hey. ive tried repping but i still just feel like a piece is missing from my life cause i havent transitioned. im 22 and not too masculine, so i think i still have hope if i transition. my gf has 50/50 of staying with me if i transition provided i dont get srs, which i dont really want anyways. if she leaves i might genuinely kill myself cause she is genuinely perfect for me and makes my life so much better. so staying with her is really important. shes open-minded, i just dont know if shed still want to be with me if i medically transition, i wouldnt blame her, but i would be willing to keep repping to stay with her guaranteed.

Transbians man ...
Just stop watching porn lil bro and put a ring on it. Your girl that is, not your cock.

>>40294945
i dont watch porn. im very loyal to my gf and i think porn is cheating.

>>40294932 (OP)
I think you should find a real psychologist to get that crap out of your head. If you transition, you’ll ruin your relationship. Take control of your life, man, and stop letting porn and internet nonsense influence you.

>>40294958
Kappachungusdeluxe

>>40294965
once again i dont watch porn and im not really that online anymore, only really to talk to friends and some hobby discord servers. the thought of transitioning has just been in my head for a very long time, at least since i was around about 11, so trust me ive tried to make it go away. it might be less 'making it go away' and moreso 'ignoring it'

>>40294932 (OP)
Honestly, I'd just put it all out there. Say you aren't planning on changing your sexual devices (i.e. you plan to maintain erectile function and not get SRS), but that you'd like to get on HRT and present more feminine.
Make it clear that this doesn't mean that you are going to change who you are a person, you're only changing your gender expression to match who you feel you are on the inside.
>>40294945
>>40294965
>muh porn
You retards are so unhelpful.
I don't understand why people even

>>40294982
You need to grow up. You’re in a relationship, stop acting like an indecisive little kid.

>>40294932 (OP)
Thats awful anon, I'm so sorry :(. I don't know how well you can handle repressing permanently, but I do know that locking away a piece of your life like that will only make it slowly rot you from the inside out, and long term that would probably equally damage your relationship with her because of the additional stress and the risk of trooning out even later down the line. Have you told her you have GD at all yet? If not I think you should start with that instead of saying you are going to transition first, let her know how badly it hurts you and that you genuinely need this treatment, say you are considering it and ask what she thinks. I cant say anything for certain, obviously if she loves you she'd want to be with you no matter what but if she's straight she may be less attracted, its just how sexuality works, so it is a gamble, I am sorry.

>>40295021
she already knows im not very masculine, i.e. willing to wear makeup, womens clothes, act in 'feminine' ways so it probably wouldnt be a huge shock. ive even said that its something ive dealt with in the past but implied its not really a thing anymore. and i know she'd accept me 100%, considering one of her best friends is trans, i just dont know if she'd stay with me. and honestly i would be completely unable to handle her breaking up with me, so its why im so scared to risk it.

>>40295000
This as well, you described it excellently Nona. I think it is important that you stress that you arent going to change who YOU are, just that this is a part of you thats always been there and you can't live with burying it. You are you, just a girl. And sex life is important obviously so, if need be explain that too haha.

>>40295000
maybe thats the approach, though i still feel sick from the anxiety i get just thinking of telling her cause i know she might see me differently and not want a romantic relationship anymore cause of it.

>>40295035
I cant know your thought process so I cannot say, im sorry. If you truly think its going to last forever and she's the one you'd want to keep, I think you should consider how well you can handle repressing it in the long term, or if it will make you miserable and make it harder for you to stay together anyway. Its also still definitely worth it to ask her about how she'd feel beforehand.

>>40295004
>indecisive little kid
Oh yeah, because deliberating over a life-altering decision is the same as not knowing what toy you want to buy at Target.
Shut the fuck up.
>>40295035
>i.e. willing to wear makeup, womens clothes, act in 'feminine' ways so it probably wouldnt be a huge shock.
Honestly... I think she probably already knows you're trans.
>>40295048
>i know she might see me differently and not want a romantic relationship anymore cause of it.
Maybe you should try and find a way to (subtly) ask her how she'd feel about it then.

