Bigen - self-improvement edition - /lgbt/ (#40301899) [Archived: 410 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/6/2025, 5:49:15 PM No.40301899
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bieyecandy
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/Bigen/ - bisexual general - self-improvement edition

>QotT1 : What are you doing to self-improve anons? Going to the gym? Reading? Studying?

Previous Thread: >>40292380

Tagmap:https://tagmap.io/tag//bigen/

FAQ:
>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?
>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?
>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?
Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.
>Do you love me, OP?
stares at you with my big black moth eyes
>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?
Only difference is that our flag is prettier.
>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?
This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.
>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?
'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.
>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?
Both are able to be attracted to trans people.
>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?
Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.
>Should I be harsh on myself?
You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for you

Resource for Bisexuals:
https://biresource.org/
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 5:50:51 PM No.40301913
why does the girl's crotch look different from the guy's?
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 5:52:18 PM No.40301926
>>40301913
the man has a penis the woman does not
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 6:02:56 PM No.40302010
>>40301926
imagine being that guy, having to see that, and everyone expects you to not go crazy with jealousy
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 6:26:36 PM No.40302225
>>40301899 (OP)
>mostly fucked around with chicks
>have only ever topped dudes
>starting to look at certain guys and go yeah really want this dude to fuck me
>not even in a cutesy let's slowly make love way
>as in i want him to completely dominate me
>cocky and very assertive irl so most men assume i top
Am i being autistic or will this be a turn-off for a lot of men? my personality and lack of experience feel like they are cons.
t. bi zoomer male
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 6:27:51 PM No.40302233
holy guac

the moth thread dies at 18?

its no bigen x nbgen thats for sure
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 6:55:21 PM No.40302510
>>40302225
Will what be a turnoff? Wanting to bottom while being confident? I don't think that'll be an issue.
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 6:58:53 PM No.40302549
>>40301899 (OP)
>Going to the gym?
Recently got my bench to 3x5 200 lbs and it was pretty EZ, I think I'll finally reach 2 plates by the end of the year. Same with OHP, 3x5 120 lbs and 3x5 1 plate goal.
Then I'll be good with my strength and I'll switch to a higher rep bodybuilding type thing.
>Other
Been organizing personal projects, gave myself more of an order to do them all in instead of just doing some here and there and then never finishing anything.
>Work
Switched teams at work so my plan to promo to senior engineer has been set back a bit, but figuring stuff out at the new team.
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:01:08 PM No.40302585
yeah I'm a bishit
> t.ranny
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:02:10 PM No.40302597
>>40302510
partly that, not sure if a top (especially the more dominant ones) want someone a little more meek and with more experience bottoming
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:03:05 PM No.40302607
>>40302597
>not sure if a top (especially the more dominant ones) want someone a little more meek and with more experience bottoming
It depends on the top. Some specifically like guys who have never bottomed before.
In my case, if I haven't bottomed in more than a couple years I just say I'm very inexperienced lol
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:08:48 PM No.40302669
>>40302607
thanks anon, that's good to know
hopefully can find a guy who does not care too much about the lack of experience
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:13:41 PM No.40302715
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>>40301899 (OP)
When a bisexual woman is having sex with a woman she is "lesbian" (in that moment!).

If that is the case, then, are bisexual men/women all not turned on by words that start with "L" and end with "N".

Why is there only one who sees the missing piece to this puzzle amongst the gay community? How much more protection & leverage do women need -up to and including placing unjust restrictions on men?

