>dad admitted to my mom that he molested me when i was a kid
>parents are getting divorced now
>unironically do not remember my dad ever molesting me at all
>dad asked me for my forgiveness
>told him i forgave him (didn't tell him that i didn't remember) and we hugged and he said he would spend the rest of his life making it up to me
>mom is furious at me because i forgave him so easily and asked her not call the police because i still want him in my life
>can't find it in me to be mad at him because i literally do not remember it ever happening
am i in the wrong? i still love my dad and i don't feel bad or anything so i feel okay just letting it go.

>>40111875 (OP)
Have sex with your dad.

>>40111875 (OP)
How hot is your dad?

>>40111875 (OP)
anon the fact you can't remember might be a trauma response which means he very much fucked you up and gave you brain damage on top of molesting you.
You should be upset.

>>40111875 (OP)
Eh, nobody can force you to feel a certain way. It's understandable that your mother is emotional about it but at the end of the day if you want to forgive them then do it.

>>40111875 (OP)
you didn't do anything wrong, you're free to handle it how you want and your mother throwing a tantrum at you of all people is really inappropriate.

>>40111875 (OP)
How come so many tranners have been raped?

It's completely normal to hold no personal grudges against your father, seeing as you don't remember it happening.

However, It's important to distinguish the fact that his previous actions aren't acceptable. That doesn't mean you can't forgive him though.

You're not in the wrong and you should attempt to handle the situation in your own time, with your own feelings. Your mother doesn't have any control over you or your actions, so don't let her outburst shape how you perceive your father.

Do whatever seems right to you. Sorry you're going through this and I wish you the best of luck managing it all.

>>40111875 (OP)
That's one of the most grotesque shits I've read. Thanks

>>40111908
Trauma response/repressed memories isn’t real btw. Therapists no longer are ethically allowed to even suggest it

>>40112028
yes but ill add the caveat that forgotten memories are indeed a thing if said traumatic event wasn't perceived as traumatic at the time.

>>40111908
>if you remember, it did happen
>if you don't remember, it probably still happened
this seems biased toward one outcome over another

>>40111908
She was probably just too young to remember which is gross in itself but a different thing.

>>40112028
Only the retarded Freud version which is using it as an explanation for otherwise unexplained behavior. Forgetting traumatic events is common.

>>40112109
I think that’s only when it’s like a horrific car accident or plane crash, when your brain gets flooded with so much neurochemical shit it doesn’t commit anything to memory

>>40111875 (OP)
It's normal not to remember
Even in cases where people do remember, you might misconstrue the experience as something you were willing to participate in -- it happened to me, and I only really realized and accepted how fucked up it was after I opened up with my gf; lots of crying and emotional processing to get to that point too
But I still can't find it in me to be mad with the kids that did that to me, so I don't find it weird at all that you can't be mad @ your dad, and it's probably for the best too
>>40112028
You're wrong (and illiterate)
Sybau
>>40111993
Bot response

>>40111993
AI generated

>>40111993
thanks chatgpt

>>40111984
how come so many people that get raped become trans you mean

>>40112152
pop psych foidspeak take. You’re the reason why molestation ruins people’s whole lives even when they actually would’ve been fine. Victim mentality

>>40111875 (OP)
HSWYD

>>40112263
You write like an incel and you're dumb and you're wrong, sit down, you monkey
Also, the way you're emotionally invested in the subject suggests to me you either have some kind of trauma yourself, or you've been accused of abusing someone, whether wrongfully or not idk
Do you want to talk about it? Because I know I'm right, since I speak from experience
I also see a lot of people who went through a lot of shit getting their shit together after a lot of struggling with coming to terms with everything and gradually managing to make things once hidden come to light, so you're just ignorant -- try not to? Retard

>>40112371
I’m not the one emotionally invested or typing like a tardy. Very cool projectionmoding.

>>40112050
so your explanation is that OP’s dad lied about molesting them? why would anyone do that?

>>40112443
the answer is more likely that op just didnt perceive it as traumatic at the time, not that it was repressed
>>40112371
you seem much more emotionally invested in repressed memories being a thing

>>40112391
Listen, I'm perfectly fine now precisely because I've processed my emotions. Repressed trauma is a real thing and you should try not to be do dismissive of it. You're not helping.

>>40112214
>molestation causing someone to become gay rehashed for a thousandth time

>>40112464
>op just didnt perceive it as traumatic at the time, not that it was repressed
Trauma is a complex thing. Sometimes it's not obvious you're being hurt. It's not like a car accident where it's always accompanied by a big bang. It's natural to not understand you're being molested when you're a kid and have no concept of sex, but the lasting effects of the experience live on even as you develop a better grasp of the experience.
Also:
>>40112391
>>40112464
>I’m not the one emotionally invested
>you seem much more emotionally
Of course I am, for obvious reasons. That's not a gotcha. The real question is why is someone who has no experience with sexual trauma so adamant on dismantling repressed trauma as a concept. Unless you have, in which case be more honest and talk about your experience.

>>40112539
>The real question is why is someone who has no experience with sexual trauma so adamant on dismantling repressed trauma as a concept. Unless you have, in which case be more honest and talk about your experience.
why are you so bad with boundaries? stop pushing me

>>40112468
Nah. The way you’re behaving shows that your trauma was better off “repressed” before you convinced yourself to be a victim plaguecarrier and now you’re getting all flustered on a 4chan thread because of it lol

>>40112558
Okay, then don't? lol
>>40112563
What do you know, nigga? I don't think of myself as a victim. I think the people who did that to me were also victims, since they were children too. I don't even hold grudges. But keep on making conjectures to sustain your position which you're not willing to change, apparently. Also I'm on my phone that's why I'm typing like a retard. K, bye

>>40112618
>im not a victim but my molester is
true. (ToT) is irresistible

>>40111875 (OP)
No. Don't let anyone try to gaslight you into feeling a certain way.