how are you meant to cope with a failed transition?

>>40084934 (OP)
Detransition and repress

>>40084934 (OP)
My transition hasn’t failed, I’m just slower than most and will catch up.

>>40084934 (OP)
life simply keeps going, you will be 30, then 35 and 40 and so on it goes. you will slowly lose every characteristic of yourself until you have nothing to identify with, if you even had anything in the first place

If you truly had gender dysphoria there wouldn't be a way to cope with a failed transition
Why do you think so many of us risk our livelihoods and family situations to transition?

>>40084934 (OP)
Goon until your cock bleeds.

>>40084934 (OP)
FFS is needed. Also if you're going to dye your hair make it a natural color jeez

Keep trying

>>40084934 (OP)
>7 years hrt
>still visible beard shadow
>still wearing guy clothes
>still not wearing makeup for the fun of it
>still using language like "when does the girl happen"
>unkempt, unbrushed neck length hair with shitty unnatural dye on it
>rgb gamer pc
>japanese sounding username
oh... its one of those.... eww.... hon creatura transgenerico....
no effort transition very bad 2/10.. would not recomend.. probably no voice training either..

Just rope

>>40084934 (OP)
You change the world around you by the strength of your own hands
>get a job at a super-progressive workplace
>find IRL social activities that surround you with supportive people
>now independent from family, so pick-and-choose who you interact with and exclude those who don't support you
>find partner(s) who affirm you
Of course, the "failed male" types don't understand what it means to have agency over their lives, so they'd prefer to attribute everything to fatalism

>>40085324
>probably no voice training either

she doesn't owe anyone femininity. There's no wrong or right way to transition

>>40085753
>agency

False premise under capitalism

Manmode + drink/drugs.

Though I guess manmoding means you are no longer transitioning.

>>40086341
she's literally complaining about how not feminine she is, learn to fucking read you retard

>>40084934 (OP)
Doesn't even need that aggressive FFS, hate seeing luckshits like this complain.

>>40084934 (OP)
Had xe lost weight, gotten laser and a proper haircare/grooming/makeup xe would pass, but low effort troonsbian gonna troonsbian.

>>40084934 (OP)
is there any sauce on this image? what’s this guys story? was he omegahondosed or does he have some sort of estradiol receptor issue?

>>40086472
lol not even close to luckshit. It'd be a full face with jumaily or db and a hair transplant on top of that.
>>40086493
Judging by the damage that was left behind from testosterone puberty, I don't think that skeleton would've been worth saving. Would've been better off as plant fertilizer. Trying to put womens clothing on a body with a male skeleton is like putting lipstick on a pig.

>>40086341

Lol Ok but if u wanna Get seen as a Woman Realistically Ur gonna have 2 Sound like 1.

I accepted "failure" as defined by a narrow, prescriptivist, and arguably sexist narrative around what transition can/should be or look like from the beginning and set my expectations according to my actual circumstances and what I could hope to achieve within those bounds as a range of possible outcomes in different areas all composing a possibility space I found more desirable than repression

I'll never pass, I'll never live as a woman, and I'm not sure I ever would have wanted to because I found a lot of freedom in letting go of what I had been given the impression was required of me to "be trans" or "transition" at all to instead focus on making myself happier with my own body and how I navigate the world socially

>>40087632
don't reply to my thread fakemoder

>>40084934 (OP)
top surgery and construction job

>>40087652
shut up retard I'm explaining how I cope with being a realmoder, which is having embraced it from the start

>>40084934 (OP)
>failed transition
not always, but this tends to happen when you want to transition into a cute uwu anime girl and not a woman, and/or you don't put the effort in. like the hon in picrel could clean and style her hair, do her eyebrows and grind natural makeup. but she doesn't. she "waits for the girl to happen" because she thinks hrt is a magic wand that turns you into a heckin epic anime loli

>>40088360
anime is so epic

>>40087349
>relatively flat brow
>short midface
>chin not super tall
>hairline not even that bad
She could achieve a lot with a lip lift, jaw shave and nose job, in addition to some eyebrow shaping, laser and a different haircut.

This probably wouldn't have happened if this person were into men and had a boyfriend.

There's nothing wrong with just marrying a woman, having kids and being normal guy. You can still dye your hair purple if you want I met a married with kids guy that still dyed his hair.