Why does she get a word that has a nationality (lesbian) & an imaginary friend and bisexual men do not?
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 7:23:43 PM No.40302812
>>40301899 (OP)
>>QotT1
I'm working two jobs and studying for certifications. It's a rough time but working my ass off is my best bet rn.
I should find time to read desu, and i probably can i spend a lot of time just traveling to and from work.
Honestly i was recently faced with the decision of improving or giving up forever and i don't wanna kms yet.
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 9:40:48 PM No.40304442
>>40301899 (OP)
Moving out with my girlfriend end of this month so that's gonna let me focus a lot more on my writing and art
However ny work is currently fucking me around with shifts and hours so now applying for new jobs, hopefully get something in a few weeks
Will take some adjusting to get things sorted for my gym and running schedule, but we shall see how it goes
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 9:52:48 PM No.40304587
>>40302715
is this guy schizophrenic or am i missing something here?
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 9:58:59 PM No.40304662
>>40304587
yes
yรผyi
7/6/2025, 10:42:15 PM No.40305065
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>>40301926
hehโ€ฆ i guess u could say that im not like other girlsโ€ฆ.
archer !!Pr48GEHcE89
7/6/2025, 10:45:31 PM No.40305088
giggle-chuckle
giggle-chuckle
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>>40302225
>bi zoomer male
>bi
>zoomer
>male
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 10:47:56 PM No.40305108
>>40305088
i don't have anything against trannies (i actually quite like them) but yeah def a dude my man
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:04:24 PM No.40305255
>>40301899 (OP)
>>QotT1 : What are you doing to self-improve anons? Going to the gym? Reading? Studying?
Kinda weird answer but I read Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski to better understand female sexuality. Not even because I had relationships fail or anything I was just horny and wanted to channel that into something.
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:05:50 PM No.40305273
>>40305255
Nice. When I was a young teen I read a bunch about sex online and helping women reach orgasm and it helped me out a lot when I started having sex later on.
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Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:08:23 PM No.40305296
>>40305273
I was super into Dan Savage when I was in high school which is embarassing because I'm not a millenial I'm an early zoomer lmao
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:08:40 PM No.40305300
Iโ€™m not actually bisexual. Stop accusing me.
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:17:52 PM No.40305405
>>Going to the gym?
Twice a week. I want to make more time for exercising at home though.
>>Reading?
I've been reading quite a bit recently.
>>Studying
I go back to the community college i go to in August. I'm interested in doing guitar courses online.

The problem is that I have a YouTube addiction and I tend to watch the same kinds of videos. I want some way to quit it other than for music since that's what I am mostly interested in.
bich ass !!us/ifB4G3vG
7/6/2025, 11:19:31 PM No.40305423
>>40301899 (OP)
>What are you doing to self-improve anons? Going to the gym? Reading? Studying?
i gym every day, i dont read as much as i want to, and im on a study break but im learning new things all the time
Anonymous
7/6/2025, 11:43:01 PM No.40305638
>>40302510
>>40302597
there is such thing as a power bottom but it sound like you really still want to be dominated so not sure what your asking...

>>40302669
>does not care too much about the lack of experience
most guys are happy to guide you as it were- if they themselves know what they are doing. If they dont and your not properly ready it can hurt.
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 12:57:01 AM No.40306399
>QotT1 : What are you doing to self-improve anons? Going to the gym? Reading? Studying?
been trying to go to the gym more but so far ive just been rotting and reading more lore relating to my newest hyperfixation game
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 4:39:36 AM No.40308377
what are the chances an acquaintance or something asks me to suck his cock? how can i increase these chances?
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 4:52:26 AM No.40308450
>>40301899 (OP)
>QotT1 : What are you doing to self-improve anons?
Self improvement has been much needed recently, and I'm happy to say I think I'm closer than ever to making it.
>Going to the gym?
I've actually picked up calisthenics again, and it's been feeling so good I can feel myself improving, I need to eat more though
>Reading?
Bought a copy of Metro 2033, really enjoying so far
>Studying?
Yeah this is the part that still needs improving, I still really have trouble going to work everyday...
But wagmi, I truly believe so.

Also thread pic is pure bi fuel I want them both so bad, at the same time if possible
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 5:05:56 AM No.40308551
>>40308377
offer to suck it?
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 8:41:17 AM No.40309804
>>40305638
pretty much. It's more so I lack a natural obedience, if that makes sense. Kind of like the idea of him breaking me in you know? Being put in my place by someone stronger and more dominant.
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 11:10:54 AM No.40310434
>>40301899 (OP)
bumps
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 3:22:58 PM No.40311640
Is it possible to feel a lot of disgust towards same sex attraction? I am pretty certain I am bisexual but for some reason I feel a lot of aversion towards engaging with another man. I'm starting to question whether I really am bi, but I fantasize about eating dick all the time and really like men's forearms and jawline for instance.
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bich ass !!us/ifB4G3vG
7/7/2025, 3:25:26 PM No.40311656
>>40311640
u might just be bicurious if ur disgusted by the prospect
honestly this is the most common type of question people ask here and i think the most important thing to remember is that it literally doesnt matter if ur "really" bi or not, there is no prize and there are no certificates for being "truly bi"
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 3:33:33 PM No.40311719
>>40311656
The thing is I've gotten to a point where there is basically no way that I am straight, but I also feel a lot of disgust towards same sex attraction.

