how do you get over losing the person who means the most to you by spiraling out of control. do they ever end up coming back? i would do anything to have them back. i messed up so bad i don’t want to know the reality i see she was my favorite thing about it and i ruined it and just keep making it worse

>>40238565 (OP)
i'm in the same exact boat right now, i dont think she's coming back, either my ex to me or your ex to you, im sorry. my ex before her would come back but only when i spammed him and begged him which felt horrible

Lmfao imagine having an emotional dependency on other people. Sad

Retarded noob. You had to prevent being dumped beforehand. You had to start cheating when you noticed things were getting weird and finding your second and third choice, so you would have someone right when you get dumped. Now you have to suffer for years until you find someone else

please real advice

>>40238723
but i want her to come back so badly

>>40238565 (OP)
lol

>>40240747
not funny anon >:(

>>40240748
LMAO

>>40238565 (OP)
idk what advice to give you, my bf and me and both bpd and it's the exact combination made in hell you would expect, but i love more thank than life itself and i'll never leave him and hopefully he will never leave me, despite both of us being horrible for eachother when we act out. try talking more to your person and try getting them back, hopefully you can

>>40240754
idk the pride flags but i reallly hope you aren’t her but if you are it’s nice joking around with you and i really fucking am mentally ill and not talking to me is a good decision but i would throw my life away and marry you if you let me

>>40240760
can’t she blocked me back after i pushed her away by blocking her and i finally made an alternate account to message her and she told me directly to fuck off and contacting her further will make her angrier.

>>40238565 (OP)
What’d you do?

how do i move on?

>>40240861
leaving a lot out but, i blocked/unblocked her a few times and she hates this. i think i asked a question about her hrt that she didn’t want to think about? she blocked me im guessing from still being angry me being a bpdemon. i cried and waited a few days to see what would happen. oh well i also went through and manually deleted like a month or 2 worth of my messages. then i publicly spiraled here for a few days in a way she would know it’s me and sent her a mean message on mal bc it was the only place she didn’t have me blocked. then finally made an alt account to message her and she told me to stop contacting her. like ik im an idiot and she isn’t wrong for blocking me. idk there is more to it also on how i’m in the wrong. i really hate myself and just want to move on or like make it better and i deep down the best thing to do is leave her alone but it just hurts. i am incompatible with the world even if i am treated i think

>>40240861
got blocked publicly spiraled here for days about it and then made an alt and messaged her and she told me to fuck off

>>40238565 (OP)
Possibly similar boat? Not sure if bpdemon but may be losing my best friend I'm unhealthily attached to. It's happened dozens of times before but feels worse than most breakups I've been through. Honestly most times someone is trying to leave you can eventually talk things out and get them to stay

>>40241212
i’m sorry mines just good friend too but idk complicated and yeah hurts worse than most break ups

>>40241242
If you have discord we can commiserate lol

>>40241265
Don't be stupid anon. A discord with BPD cases from 4chan is the LAST thing anyone in this thread needs. >>40241265

>>40241265
if you want too

>>40241305
yeah what this anon said im very chill with most ppl though but do have a track record of random blocking unfortunately

>>40241313
What's yours

>>40241348
radishcarrot

>>40241348
do u wanna post yours maybe?

>>40241398
Not sure why it keeps marking me as spam. Your person in question also browse here?
Metalheadspider

>>40241468
yeah and your names seems scary. i have severe arachnophobia are u nice?

>>40240769
damn is that bpd i thought i was just feeling things

>>40241480
Yeah im just autistic about insects and arachnids. Will avoid sending pics of spiders

>>40241495
i was kinda half doing a bit maybe but like also it is truth idk yeah that is kinda what is going on in my head but also i am not diagnosed bpd but i do have ptsd and dysregulation that is exacerbated by currently treating it

>>40241500
i normally censor the word spider thats how bad it is pls dont send me anything bad

>>40238738
>imagine having an emotional dependency on other people.
im sorry man :/

All you can do is accept that you lost them, forgive yourself, and move on. Give yourself time before you date again, grow up a little and learn from the mistakes that cost you this person you cared for.

>>40242232
do you think if i wait 6 months to a year and try contacting them we could be friends again?

>>40238565 (OP)
I absolutely fucked up everything with a trans girl I was in love with back in 2016 but we patched everything up again now and I’m seeing her again soon. There’s still hope yet if you’re patient maybe

>>40242285
Yea but the new time together will last even less time, and theness the next time etc etc

>>40242299
the goal is to be at least fully medicated done with the hard part of therapy stuff im doing and in a better position in life. i really hope she doesn’t hate me forever, but yeah if she ever wants anything to with me again to not fuck it up and be how things are when they are nice between us and idk hopefully be in a place to develop that further

>>40242298
i pray this happens to me but sooner

>>40242298
also ty and im glad you are getting another chance but idk i may have completely fucked up also i’m just like probably broken beyond what can maintain good close relationships

>>40238565 (OP)
You need to find someone that loves you no matter what state your bpd has put you in
t. bpdemon

>>40242432
Bpdemons will eventually leave, and probably cheat and ruin your life in many ways no matter how much you love them or how hard you try. Just a matter of time sadly.

>>40242440
I have never cheated, and been a loving commited partner in all my relationships.
Having bpd can make you do some fucked up things, or treat people badly when you don't mean to, however you can still be a good and moral person to those you love!

i really do ruin and taint everything i touch

bump

>>40238565 (OP)
She's not coming back. Take a few days to feel bad but then steel your heart and turn this love into spitefuel to grow better and make her wish she came back when she sees you(never let go but act like you do)

>>40242440
I cheated but let's be honest... Non-BPDers have a different idea of what "trying hard".
I made every partner my passenger princess. I'd drive through snowstorms or sunshine for multiple hours just to see them, pay for every date, hell I'd even plan the dates. I used to wake up at odd hours in a fae mood, creating "offerings" for my partner out of home made alcohol, blood, clay, digital art, or even just pen and paper. I'd carry them around on the phone all day if I could, even doing my typical yard work or hobbies with them in my ear. And I was always invested in my partner's life and hobbies, watching their favorite shows with them. I'd even order them random (sometimes expensive) gifts, or replace broken stuff without asking. I'd easily clean up their spaces, provide emotional support no matter the time of day, and offer them future monetary stability. And this is me barely trying.
But for a non-BPDer you likely can't accomplish a lot of this without "trying hard". Meanwhile, I percieve all of my exes as "not trying hard enough".