? as a boymoder, i’ve just given up on dating until i sort out my presentation, the prospect of finding someone who wants to date me as i am now, presenting as a boy, and yet will see me as a girl and still want to date me, seems like way too much of a pain in the ass. you’re limiting your pool to just bi people

>>40041316 (OP)
>Why does every potential partner suck
stop trying to date as a trans woman there is nothing for you to gain there
its just pig-ugly hons, cis women who use you as an ego boost about their own femininity insecurities, or men who want to entrap you by getting you to come to their house so they can violently rape you.
everyone worth dating got their pair in high school or college already, you're left with the straggler scum who nobody wanted.

stack paper and become an accomplished woman

>>40042166
I am, and I've tried dating them, but so far working my way through classmates hasn't given me anyone good
>>40042175
99% of gamblers quit just before they hit the jackpot
>>40042206
I might but I'm a bit demisexual nowadays so I tend to get the ick from people who only like me for my body
>>40042244
I live in a progressive town and it's basically an open secret at this point that I'm not cis so I don't struggle with it, plus I've never had a bad reaction to people finding out I have tiny boobs
>>40043805
don't try and girlboss-pill me, there must be someone good! There must!

>>40044452
>there must be someone good! There must!
i was in the game from high school all the way through college and into adulthood, the enshittification of the dating pool never ceases, it only gets worse. if you think its bad now, its just best you quit trying and choose another path. the people who will be into you will just become a smaller and smaller set of increasingly depraved, increasingly isolated outcasts

>>40044509
In all honesty though back when I was a teen and dating it was also pretty dire, I just spent 8 hours of my day 5 days a week locked in a room with a bunch of hormone addled hyper horny people so it was easier to find a diamond in the rough, nowadays it feels like all the weirder cool people got snatched up before I had a chance to meet them or simmered out into dull adults

>>40041533
>>40041607
Hey, I'm sure you'll find someone, just need to put yourself out there

i think im fairly interesting but i am unfortunately not a brit, but just close enough from the uk for it to be frustrating
my ex was a brit and it was not that bad all things considered, but still really frustrating

>>40043805
>everyone worth dating got their pair in high school or college already, you're left with the straggler scum who nobody wanted.
i really thought at least the women on 4chan wouldn’t fullthroatedly accept every incel talking point

>>40048977
yeah I've tried long distance multiple times but it just doesn't work, it starts to feel less like a person I'm talking to and more like a chat bot
>>40049114
the incel to tranny pipeline is real

>>40041585
>I would but unless you live on terf island I don't think it'd work out
Culturally speaking or like because UK cuisine is dogshit?
I'd be willing to come out there or bring you here if we clicked
How old and tall are you?

>>40050037
Because I struggle with long distance, and if height is a deal breaker I'm sorry but my 6 foot ass will disappoint

>>40041316 (OP)
>>40042099
>literal ewhore taking about how dating sucks
l m a o

>>40050126
What's the struggle? I could visit once a month tops due to work. If I feel it's going somewhere I could either bring you here or go there. I'm pretty flexible
What's your hard height limit? I've dated as tall as 6'2. I didn't mind, but everyone else did lmao
Also, how old?

>>40044452
>I might but I'm a bit demisexual nowadays
That's a good thing honestly, having an actual romantic connection to the person you're dating is much better than meeting and banging, idk about you but I struggle to fuck unless I know the person I'm with genuinely cares and loves me

>>40041316 (OP)
You don’t it’s a bunch of bs
I gave up on anything serious so i just go with whatever interesting happens to come my way i guess
But yeah stop worrying about it
>>40041330
That has nothing to do with it im gorgeous but most people are boring and or retarded

>>40050147
Just means I have more experience then you
>>40050172
Yeah but ideally for the start of a relationship I'd want to spend a lot of time together, plus I'd feel bad if you moved for me, also where do you live? (I'm 21)
>>40050211
I guess so but it also means I immediately discount potentially nice people just because they're a little too horny when we start talking

>>40050468
>Yeah but ideally for the start of a relationship I'd want to spend a lot of time together, plus I'd feel bad if you moved for me, also where do you live? (I'm 21)
California, but you're too young

>>40041316 (OP)
Trying to force relationships to happen obviously won't work well. You need to make actual friends and have love blossom from that, dating apps don't work cause they're the easy route and only unconfident weak people take the easy route for something so important

>>40050542
damn the rare older dude who doesn't fetish our age gap, genuine respect
>>40050590
All 3 dates I've been on in the past few months have been people that have asked me out who I go to class with, I agree dating apps are completely useless, but also don't want to sit around not trying to meet potential partners hoping that they'll fall into my lap

>>40050731
If you're self sufficient I'm still okay with chatting, but 21 is the new 18 these days. I'm not trying to babysit someone.

>>40050874
I'm a broke uni student so I decide it's up to you if that'd feel like babysitting

>>40051049
*suppose

>>40051049
Drop you discord. It'll depends on a couple of things.

>>40051148
what things?
>Discord - ohlookathrowaway

>>40050731
Going to class together doesn't mean you're friends.

>>40051667
I'm friends with everyone in my class :)