>have guy friend who is very affectionate to me
>hugs me, holds my hands, we snuggle sometimes, etc
>it's all "platonic" but it's pretty clear we both like each other
>love each other, maybe. i definitely love him.
>BUT i'm stealth and he thinks i'm a cis girl so i can't ever be more than friends with him because he would dump me
i hate being trans so much

>>40171731 (OP)
couldn't you easily get a srs operation and then have sex with him?

Girl you are delaying the inevitable

>>40171807
yes i know its because i love him ok i dont want to say goodbye yet

you could take the chaser pill, but you won't

>>40171883
And you making it way harder for yourself cause the later you tell him, the more you will suffer and you know that.

>>40171731 (OP)
you retard, tell him already before he beats you up for making him snuggle a troon

>>40172004
if i tell him he'll beat me up

>>40172188
tell him "oh boohoohoo i dont love you anymore" or ghost him

>>40172193
but he's a good person and he's sweet to me and he doesn't deserve to have his feelings hurt

>>40172188
Then you have a dysfunctional attachment to him. If you know he would do that you if he knew, he is not worth your love and care, and you are just putting yourself in danger. At the end of the day, he is just a guy.

>>40172207
He is sweet to the person he thinks you are. You are delusional if you think keeping things like this will do any good to both of you.

>>40172219
he wouldn't actually beat me up but he would be disgusted and probably wouldn't want to be friends anymore

>>40172219
yeah faggot. you're just making this worse retard. TELL HIM OR DO SOMETHING

>>40171731 (OP)
this is so sad :( anonettr you deserve someone who loves you for who you are, don't waste your time with guys like him

>>40172235
Then what you are saying is that you don't have enough self respect if you are okay by being with people that would treat you like that just because you are trans. And if that's the case I don't have any interest and trying to reach someoen who don't want to be helped. Just stay safe and I wish the best for both with you no matter what.

>>40172258
it's not a crazy reaction though i mean i was dishonest, i made him like me by hiding the truth, sure it's messed up in a way but he has a right to be mad, it's like how i would feel if he was secretly a repper.

and i do have self esteem, i have a good amount of it, but also statistically i won't be able to find a good man if i'm not stealth.

>>40171731 (OP)
Need a SRS chaser?

>>40172287
i'm pre-op unfortunately and i'm also not fond of chasers

>>40171731 (OP)
cute
sorry about the last bit though

>>40171801
>easily
L M A O

>>40171731 (OP)
had a similar thing before transitioning, like I was very affectionate and clingy, (most guys were weirded out of course), but one guy was really nice about it and let me hold his hand all the time, but I'm not gay??
I was so confused until I learned that trans is a thing, 'cuz I couldn't imagine myself in a relationship as a guy...

>>40171912
you chasers never want love, you only want a fuck toy

>>40171731 (OP)
date chasers fool

>>40171944
>>40171731 (OP)

Stop ignoring posts that tell you you're hurting this guy more the longer you keep him in the dark, OP. You don't love him if you're ok with hurting him for your selfish desires.

>>40173374
but i cannnnnnt i love him so much i don't want it to be over

>>40173672

That's not cute. Act like a proper adult and take responsibility for your actions.

>>40173374
>>40173977
eh you suck, she isn't at fault here if the guy turns out to be a transphobe

>>40171731 (OP)
lying is bad

>>40174317

That's not how good and evil work. I was about to be arrested for shooting a 6 year old girl in the face until we looked under that girl's vest and saw a bomb and a trigger made from alien technology and the autopsy confirmed she was an alien. Did I know she was an alien? No. Am I an evil person? Yes. I go around with the intent to shoot evil girls in the face, I shouldn't just be released into society, my behavior needs to be reformed. I will eventually hurt innocents. Tf?

Don't listen to that retard OP some men will literally kill you for what you're doing and also you are a bad person. But that can change.

>>40174908

shoot little girls in the face*
not evil girls lol.

>>40174317

Also you think rejection = transphobic. You for sure treat people like that I can smell it. It's the smell. SNIFFFFFF.

>>40174908
what are you even trying to say?

>>40174966
if he stops liking her for being trans then yes, of course he's transphobic, just like you'd be a racist if you suddenly treat someone worse once you find out they are black

>>40174908
dawg ts makes no sense

>>40175089

LOL. Yeah you gotta go. Go back to xitter. If someone isn't attracted to penis or asshole which are necessarily apart of being trans that doesn't mean they think being trans is wrong so it doesnt mean they're transohobic. By your logic straight allies are transphobic. Learn to handle rejection it's ok for other to have preferences. You are also very sufferable and lonley, which is workable, but stop trying to make that other's problem.

>>40175155

Just because you haven't hurt someone doesn't mean your behavior isn't bad if it'll eventually hurt innocent people. I don't mnow why you people can't read and need everything presented to you in really bite sized generalizations but there you go.

>>40175680

>by your logic straight allies are transphobic

ignore that part I meant to remove it before I posted, knowing you'd define trans girls as women and therefore you can be "straight" while being attracted to trans girls. Only the rest of the paragraph is relevant.

>>40171731 (OP)
OP, you gotta be honest to him. Not to be super cheesy, but you'll build up a relationship full of lies, and both of you would feel untrusted and insecure about eachother. Plus, if you tell him and he's affected about it you know you wouldn't want him.

>>40175680
>Go back to xitter
might as well say go back to kiwifarms.

>If someone isn't attracted to penis
that's valid, but it's your fault for making assumptions in the first place. Not every girl has a vagina, some girls are asexual or can't have penetrative sex for medical reasons. If you're hurting when "your girl" ends up not exactly matching your expectations, maybe you just need to stop being a snowflake?

>which are necessarily a part of being trans
that's just retarded

>>40175749
when did she lie to him?

>>40175974

If you get srs it doesn't make any sense to call you a trans girl. You completed your transition presumably. I mean if you didn't uh... well you're not going back LMAO so you will.

>Not every girl has a vagina, some girls are asexual or can't have penetrative sex for medical reasons.

This doesn't have to do with anything you're jumping to include a bunch of groups that are irrelevant to the fact that it's okay to dislike penis/asshole, male chromosomes or whatever intrinsic trans trait. You don't have to unfzirly generalize trans people or think they're evil. I will never understand this need to frame rejection as the same thing as moral condemnation. We can like things we think are bad and dislike things we think are good. Morals are rules you're supposed to stick to regardless of how you feel. I feel like you have like 0 integrity lol.

>>40175974
lying by omission = lying

>>40176795
not if it doesn't hurt them, it's a white lie