How do i stop becoming attached almost exclusively to abusive and controlling men

Its not a sexual thing.. being owned and controlled by a dominant guy makes me feel safe and have a purpose. I like that i only have to think of their happiness and my life begins to revolve around them in a really unhealthy way

It makes me feel safe I like being controlled and disciplined for my emotional instability

I got out of an abusive and violent relationship 6 months ago and ive been talking to different guys went on a few dates and sure enough i got attached to the one who likes to degrade and hurt me. I feel like just giving into my mental illness and accepting that i cant form healthy attachments to men

>>40075630 (OP)
Hurts how relatable this is. I hate that I have to fight to preserve my own individualism against some stupid part of myself which is so desperate to belong to someone else and to be completely subsumed by them.

I hope for both of us there’s a way to cure this longing ;~; gl anonette

>>40075630 (OP)
Are you bi or only into fat manly cock?

>>40075630 (OP)
chronic dumb bitch syndrome

Bumping cause I pinned advice on this topic >_>

>>40075654
I feel like theres no cure for me my issues are too deeply seated I hope the best for you tho

>>40075630 (OP)
It's just about finding a man with the right balance imo, I don't think there's a way to stop us being wired this way that wouldn't equate to personality death. Have you ever seen Secretary?

>>40075630 (OP)
i'm a repper and that image just makes me think giwtwm so much. that's why i think it's all a big fetish

You just need to find a guy who likes to beat the shit out of you in the bedroom but treats you like a human being in real life. Normal woman sexuality tbhon.
FEMALE
BRAINED
BOTTOMS

I fixed this finding a Dom bf who makes me feel like this but at the same time he is someone who cares about me.This last months he isn't that abusive or controlling so i'm feeling a little detached and depressed. i'm trying to figure how to solve this

>>40077561
same except by a femdom

>>40077886
>femdom
no we are not the same

>>40077901
desu i don't really care at this point being dommed at all is more important

>>40077622
I need this so bad