To anons who have no one in your life at all, how are you coping?

How do you get things done?

>>40464251 (OP)
Unfortunately you force yourself to :/ being alone isn’t bad it just makes you self reliant

>>40464251 (OP)
It's not hard. I simply do what I like and try to make myself better. I don't allow myself to dwell on useless thoughts and self-flagellation.

>>40464299
>>40464275

I dont know how to cope. I have to collect medication or go to the shops, i cant face it, already on the edge

Had enough of life

>>40464338
I should say that I have friends and that helps a lot.

>>40464621
trying to make friends is so painful bc it makes me confront the fact that i’ve either abandoned or been abandoned by everyone in my life. so idk how to get over it

>>40464251 (OP)
I'm not.
I don't.

>>40464621
Yeah i imagine having someone to talk to helps a lot. I have no one. Ive gone insane and cant handle a basic conversation now

>>40464749
:(

Do you have a support worker or anything? I had one then she refused to see me again

>>40464631
Making friends is a genuine skill, and no one ever teaches us

>>40465945
Tbh I don’t have frens, you get used to being alone, people forget you exist and it’s scary and liberating, I got myself into a lotta introspective stuff, meditation, ritualism, peak schizo behavior even color coded underwear to match the planetary days but it’s probably not healthy

>>40466037
mmm you had me till planet underoos. for what purpose?

humans suck irl as much as they suck online. irl they just usually put up a little effort to hide it. i'm fine having contact to people only through internet, at least here people can be honest

>>40466081
Yeah the internet revealed the vast majority of people are bad.

Only millennials could handle the separation between real life and the inernet. Zoomers and boomers both think the net is real.

They will upload themselves committing crimes, this is new. Its like if it doesnt happen online, it didnt happen at all.

>>40466037
Yeah same, im forgotten, my neighbour once asked what i do all day, i said i was mentally ill and she became nasty to me.

I had just given her a card and a plant to say thank you for being quiet, as noise upsets me

>>40466037
>ritualism
Rituals are good, help structure the day

>>40464251 (OP)
I don't. I spend all my time getting high, crying, or distracting myself. My days have no structure. My life has no meaning. It is only a matter of time.

I genuinely don't know how to cope. My teeth, skin and hair are nasty because I can go for month without brushing and showering. My mental health is beyond fucked. I work just enough to not starve to death, and I spend all spare time bedrotting or gooning. When I make genuine effort to connect to people, they push me away. I'll probably end up killing myself when I figure the most reliable and least painful way (not American so no gun)

>>40466051
Gain control over certain situations, like Tuesday is mars, assertiveness, red, forward. Tomorrow is Wednesday- mercury, orange, heath. Thursday - Jupiter , wealth, home, money. Friday - Venus love, emotion, intense feelings. Saturday - Saturn (s) day, black, self reflection, lessons, loss. Sunday - the sun’s (son’s) day, care, rebirth, new energy, fresh energy. Monday - moons day - moms day, silver, grey, unknown, new, serenity, femininity, quiet, silence is loud. It’s more than just that though, I have hours mapped out as well working on a distributive 12 hours (in name only) system to each planet half day half night it constantly changes so you have to know how many hours of sunlight are in a day
>>40466415
I can’t live without them, I need structure otherwise I fall further into depression or feel like I fucked up

>>40466829
I have this too. My place is so messy yet i know where everything is. I amble a lot, just amble around, in a daze.

I dont get high though, panic attacks, i throw up, feel anxious and drug dealers would just rob me

>>40466901
This system sounds really good. It encourages organisation, and helps compartmentalise feelings. I like it.

Im way too chaotic atm to consider such a system. Just doing my medicine is a challenge.

Again? Again.

>>40467666
It starts with breathing, meditation, and taking time for self improvement like showering, washing your face, etc like it took me a while to take to the idea of saying when I shower “I cleanse myself body mind and soul” to remove not only dirt but thing that made me stagnant, like it feels good

>>40464251 (OP)
when I was alone I always thought about how sharks have to keep swimming or water will go into their gills and they'll die.
So when I woke up I'd think about being a shark and start moving. And then if I ever sat down too long and needed to get myself up, I'd just think about the shark again.
You just have to think about the shark. You have to move your body, everything that needs doing requires moving your body, even doing stuff online you gotta move your fingers i guess.
Just be in motion as much as you can, then at the end of the day breathe a sigh of relief that you are not in fact a shark and go to bed and dream underwater dreams

>>40464251 (OP)
copious amounts of alcohol and talking to strangers online

>>40469039
this is one of the best thing i've read on this board in ages

>>40464251 (OP)
>How do you get things done?
I get nothing done
I don't leave my house hardly ever and the days blend into one another

>>40469039
Im gonna think of the shark.

