im a cis female bisexual and i was in a relationship with a transfem for a year. generally our relationship was pretty good but one of the main reasons i broke up with her is she was extremely hypersexual. like she would almost constantly have boners around me. and it didn't matter what would happen, she would get boner when i would cry too. like almost always. she would tell me 'i cant wait to castrate myself with estrogen so i dont have to see you in a sexual way anymore'. and shed say this when id express discomfort with her constant sexual talk and actions. it was generally quite guilt trippy and made me really upset. are all transfems like this? im totally open to being with one again but this whole experience was kinda ass for me. i need to be with someone who can switch off their sexual urges when appropriate yk?

>>40136476 (OP)
"some men find gold but then complain it is too heavy to carry"

>>40136482
its really not like that. im a cis woman, i have a sex drive but its just not to that scale. she didnt respect my boundaries and made me really uncomfortable with her constant want for sex. maybe its the ideal if youre amab cause you constantly have something to fuck, but im just not like that.

>>40136503
oh yeah then i get you

>>40136476 (OP)
>i dated a pre-hrt “trans woman”
you just dated some nigga also this never happened

>>40136476 (OP)
i have gotten maybe five erections in the past year and am seldom horny. that said im also very bottom dysphoric
oh i just read she was pre hrt. yea i stay away from pre hrt trans women/reppers because i have the same exact experience as you. the ones who are on hrt though are way less likely to be weird

>>40136476 (OP)
No we're not. Personally, I am very indifferent toward sex. It's fine and I have fun doing it but it's not a priority for me. I'd actually be perfectly happy with a sexless relationship if I love my partner. Our feelings for each other is all that matters to me, personally.

like all trannies, i love jackiing off my juicy girlcock over the red, wet faces of crying cis women, especially lesbians and bisexuals

>>40136512
to call pre hrt transwomen not transwomen is crazy cause do u think they become trans the second they inject estrogen? also yes it did happen im not a larper

>>40136530
yeah good to know! we are both in our late teens so its like not all transfems our age are on estrogen or have been for a while.

>>40136548
yeah thats what i want! i feel like i want sex, but i want the basis to be on love and respect for eachother

>>40136665
it would be dumb and disingenuous to say estrogen has no effect on someone, particularly their psyche and their sex drive
also if youre old enough to be posting on this site then your ex was old enough to get on estrogen, esp after a whole year

>>40136674
no i definitely agree! and she was in the process of starting estrogen but its just a bit complex because of where we are. estrogen def has a huge effect but im just saying being on hrt isnt what makes you trans. im a cis woman and i can say that

>>40136692
>im a cis woman and i can say that
a cis woman definitely isnt the decider of who is and isnt trans

>>40136699
yeah i agree, but do u really think hrt is what makes someone trans? like the second an estrogen shot enters your body you become trans?

i do think my ex was trans despite not being on hrt, but i will say she grew up without her mother from a very young age and that may have influenced it

>>40136709
no i dont, but using someone who isnt even on estrogen as an accurate representation of trans people is very dumb, especially when you seem to be trying to paint it as such.

>>40136722
oh no im not at all! i didnt mean for it to come across like that. i have loads of transfem friend i just dont know the details of their sex lives i guess. i just get anxious cause this experience with my ex was pretty traumatic. id didnt really detail it here but she was just generally very manipulative and guilt trippy when i didnt wanna do sex stuff. i was very pressured into stuff with her. she would nag me for hours after i said no. i guess i was just asking how other transfems feel about sex and their sexuality

>>40136476 (OP)
>transfem
Ew.
But to answer your question, no.

>>40136749
That’s odd to me, I personally, and from what I’ve heard from others often have a lot of trouble with sex due to dysphoria and self hatred, but there’s also a huge amount of non-dysphoric or semi-dysphoric trannies who’re huge creeps

>>40136476 (OP)
we are not all like that

>t.transles nun; mostly asexual

im so glad hrt freed me from those disgusting hormonal urges

my advice if this is an issue for you; dont date someone who hasnt been consistently on hrt for a while; though for some hrt increases libido thats mostly straight girls from what i see

>>40136476 (OP)
But you weren’t in a relationship with a ‘transfem’? They weren’t even on hormones girl you dated a man.

>>40136827
true, i guess she was one of them lol.

>>40136872
as i said before u dont become trans the second u start taking estrogen. also getting hrt is possible but complicated because of where we live.

>>40136476 (OP)
>are all people of x group alike
No : /
Also the problem here isn't her being hypersexual so much as being manipulative and guilt trippy and not caring about your discomfort. Some ppl have hypersexuality they can't fully control but it sounds like she wasn't rly trying, what does that have to do with being trans though

>>40136476 (OP)
how curious
this is at least the second thread about someone dating a pre hrt transfem
>>40126813
>Support trans gf from pre transition

yeah I'll take things that never happened for 10

>>40136892
lol now a cis person is gonna tell me when a person becomes trans. Have a good day

>>40136892
You dated a man. Even if he started hormones, he would still be a man for a few more months.

>>40136903
i didnt make that thread lol, also we dated for a year before i broke up with her and this thread says they dated for 5 years or something. i dont know what bout my post is so unbelieveable? TLDR i was in a relationship with a hypersexual transfem for a year and it really affected me and made me wary of being with other transfems in the future although im still open to it

>>40136897
totally agree, but her hypersexuality was a major deal too. eg contsntly having boners around me (even when i would cry) and constantly asking me for sex

>>40136923
sorry i didnt mean for it to come across as rude. i just dont think hormones is what makes someone trans, its hard to access hormones where we are.

its the testosterone that makes you hypersexual, ask any ftm, they’re all horny little sexpests