>>40281680actually, let me elaborate on that - the way he feels is the way he feels, and gay or not, if he's dating you, he's already acting on it.
if he's too ashamed of himself to tell others about you - if he's still SOOO caught up on "but what if its gay" - he wants his cake and to eat it too.
he doesn't want the discomfort of being honest with others despite what they might thing, but still wants, selfishly, to chase a relationship with someone to improve his mood and feelings of comfort - just privately, despite how it will harm and affect you.
this is in contrast to you, who have done the very hard work of being public with who you are and how you need to live your life, despite how horrible others will be with it. he wants to capture you for himself without being a fraction of the person you are. he is using your fortitude as a shield, and skirting his responsibility to you. that's embarassing on him, not you.