Thread 40197652

>me and a guy have been romancing each other for about a month now
>not boyfriend and girlfriend, but obviously building up to it
>I decide that I don't like him enough romantically to date him and three days ago I send a long message explaining that
>he just says "Okay" and radio silence since this
Was his response rude? It was literally just one word

I think she is just heartbroken, not that it's your fault, it's just how it is. Let him have some time alone

>>40197652 (OP)
No. What else did you want him to say?

>>40197652 (OP)
If you show you aren’t interested, it’s not like he’ll do anything about it.

>>40197652 (OP)
Lmao.
Did you really think that a guy was gonna sit there with a broken heart crying and moping?
His broken heart, if it was broken, either went to a bar, or a gym.

>>40197652 (OP)
That's a normal and appropriate response. He has no reason to associate with you anymore. Good on him for moving on so quickly.

>>40197838
I just think both parties in this kind of situation should communicate and comfort each other

>tells guy she's been trying to romance (leading on) for a while now she's no longer interested
>surprised when he feels some sort of way and cuts contact

You're a special kind of stupid, aren't you?

>>40197857
To what end? Were you friends before this, or was your relationship based on romancing from the start? If all it ever was to him was a potential romance, there's no purpose in associating with you any longer.

>>40197857
Nope. That'll just make each other feel worse, at least on the man's side.

He'll most likely cut complete contact and that's good. He gets to move on and you do what you wanted. You didn't want to date him, right?

Cool. Now deal with it.

>>40197857
>I just think both parties in this kind of situation should communicate
They did.
>Comfort
Hahaha.
This ain't a hallmark movie.

>>40197901
The latter. I was the one who introduced the romantic element from the second day we knew each other

>>40197926
So not only did you jump right into romance mode and not do the right thing by starting off as friends, you led him on.

lol
lmao even

>>40197939
>So not only did you jump right into romance mode and not do the right thing by starting off as friends
I don't see any problem with this part, but I don't think Anon should expect a relationship after romance is gone if that's the case.

>>40197926
Hooooolllldddd up.

You WEREN'T friends before.
YOU introduced the romance.
YOU rescinded the romance of your own accord.
YOU are now upset that he is fine with it and moved on?

>>40197954
Like it's in no way bad to start off with romantic intentions, that can be better in a lot of ways.

>>40197954
This is how you get hurt. When either one or both parties find out it's not going to work, shit HURTS

A tale as old as inexperienced time. You people don't interact with others considering most of you are terminally online but that's not people start off relationships. First you're friends, close friends and maybe something else after that. You people are jumping in the deep end of the pool without knowing how deep it is, then complaining that you didn't know how to swim.

>>40197963
This.

You terminally online, love starved trannies are fucking retarded.

>>40197994
>First you're friends, close friends and maybe something else after that.
Nah, sometimes you ask a girl out at a bar or a bus stop and it keeps going until you're married. Thinking you necessarily have to be close friends before starting a romance is how you end up whining about being friend-zoned.

>>40198035
That won't happen if you slowly start hinting at it during the friendship. Not full on "ayo bby you want sum fuk?" but giving signs that you're interested. If she meets your energy, cool. If she doesn't, you can either choose to remain friends or move on to the next one.

>>40198053
>That won't happen if you slowly start hinting at it during the friendship.
Ain't nobody got time for that. It's okay to be forward with people.

>>40198059
Yes, be forward and blunt in your attempts to romance a girl and see how far that gets you.

Its not mind games. Its called tact and charisma.

>>40198081
>Yes, be forward and blunt in your attempts to romance a girl and see how far that gets you.
It got me a long term gf.

>>40198110
It was also how my parents met, with my dad picking up my mom immediately at a college bar. They've been together happily for many decades.

I'm not saying a slower approach can't ever work, I'm just saying starting fast can work too.

>>40198110
Good for you. Sadly, in my experience, for most of kitchen-americans, that shit doesn't work.

Hope you two get married and make butt babies and shit. No, scratch that, you better marry her.

>>40198165
Thanks anon, I hope it works out too. I can agree it probably isn't the best approach for everyone, so do it your way.

>>40198181
It varies. I've taken that approach before and it ended about as bad as expected.

>>40198059
Unfortunately over time we've gone from no rules to too many rules.

>1955
It's okay for a 30 year old to impregnate a 14 year old so long as he takes responsibility
Abuse is okay so long as you don't kill your wife
Endless persistence is a good thing
You should always plan marriage the day you meet
>2025
Don't date anyone who wasn't born the exact same day as you. Power dynamics and life stages, creep
Never advise a girl on anything or else it's mansplaining
If you ask a girl out once and then do so again 10 years later, you're harassing her. No means no, creep
Date a minimum of 14 years or you're weird and childish and rushing into things

>>40198265
>If you ask a girl out once and then do so again 10 years later, you're harassing her. No means no, creep
This is the funny part.
Women come out with that shit and then wonder why they aren't being pursued.
You see it on Tikkity Tok and all that shit all the time.
>2020: "These men are disgusting perverts who won't leave me alone!"
>2025: "I said no, but I really wanted him to chase me!"
Sorry.
Men listened the first time.

>>40197652 (OP)
genuine question why cant you romance each other without becoming boyfriend girlfriend

>>40198475
He's in love with me. I doubt he'd be okay with that...

>>40198508
*Was in love with you
ftfy

>>40198508
i mean were you willing to do so or even ask if he was fine with it before destroying it all

>>40197652 (OP)
>"I do not want to date you, here is why"
>"Okay"
>"W-why are you so rude?"

>>40197652 (OP)
>reject someone after weeks of flirting
>WTF WHY IS HE UPSET

how was he supposed to respond, retard? you rejected him, he has no reason to keep talking to you.

>>40198690
What I mean is, I don't know if he was hurt or not. Maybe he was so short-spoken because he was sad. He was usually long-winded like me.

>>40198597
I'd feel pretty slimy to play with his emotions, but I could always text him asking if he's okay with your idea.

>>40198508
Be honest. YOU wanted him

>>40198713
your thinking too deep if both of you doing fun stuff and neither of you bringing it up is "playing with his emotions"

>>40198713
Probably he could get sad for a day or another, but he is will eventually forget your. If he download tinder or any other dating app he will be present with tons of dating options and eventually get with another girl.

It's life, you can't die over a single woman or guy.

I hate women so much, it's unreal.

>>40197652 (OP)
similar happened to me but then i did something to make her really angry at me and it showed she really did care about me and liked me
i am a very mentally well individual

>>40197652 (OP)
woman moment

>>40197652 (OP)
99% chance you were in completely different timezones like 99% of alleged trannies who find men who are attracted to them, so it doesn't matter!

Another hoax by the Online ''Relationships'' Institute!

>>40198827
>99% chance you were in completely different timezones like 99% of alleged trannies who find men who are attracted to them, so it doesn't matter!
????????????????

>>40198827

This

Oh boo hoo now you wont be discord calling for 2 hours a day. Get an actual bf faggot

>>40197652 (OP)
I mean what do you want him to say? he thought you were interested romantically, you told him you weren't, and then he stopped pursuing you. all this means is he has self respect and isn't gonna wait around the friend zone for someone who doesn't want him.

>>40198843
It still hurts thoughbeit!