my gf (t4t) got kicked out by her parents a few weeks ago after she came out, so she moved in with me. we've only been dating a few months, but i'm so in love with her

we hug and cuddle basically all day, and we spend the rest of the time taking turns using my computer. she nearly never leaves the apartment by herself. it's taken a few weeks to get her to even go to the store without me

i feel like i can't go even a few hours without her anymore. she went to see some of her friends today and i keep tossing and turning in bed thinking about when she'll be back. i want to call her but i know it's not healthy...

i love her so much

>>40366774 (OP)
>she went to see some of her friends today
mistake #1. never let your significant other have any friends that aren't you

>>40366788
i need to help her be more independent. it's good for her :c

>>40366828
wrong. being independent only leads to bad outcomes. you need to isolate her until she is completely dependent on you

>>40366842
This anon is insane

But very cute nona! Honestly hope me and my gf have this one day since its alr so painful to be away from her now (she lives 4ish hours away)

>>40366854
>This anon is insane
my advice is the opposite of insane. it is good advice if you want a lasting & intense relationship

>>40366842
Stop trying to groom dumbass agp troonbians into being abusive. They’re stupid enough for it to work

>>40366774 (OP)
Awwww nona that sounds wonderful I'm glad you found someone that makes you happy <3. There's something very special about codependency and the feeling of mutual vulnerability that comes with it, but once she's ready you should definitely also do whatever you can to help her function on your own and vice versa for yourself. Yea there's something romantic and sweet about needing each other to survive, but people are volatile and the risk of one of you breaking down when the other needs you is always there and it could end with you hurting each other if you aren't ready to take special care to navigate that. I hope things go well for the two of you, its really sweet of you to let her live with ya as well :3.

>>40366854
she's going back to her uni 3 hours away when the school year starts again. i don't know how we're gonna handle it to be honest

>>40366877
>Stop trying to groom dumbass agp troonbians into being abusive. They’re stupid enough for it to work
it's only abuse in the eyes of society. but that doesn't mean it isn't actually a good thing. if you're going to date someone, you should be their whole world. they don't need other people.

>>40366928
can you two stop. im trying to yearn here

>>40366869
It definitely is insane, it sounds like the worst npd impulses in my own head speaking. Even if you do that for your own selfish purposes, at some point either you will break for a while and be unable to provide for her or she will want to be more independent and grow frustrated and (rightfully) scared if you try to discourage her from doing so.

>>40366910
thank you Mari. of course i let her move in with me, she's so amazing... i think there's a stereotype about this