my empathy co-processor got overvolted a few too many times during childhood and now the results it gives rarely make sense

>>40067827 (OP)

Want me to make sense of it?

what's empathy?

>>40067915
yea. what details do you need?

>>40068020
this thing where you can tell what people are thinking and feeling and also even feel what they're feeling. crazy shit

>>40068044

Give an example of it making no sense that has a high amount of recurring symptoms, and we can work backwards from that singular instance.

>>40068078
i say something, immediately realise i shouldn't have said that, then some time later learn that is wasn't bad or wasn't nearly as bad as i thought it was.

other than that, i constantly think either all my friends hate me, all my friends love me and i am the greatest person ever and make no mistakes ever, or have a good understanding of what people think but don't care what they think

>>40068108

That's an explanation of multiple instances instead of a single example. That's relevant because if I don't ask you about one exact instance your answer might reference multiple instances and multiple interpretations of your condition. If they contradict that doesn't give me a coherent veiw of your condition.

So before you answer focus on only a single example and derive your response from it. What makes an opinion you share bad?

>>40068191
I can't remember any examples with much detail.
One would be trying to give someone advice in an attempt to help them, but not considering their mental state or mental health in general and talking to them in a way that felt as if inwas getting mad or frustrated at them.

>>40068272

Very well. In this example did they in any way express that what you said was mean. Or is what you came across as, something you came to a conclusion on on your own.

>>40068311
i came to that conclusion myself initially, but i did it a couple more times and they said they wanted to stop discussing these issues and were just venting. they engaged in what i said so i wasn't ranting at them with no participation back. another time they said the discussion was starting to devolve into bad faith.

>>40068363

Alright. I think I see the main problem then. You need better reasoning tools to help you navigate what you want.

By that I mean
>i shouldn't have said that
>wasn't nearly as bad
>all my friends love me
>the greatest
>felt as if i was
>can't remember any examples
>in an attempt to help

Are all unfocused attempts at capturing what you want out of an interaction with someone. Good and bad are decided by what you want. Love is defined however one wants. What is great is defined by what you want. Overgeneralizing is a way to simplify and digest something confusing and vague, like what you want. Your memory is structured through what you give the most attention, often what you want. And what distinguishes helping someone from projecting is establishing shared wants.

You lose empathy because you cannot keep track of your own motivation for "empathizing". And are probably confusing empathy with a desire to satisfy what you want which just so happens to align with others wants, but is not planned or communicated. Your satisfaction in a relationship is rarely dependent on the other person's successes relative to their own needs. You probably also fail to ask them what they need or listen, making it hard to establish shared goals when communicating and a consensus on the status of your relationships.

Why you're like this I don't know.

>>40068584
that sounds right.