>>40295075
yeah i mean were talking about marriage/engagement and just figuring out the logistics around it (i have traditional parents so were just dealing with them lol otherwise wed already be engaged), so yeah definitely a forever type of deal. and yeah id at least try talking to her to see what she thinks of it if i were to seriously want to do it, its the least id owe her lol

>>40295095
maybe...or at the very least she is okay and even attracted to my more feminine presentation, she says she likes me in eyeliner and black nail polish and so on (were both goth/alt, and she likes it when i add women's clothes into outfits too).
yeah i might try to find out how shed feel about it without just fully outing myself

>>40294932 (OP)
What do you mean repressing? Refusing to get on HRT or not doing anything feminine at all, for me, even if I got all dressed up and often getting help from her didn't stop the dysphoria, she was OK with crossdressing, she gifted me most of the clothes I own hoping that would help me feel better, going out, drinking together, allowing me to be as feminine as possible, anything except transitioning but it never worked, I got to a point where I was an emotional wreck and although I was set on never getting into replacement therapy again she "suggested" it, for years I refused, believing she would leave me but she wouldn't let that thought go, "You've been on it already anyway, you've got nothing to lose" heavily contrasted with her transphobic comments when she was angry, finally caved in and life has been getting better, I get mood swings but the bad emotions are not intense anymore, I get sad but not depressed, transitioning helped me get my life back on track even our relationship that I thought long gone after she left me has started healing.

But the thing is that she always knew, so I guess you should expose her the idea first before making any decisions.

woa i have the exact same problem it legit could've been me who created this thread. gonna follow it for a bit

>>40295192
yeah not going onto hrt is what i mean. cause while im still not super masculine now, i know ill feel like shit once i have twinkdeath and hit late 20s/early 30s, and i want to take hormones so i at least stay andro when i get older. i dont even necessarily care about passing or being conventionally feminine 24/7 or whatever, just being comfortable in my skin as i get older

>>40294932 (OP)
if ur gf is a tranny you should do it it’d be funny but if ur gf is cis don’t do it ur ruining ur life

>>40295150
>she says she likes me in eyeliner and black nail polish and so on (were both goth/alt, and she likes it when i add women's clothes into outfits too).
It sounds like she's done everything short of telling you she wouldn't mind if you transitioned.
Still feel things out first, but I highly doubt she'll break up with you.

>>40295203
its hard isnt it... like i want hrt, but i dont want to risk my relationship. cause my life without my gf was fine, its just...fine. its okay. but she makes my life shine and sparkle, and i just cant risk losing her, and i think id be willing to rep and sacrifice that part of me if i could guarantee being with her, or that its scary to bring it up with her cause of that risk, or something like that lol

>>40295240
you really think so? its like i have this evidence, but its still really hard to tell that little voice in my head to just shut up you know? that she is just going to break up with me over it

>>40295226
Well tell her that, if she's into you for what you are then she will understand, it's good that you always presented yourself fully, and if you have ever been en femme she might have thought about it anyway.
Doubt she will leave you, women tend to be understanding even more so when in a healthy relationship.

>>40295260
>you really think so?
Yeah.
She has openly told you that she likes it when you dress feminine.
She didn't get scared off by you mentioning you've had some degree of GD.
She has trans friends, so she probably views trans people positively.
I'm seeing nothing but good signs.
>its still really hard to tell that little voice in my head to just shut up you know?
Well, yeah. You love her.
Of course you're going to be scared.
As an outsider looking in though, I think things will turn out well.

>>40295243
yeah it is, totally. she's one of the most if not the most kind and caring person i've ever met. but she didn't sign up for all of this when i asked her out and getting on hrt which eventually will turn me infertile might not be what she wants because she's straight. i indirectly asked her what she would think if i was trans a while back and she said that it'd be "both good and bad"

>>40295306
yeah youre right, she is really understanding so its not like, doomed

>>40295329
hmm okay ill try to silence that little voice and make the anxiety chill out when i decide to tell her, hopefully sometime soon

>>40295363
yeah thats another part of it for me, is she and i both want kids, and if she can help it she wants them to biologically be ours. shes okay if they arent but its her preference, so id 100% need to freeze some sperm which is another added expense to that whole process x.x

it sucks that she said there good and bad, and im hoping that it pans out well for you anon, hopefully you get your happiness and stay with your girlfriend

>>40295403
true, we haven't talked about having kids much yet but i might need to do that too...

i haven't asked her what she means by "good and bad" but i guess she would mention the same things i'm stressing about. thank you, i hope it turns out good for you too c:

>>40294932 (OP)