If suffering builds character and having a good life reduces suffering, then having a loving relationship is the worst thing you can do for yourself. Never get a boyfriend because comfort makes you unable to grow as a person.

>>40157196 (OP)

Suffering builds character to an extent. If it just hurts its fine if it effects your ability to grow it's bad. That's the difference between depression ptsd anxiety etc and just being sad your ability to adapt to pain in general has been damaged.

>>40157196 (OP)
>If suffering builds character
Most of the time it doesn't, no.

>>40157196 (OP)
It does build character
>>40157250
You deserve a bit of suffering

Being in a relationship only brought me anxiety

>>40157196 (OP)
I want a gf
You probably just have it too easy on the relationship department that it gets boring

>>40157196 (OP)
It's not suffering it's adversity. And it is one keystone to character building. If you only face someone with adversity and deprive them of the other aspects of character building they will not build character.
Having a good life may reduce suffering but it does not reduce adversity, in fact it increases it significantly. The problem in thinking here is that you can only imagine yourself in a relationship that blankets you from adversity. That's death.
In reality a good relationship is tough. It requires a significant amount of emotional intellect and vulnerability. By the very act of having something to lose you are increasing your exposure to adversity significantly. This is why relationships do not work out for most people because most people are malformed and misinformed.
At its core life is adversity. There is no way to exist without it. Comfort is just as important for growth as adversity is.

>>40157196 (OP)
Boyfriends are cute and cuddly tho