What do I do

>>40162132 (OP)

Figure out how best to comfort her. Ask her "would you like to go someplace and take your mind off it" or "want me to get you anything?" Or "want to talk about it" "want to stay inside today and cuddle on the couch?" Remind them you're their friend not just a boyfriend/girlfriend.

>>40162132 (OP)
abort the mission, comfort her, tell her that she is your pretty girl and that you love her just the way you are while and that you support her transitioning, similar things have happened to me and thats how my gf has comforted me and it works for me at least

>>40162132 (OP)
What happened?

Tell her to shut up and plow harder until she stops

>>40162212
She got really sad and kept saying she looked like a man and I tried to tell her she didn't but she just started crying while I tried to comfort her

>>40162181
Ts so gay

>>40162885

Gay is fucking someone in the ass who clearly doesn't want to fuck. Let me know when that backfires on you, pun intended. It's okay to be nice sometimes, no matter what the other kids at your middschool call you.

>>40162516
let her cry. sometimes a person just needs to cry

>>40162911
Doing to much

>>40162927

True but I'm bored.

your dick wasn't validating enough for her

>>40163047
This she would be forgetting all about her brainworms if you were doing things right

>>40162516
well if it got to that point you probably just have to wait it out. Just be close to her and eventually she'll come out of it. For the future you probably want to encourage better communication so that she mentions her feelings to you before getting to the breakdown point. Most of us won't do that without a lot of encouragement because we assume or have had experiences of our dysphoric feelings being invalidated or not understood by people

>>40162181
That's sounds great

>>40162132 (OP)
>>40162516
this is the kind of thing i could very much see myself doing and so i'm going to try and put myself in her shoes and think of what i would want from a partner in that moment. definitely stop immediately, that much is obvious, the moment is over the sex can not continue.

i think any attempt to comfort me from the outside would make me cry harder and would probably appear like it's only making me more upset, but internally that might not be true. I probably wouldn't know what I'd want in the moment, I'd probably just be so upset that I'm panicking. I think what would be best for me would be to be held, tightly, and not let go. it's not worth it to try and argue with me but just to be shushed if i say anything bad about myself, to not be allowed to. to be told very gently that i was a real girl and that i was beautiful and that they loved me, gently but insisting, and quietly. lots of just "shush... it's okay... it's okay..." and encouraging me to take deep breaths and quiet down, and just to lie there breathing together until i eventually, eventually, stop crying. like comforting a baby.

that's in the moment, in the aftermath... i'm not sure. just be doting. i would need to know that they really find me beautiful, whatever it takes to drill it through my head. being extra nice to me would be helpful. honestly, really silly little things that are just gender affirming that wouldn't seem like they matter. holding doors open for me and saying "ladies first", getting the car door for me too, ordering for me at a restaurant, getting me flowers, just little nice gestures and reminders like that.

I am not your girlfriend, obviously, but I hope that the ramblings of someone with similar struggles as her are helpful for you in some way.

>>40162132 (OP)
better question: what did you do? if this was something that happened in the past how did you react? greentext it if u want or whatever i wanna know how someone who doesnt know would tackle that

>>40162516
did you lose your boner? this is how girls react when you can't get hard

>>40163696
>honestly, really silly little things that are just gender affirming that wouldn't seem like they matter. holding doors open for me and saying "ladies first", getting the car door for me too, ordering for me at a restaurant, getting me flowers, just little nice gestures and reminders like that.
Nta
That's actually very nice. If you could elaborate more on this part I would be grateful

>>40164009
elaborate on like, what that would entail? I'm not sure I have that many more examples. just little ways of treating me like a girl. walking with their arm around me... cuddling with me as little spoon...

>>40164009
Nta.
Agree on the just being held, in my case it would mostly just be to prevent any chance to seek out a mirror (I hyper-analyse my appearance in mirrors when I get dysphoric idk how common that is).

For me when I cry I need to hit an emotional overload to stop, so pushing through is probably better imo, sort of once I feel bad I just force it through until I can't get worse.

Aftermath I'm not even sure, I guess just being a bit closer than normal, I register verbal affirmations as insincere because of like childhood issues but that'll depend on your gfs history. Just mental state check ins as well also just again, making sure she's not staring into any mirrors sort of spaced out.
Idk how to give good advice outside of the context of my own issues.

>>40162132 (OP)
I do that every time I hookup

>>40163696
top tier advice should be part of a how to date trannies handbook

>>40162132 (OP)
Slap her face, call her a dumb faggot, drag her in front of a mirror and then fuck her face while you ask
>would a man let me do this to him?
And then just shove your dick down her throath and say no before she can answer
Repeat until she cries and throw up. Then bend her over, tease her hole and make her beg to put in her pussy. Make sure she uses that word, then make her beg to put your babies inside her. Then cuddle her and call her a good girl. That should keep her calm for a few days

>>40164470
im happy you think so

>>40164621
this sounds like it would be fun and help and i like it as a fantasy but it would probably be traumatizing if it happened irl if i was actually having a really bad episode :/

>>40164621
>then make her beg to put your babies inside her
this part is cringe and would make it 1000x worse instantly. do NOT remind your trans girlfriend that she can never have kids. you do not know trans enough.

>>40164663
That's ok, they can cry on my shoulder after

>>40164439
Didn't you mentioned men only wanted to use you some posts months ago?

>>40164141
Idk how to put on words. My friend had several dysphoric mental breakdowns near me some times. I just wanna know what I should do.

>>40164413
That's interesting. I am trying to put on the work to help my friend

>>40164804
reading this hurts me. it makes my heart hurt. i don't like how it makes me feel. i don't like the part of me that wants this

>>40164439
no one asked

>>40164997
Just ignore the grotesque posts here

>>40164804
id probably prefer alone in a locked bathroom for 2 hours, actually

>>40165067
You don't have a choice, im holding you as a little spoon and cuddling you wether you like it or not.
>Shhh its ok now
>good girl

>>40165105
No way you write ts out and not be embarrassed

>>40165105
why do you like this mister? what do you like about it?

>>40165105
well i dont know id probably still cry myself to sleep and wake up feeling like shit so idk what the whole point was

>>40162181
tfw no bf to stay inside and cuddle on the couch with

>>40165303
Get a gf instead

>>40165589
ew wtf

>>40162132 (OP)
Fuck her until she stops crying.

im so worried/scared about having a breakdown if i hooked up w someone from grindr (worse if i was trying to get into a relationship w them) bc then it would be super fucking awkward

>>40166296
ok

>>40166296
Depending if it's just a hook up or a attempt to a full relationship he/she can help you up somehow

>>40162132 (OP)
Encourage her to take viagra so she doesn't go soft when she cries and stops hitting your prostate

>>40162182
Can dysphoria get worse as a tgirl gets further into her transition

>>40162132 (OP)
Fuck her and jerk her dick til she cums from her cock and ass then kiss her and act like nothing happened

>>40162132 (OP)
Bruh if you ask a girl to fuck you in the ass, she gonna have some issues about her femininity during sex.

>>40162132 (OP)
Idk, OP. I'm preoccupied with feelings of envy since you have a trans gf and I don't.