Maybe it is internalized homophobia I am not so sure.
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bich ass !!us/ifB4G3vG
7/7/2025, 3:34:47 PM No.40311731
>>40311719
that could be the answer
whatever the case may be ur u and thats all that really matters
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 3:37:37 PM No.40311744
>>40311656
as if it's so unlikely someone is homophobic and gay at the same time lol
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 4:07:30 PM No.40311903
>>40311744
how does this manifest for most people?
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 7:19:03 PM No.40313562
my bumps are bisexual
bich ass !!us/ifB4G3vG
7/7/2025, 9:11:47 PM No.40314836
>>40311744
well the poster didnt give me that vibe, a self hating androphile isnt trying to think of themselves in that relationship i would think
Anonymous
7/7/2025, 11:17:18 PM No.40316184
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>brother texts ne a picture of the tranny he's dating
>actually, one of three trannies in his polycule
>his favorite to go by how often he talk about "her"
>the most fridge shaped, neckless man i've ever seen
>nearly a head taller than him
groce. i hope he remains three full timezones away from me for as long as this lasts. i do not wamt to see that thing at a family gathering.
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 11:25:25 PM No.40316279
I swear I must be hot af. lots of women give me the eyes, I just was so self conscious that I never did anything
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Anonymous
7/7/2025, 11:41:59 PM No.40316411
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>>40311719
>The thing is I've gotten to a point where there is basically no way that I am straight, but I also feel a lot of disgust towards same sex attraction.

The thought of penetrative butt stuff disgusts me but I like cawks. The guys I'm attracted to are either twinkish or roided out autoandrophiles, with nothing between unless there's a rare instance of a 3D ambush.

Like I could easily kiss or swordfight but everything else feels alien.
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yรผyi
7/8/2025, 12:17:49 AM No.40316778
>>40316184
>cis man in a polycule
you never told me anything about what he looks like and yet i can already picture it
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 1:08:26 AM No.40317263
>>40316411
That's not super uncommon. I have a bi friend who likes receiving blowjobs from guys (and occasionally giving them), but he has no interest in anything anal (giving or receiving, with men or women).
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:21:45 AM No.40318533
>>40316279
Make it a point to be more assertive. People say this comes with time or experience or whatever, but you have to actively create those times and experiences. Otherwise you'll never get any better.
Take it from this attractive sperg who's missed a ton of opportunities.
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:46:50 AM No.40318736
my dad hates my bread :(
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:48:17 AM No.40318747
>>40318736
FUCK I MEANT BEARD
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:48:25 AM No.40318749
>>40318736
He is not a true slav
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:49:23 AM No.40318759
>>40318736
FUCK I MEANT BREASTS
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 3:52:32 AM No.40318783
>>40318736
FUCK I MEANT LAD
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 4:15:35 AM No.40318960
2021-11-10 19_28_02-Window
2021-11-10 19_28_02-Window
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>date says she only sees me as a friend after delaying our second date a week
JUST LET ME FINGER YOUUUUUUUU
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 5:34:39 AM No.40319610
>>40316778
yeah
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 6:31:01 AM No.40319979
>>40318960
>delaying our second date a week
At that point just throw in the towel and ghost her lmao
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 6:57:01 AM No.40320167
>>40319979
yeah I gave her a second chance and she hit me with the scam
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 7:09:55 AM No.40320256
>>40320167
Good man. It seems cynical to assume that delaying a second date means that a woman doesn't wanna date you, but it's 100% true lmao
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 11:26:22 AM No.40321762
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william morris textile
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>>40301899 (OP)
Off the top of my head, going to therapy, taking meds, trying my best to stay on top of my health problems
and teaching myself to manage my time efficiently
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 4:27:30 PM No.40323127
>>40301899 (OP)
>qott1
Yeah I go 6 days a week and need to stop smoking so much weed, but I just gotta remind myself that Im not missing out on anything when I want to get high. Then I get nihilistic like I could die tomorrow whats the point after hitting a pr to justify smoking a bowl afterwards X(
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 4:29:05 PM No.40323136
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NEED TRANNY GOCK
FFUUUUUUUU
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 7:08:47 PM No.40324360
>>40316411
Yea I really like penis as well. I also view most men I meet as a potential romantic and sexual partner.
Anonymous
7/8/2025, 7:43:54 PM No.40324670
I kneel, enbybigen fags, the comfort of not HAVING to bump a thread n just comfortably type whatever whenever was too good to have back
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Anonymous
7/8/2025, 9:25:20 PM No.40325477
>>40324670
i mean i'm here still keeping it alive
it's tough i have a job anons ):
don't know how the they/thems do it