I have been obsessing about relationships with trans women but like how is it actually? Is it difficult to make them happy? Are they unstable? Or can they be productive and long lasting like 5 years at minimum . I have no metric to compare any relationship to so be as detailed as possible because I’m going to be lost otherwise

>>40228761 (OP)
Nobody in here has relationships

>>40228761 (OP)
look up dating advice for regular women and follow that. also assuming u have male friends kind of just treat it like something between that and what youd have with a cis woman. but also keep dysphoria in mind u have to be careful with that it can be debilitating and u have to be ready. uhh dont really have any good advice anon idek tbdesu (but you probably wont even be able to follow advice for at least another 2 months anyway)

>>40228761 (OP)
ive been with my cis bf for 7 years ama i guess

>>40228761 (OP)
It's gonna vary significantly from person to person. We aren't a monolith.

>>40228848
Where and how did you meet?

>>40228855
Duh I wasn’t implying you where
But common themes can happen in all relationships especially if it’s a specific group such as trans women

>>40228856
we met in a friend's discord server, he happened to live extremely close to me (a regional natural disaster had recently happened and i mentioned it so we found out we lived close) so we started talking. i think the first day we met we played pubg lmao
we met irl a few months later. we were both underage so it was a bit difficult to make happen

>>40228848
im not op but ive been seeing you a lot lately, why are you on 4chan as much as you are? i mean yeah leaving is hard but if i had a bf id probably ditch this hellsite

>>40228875
Oh nice
You were still trans right? Considering it was that long ago and you where underage

>>40228866
No not really lol. That's just generalization. Anyway, stop being a dumbass.

>>40228761 (OP)
my gf is very easy to make happy
treat her nice, buy her thingies she wants, let her game, give her lots of kisses and snuggles, each makes her a little bit more happy and i value her happiness over everything so i try to do it as much as possible!
shes much more mentally stable then i am, she would ground me when i felt like hurting myself and visited me in the psych ward during school time but she also has a tendency to get depressed / moody easily. shes also a bit more evil towards everyone but me
shes consistently had the same friend good for 6 years? id say thats long lasting! we've been together for over 3 and a half years though, not over 5 like how i think you want

overall im very happy and in love with her! i gave her a promise ring last year because we turned 18 and I wanted to show her that im serious about he
hopefully ill be able to buy our engagement ring when i turn 22-23

>>40228884
yeah i was still trans, though pretty early in my transition.
>>40228881
ooh ive been noticed. i hope this isn't a downer considering what the conversation is about (my relationship is amazing it's the best thing about my life) but im on here so much lately because i am depressed and it makes time pass. im depressed for a mix of career/educational reasons and the recent political situation here, my worldview was kinda shattered by US v. Skrmetti and i haven't recovered

>>40228912
>pico is 19

>>40228947
is this bad or good im scared i cant tell

>>40228940
sad but i know the feeling. i was off 4chan for a while when i was doing better but everything is shit now :<
>>40228972
lol idek how i feel about it rly i just thought you were like 25 and i feel ancient and wrinkly now (even tho i was 19 3 months ago :ppp)

>>40228897
Well you are a sensitive asshat
I literally see nothing wrong on what i said lmao

>>40228940
Oh then that makes more sense. Also your world view shattering?

>>40228994
yeahhhh. i was clean for over a year! i hadn't used it since january 2024, until starting again recently. ive been coming here whenever i backslide ever since 2019
also omg you people are so young

>>40229022
i guess maybe that's the wrong way to word it. i was still generally an optimist even though i thought a conservative swing against trans ppl was happening. i thought we could still change people's minds and that if they understood dysphoria they would accept us. but the supreme court was given the information and chose to make Tennessee's ban on hrt for minors into precedent that could be enacted in other states or nationwide. i think it's kind of over for a future where trans people have an equal quality of life to cis people. because of that ive felt very demotivated since i think there are decent odds i have no future

>>40229029
20 is fuckimg old... i hit twinkdeath like 7 years ago...

>>40229048
I feel like the only way people can change if they are constantly having positive experiences with trans women
That is how I change

>>40229053

>>40228994
in 3 months we will be the same age
i will surpass you

>>40229053
im gonna be 24 in only a couple months.. technically my mid 20s.....
>>40229064
i hope ive been a positive impression for some of the people in my life

>>40229203
I’m sure you have

>>40228761 (OP)
Not really depending on their mental illness but they always have some mental illness wrt making them happy. But they are good just keep in mind they are very suggestible so keep watch if you are grooming them in a good way and in ways you like them to be and not abuse it.

>>40229162
fuck. well i at least better have a bf or something before u get engaged or thats real suicide hours...

>>40229257
Okay then
I don’t think I will be that much of an influence

>>40229293
Why?

>>40229333
I mean I can’t see myself manipulating them to that point

>>40229267
if u dont i have a cute friend
hes black and Muslim and he's one of my and my gfs closest friends and hes very wise and stopped us from breaking up a bunch and he's socially retarded and a little suicidal
either way i truly believe u will and there will be a pretty diamond on your finger