>>40441227>Nevermind that literally like 99% of "poly" people either aren't actually poly (just using it as an excuse to have multiple partners or straight up cheat)No, those the "real" poly people.
You've been fed a fantasy by shitty books like "ethical non-monogamy" that polyamory has all these rules about communication and introducing your partners and shit. And it's not your fault, because the "ethical" polyamory crowd is explicitly trying to marginalize the rest of us because we hurt "their image".
In reality, the vast majority of those "ethical" polyamory people just want to get into monoamorous people's pants. They want to convince you that they can offer you the same stability and security that a monoamorous relationship can, without actually offering that.
And those that have actually accomplished their little polycule already and aren't looking to add people, just want normie cishet people to treat them like "one of them." So they proceed to punch down the rest of polyamorous people to prove "we aren't like them!!!"
The majority of poly people just don't give a shit about "commitment" in a relationship. If they say they do, it's just because they are mirroring what popular culture has told them relationships should be like. But when the chips are down, and someone hot is flirting with us, we don't even think about you waiting back at home.
We're the ADHD people that get hyperfixated by what's in front of us. We're the communist-brained freaks that don't actually understand the feeling of "jealousy" no matter how many times we hear others explain it. We're the narcissists that crave validation from other people at all costs. We're the psychopaths that think other people are NPCs.
For better or worse, it's just that we are this way, and that results in the behaviours we practice. Many of us don't even recognize the "poly" label yet, but we do know what we want. And fighting against our natures just leads to broken relationships.
