my conservative dad who kicked me out of the house at 15 and made me homeless wants to meet up with me after "having changed for the better"

the answer is obviously no right?

>>40173534 (OP)
No, older people think those years were nothing to you but they're everything when you're that young. Fuck that, if he didn't want to fuck up his relationship with his kid he shouldn't have kicked you out

there is no obvious answer
you need to think about if this is something you want. maybe he really has changed, maybe not. do you want to take that gamble? do you want to bother even if he did change? would you care about him wanting to make amends? do you think you will regret it in 10, 20 or 30 years if you never reconnect with your father? it's time to sit down and think.

>>40173534 (OP)
Lol make him fucking work for it
Narcissist parents are pure fucking trash and deserve to suffer

>>40173572
i feel like i wouldnt benefit from seeing him, it would just be for his sake even if he has changed

>>40173534 (OP)
Do you want to have a relationship with him? Do you think you'd be able to have a relationship with him? If the answer is yes, go ahead. If not, don't.

sex time

>>40173534 (OP)
>the answer is obviously no right?
I think you should talk to your father, give him a chance, but he has to pay you reparations, ask him to get you something to eat, to go to a nice place or something, have him make up for your teenage years that he affected negatively.

>>40173596
>it would just be for his sake even if he has changed
I think this is both probably true but also not something that should count against it. If he feels guilty and wants to fix that, that's a good thing. if he "just" misses his child, well, that's a little more selfish but also not really a bad thing either.
>i feel like i wouldnt benefit from seeing him
This is valid. My sister and our father have a rocky relationship too, nothing as drastic as getting kicked out of the house mind you, but she's also at a point in her life where she felt like she didn't really need to bother with our dad's attempts to connect (partly because they felt disingenious and lazy, but that's another story). He was not invited to her wedding and while they have met at times, he'll probably not see his soon to be born grandkid for a while either. The point in this ramble is, if you feel there's no benefit to it, that's a valid reason. I personally I'm a romantic and think it would be neat to reconnect with a father, however naive that notion might be, so maybe think about doing what my sister does and treat this whole thing very noncommitall? He wants to reconnect? Okay, do the work. Make him take you out to dinner first, no seeing where you live. Set the terms. When, where, how often, etc.

Or don't, obviously. It's up to you.

Kill him

>>40173534 (OP)
tell him he fucked up irreparably and to go fuck himself. there is no other option, 'changed' or not

>>40173651

If they don't think they get anything out of seeing their father meeting up is a waste if energy they could spend doing anything else and therefore bad.

I wouldn't

>>40174263
That's why I said make it low commitment. No effort, no expectations.

forgiveness will make you both whole, nona

>>40173534 (OP)
Meet up with him, if you have a bunch of friends, bring them too. Make sure you hide behind bushes, and when you finally see him JUMP HIS STUPID ASS, and spit on him afterwards. Call him a little bitch too, and if his car is in sight, key that shit.

BUUUT if you don't have friends, meet up with him still, but instead of hiding act really friendly. Then when he's close, sucker punch him in the nose while he's caught off guard!

You're welcome.

>>40174601
I'm joking ofc, don't do that ;)

>>40173534 (OP)
I see two options here:
>simply no
>if there's possibility of profiting from him then do so while being indifferent to him and never showing any good will toward him
Both cases will show him that he fucked up beyond repair while second gives him some false hope while you gain some benefit from that

>>40173534 (OP)
Hear him out, but don't be surprised if he was lying about changing.

>>40173534 (OP)
Depends on whether you wish to or not. You can meet and if thats not good enough you can just stop there its your call

>>40173534 (OP)
Well... It's all depend on you, but since you asked for opinion here that mean you also considering meeting him, my advice just meet him, dont say a word just silent and hear what he want to say, and decided after he say everythings, and also choose other place like some restaurant or anything as long as it's not his house, sorry if my english is bad

Get all the money you can and ghost him.

>>40173534 (OP)
He doesn’t deserve it. But forgiveness is not about what he deserves, it’s about what you need. Will it help you to forgive him?

if you grew up from needing him, it would be best to avoid risking yourself again with his presence. He wasn't there when you needed the most, now he returns because he needs to solve his moral dilema? Don't put your self in danger because other's greedyness, forgive him and move on with better people

>>40173534 (OP)
send him the longest message possible unloading all of your hatred and pain onto him and block him
it felt sooo good when I did it

ask yourself really what are you getting out of it? whats in it for you to meet your abuser? i think there's no good reason you should bother.

>>40173534 (OP)
Answer is no, he likely just wants something out you probably money. He will weaponise the fact that he has changed and he is now family to guilt you into whatever he wants.

>>40173534 (OP)
no, because contact with trannies is actively hazardous for normoids
you're doing him a favor by staying away

>>40173534 (OP)
I'm sorry that happened to you OP. I wish I had the courage to go through something like that. Only meet him if you want to.

>>40173534 (OP)
Let him die unfulfilled

>>40173534 (OP)
obviously no, or show up just to tell him how you really feel

>>40173534 (OP)
Tell him you need money