>>40086341
>she doesn't owe anyone femininity.
if femininity isn't the point then what exactly are you trying to transition to

manmode bamp

>stay on HRT
>get whatever surgeries you can to name dysphoria more manageable
>figure out an androgynous presentation that balances personal comfort and safety
>exercise every single day, eat healthy, get plenty of consistent sleep
>avoid alcohol, it makes you ugly and ages you faster
>dial in your skincare, get on a retinoid
>do this for a decade and watch the cis women who don't take care of themselves wither and melt into hags
>meanwhile you're the prettiest thing in your age group

It's not failure, it's just delayed success. Play the long game. Let menopause, alcohol, and childbirth do their work on the competition. Reassess in ten years. That's my plan anyway, now that I'm three years into manmoding

>>40088501
Yeah but lots of cis women doing pass either

>>40087597
Voice training is difficult

>>40084934 (OP)
learn how to do makeup and stop looking like a faggot

>>40086370
Yes but its difficult to transition, it's hard work, doing make up, hair care, losing weight, keeping up with hrt regimen, and just generally looking after oneself

Like diet, for example, have to eat healthy foods, no garbage, limit alcohol, limit drugs, and skincare

>>40085066
>Why do you think so many of us risk our livelihoods and family situations to transition?

Attention seeking and sexual fetish

>hrt for 7 years
>no laser
unironically bring back gatekeeping, these people shouldn't be allowed hormones

>>40091971
all the more reason to start ASAP and grind it as much as you can

>>40091971
wahh wahhh voice training hard Grow up.

>>40092028
tvke

>>40084934 (OP)
Full suspension hanging, I recommend the door as anchor method

>>40084934 (OP)
wear increasingly elaborate disguises + usual methods of battling existentialism and suicidal depression

>>40084934 (OP)
>damaged hair from colouring
>no bangs to hide forehead
>hasn't gotten electrolysis
>hasn't saved up for FFS in the last 7 years

what a loser

>>40092044
>>40092042
Please no bully, I thought this was a safe space.

I'm just saying the girl in OPs pic is clearly struggling and maybe we should be more kind, maybe we need to be more understanding

>>40093140
>i thought this was a safe space
lurk moar

>>40084934 (OP)
You’re cooked

>>40092028
you sincerely think someone would upend their entire life to satisfy a sexual fetish of any kind, no less in such a massive swathe as the trans wave we've see?

>>40093220
Right I was like, dafuq?

>>40093271
Terfs don't think, they seethe

you are all terrible people

>>40093297
>>40093220
But we're trans too, why would we be so harsh and uncaring?

Transitioning is so hard, especially if there's no one to help

>>40093140
>I thought this was a safe space.

>>40084934 (OP)
The same way people who survive car crashes and industrial accidents do anon.

>>40085144
>>40085324
you guys are lame, unnatural hair colors are fun

>>40084934 (OP)
> take care of your hair
>get bangs to hide forehead
>have a skin care routine
>wear makeup
> laser beard shadow
>debloat face

>fixed

>>40093887
i think a lot of people just disconnect and build up a thick layer of irony, i did that for most of the many years ive used this board.

>>40084934 (OP)
why dont hons ever do anything about beard shadow?

>>40094653
This picture is traumatising for OP, simply because its enforcing a western, traditional idea of "womanhood". Its implying that appearance matters when it comes to transitioning

>>40094659
We attempt to disconnect from others, but infact we only disconnect from ourselves

>>40085324
this.
No wonder they look like shit they're not even trying and probably never have.
Probably let themselves get hondosed as well.

>>40094676
they don't have dysphoria or they're so oblivious they think when you shave nobody can tell you have facial hair

thread's like these make me so sad I should just detrans:/

>>40086341
>There's no wrong or right way to transition
Retards like you are why the 41% exists. You don't see gym bros saying hugbox bullshit like "There's no wrong or right way to build muscle!" or "There's no wrong or right way to lose weight!"
Fortunately there's no wrong or right way for you to kill yourself.

>>40097826
>victim blaming
41% yourself

>>40084934 (OP)
>7 years hrt
>havent done laser

FAKE TRANS. hes probably just taking estrogen for coomer reasons

>>40097844
>41% yourself
Why would I do that? I'm completely happy with my life because I put in the work to get the results I want. I didn't cry to the internet for pity points because the rest of the world refused to change for me.
>don't blame victims
Why not? They're to blame for their own actions.