Im gonna get things done

Repairman coming to my apartment in 3 hours, i havent slept, the place is very very messy and im in a state of terror.

I wish i had someone to help i wish i had someone to help

>>40464251 (OP)
Because if you do nothing you will remain alone

>>40464251 (OP)
This thread pisses me off like I’m extremely lonely yet I’m not that big of a whiner you have to do something

>>40471447
Go be pissed off elsewhere, leave us in peace then, no one asked you to be here

>>40464251 (OP)
I thankfully have internet friends now, but just go slow. I honestly don't get nearly as much as I should done, but I'm not actively speeding up dying now

>>40471460
FUCK YOU THEN YOU WONDER WHY PEOPLE ARE ALONE IM SPEAKING THE TRUTH

>>40471509
Dont care

>>40471512
Fuck you
You know I have good advice you piece of shit like you don’t think about how lonely you are just like you didn’t think about death everyday

>>40471531
I have severe mental issues, i need genuine help

>>40471552
Then go to a therapist instead of here
This place will make you more sick in the mind
Get out and go find someone who can deal with that not random internet weirdos

>>40464251 (OP)
This is the second week in a row I’ve gotten all much stuff together for an appointment at the passport office and chickened out and cancelled 1-2 hours beforehand.
I haven’t gone further than the mailbox since Covid, and I haven’t spoken out loud since Jan 2024.
It’s weirdly fine? I get sad when I think about being old and alone, but being middle age and alone is fine. I hope I’m strong enough to kill myself if I start to have problems taking care of myself.

>>40464251 (OP)
I just vibe. Online games suffice even though I get banned from cs and val every few weeks

>>40471601
Im on a waiting list, its 7 years

>>40464251 (OP)
By using it as a fuel for my rage and hatred of society, transbian, jews, niggers, poojeet and sandniggers.
I will probably commit a genocide one day since i dont take meds or go to therapy

Surrounded my room with mirrors and bought a lot of lingeries

>>40464251 (OP)
>no one in your life
I've been living like that for 5 years. Not a single friend or anyone talk to. I desensitized so much that I did feel nothing.

>>40464251 (OP)
Doing my best.
A half-a-decade-long relationship ended, after she cheated on me.
She was really abusive, and the cheating had happened for a couple of years.
I still... loved her, for who she was before she became like this. I don't feel like she can understand that anymore.

I'm slowly trying to see someone again, though I don't really ever feel like I need a partner.
Things have been working out.
As much as I dislike saying it, my life is actually better without her in it. Significantly.
I still cry sometimes about the past though. Before whatever happened to her that led her to become like this.
It feels weird to grieve for someone who's still alive.

>>40464251 (OP)
>How are you coping?
Unlike all others retards in this thread who fanatsize about wanton levels of violence to cope with their anger and victim complex I sublimate my frustrations and feelings of hurt into making subversive art and sculptures! I mostly use stuff that was made for kids arts and carfts aswell as literal trash (duct tape, paper that I soak in water and toothpaste and make paper mache out of, crumpled tinfoil, plastic I melt with a spoon) , mainly because im poor and dont have money for nicer high brow materials, but also because I feel like crafting sculptures out of whatever I find laying on my desk gives my creations an art-brut feel that emphasizes my alienation from the rest of society and the rejection I feel. Admittedly I do also think about wanton violence a lot. Like a lot a lot, but whenever I get those thoughts I just grab something and start sculpting/painting, Ive pavloved myself into associating extreme violence with art.

A LOT OF VODKA

>>40474777
Would you say art psychology has helped with your depression?

>>40476364
It did. When I feel angry or sad because of the state of my life I sculpt/draw. when im finished with my work I like to hold it in my hands or look at it for a while if its something non physical, coming back to it and examining it over and over again gives me a feeling of calm and satisfaction. Though that feeling fades after a while, but thats okay I can always make a new piec

>>40476877
Thank you for responding.

I've been referred to art psychology, so I'm worried that I'm not artistic enough to produce anything of value. But I just want to satiate my depression.

I'll try it now after listening to you, thanks anon

>>40477056
It doesnt need to be good in order to work. Sometimes I justr scribble shit on mspaint with a mouse and it has the same effect. In fact I like it better when its a bit sloppy because i feel liek thats human emotion in rawest form, its hard to make polished work when youre overflowing with feelings. I think that its important to actually finish your stuff tho, if it just lays around rotting you wont feel satisfied from it and wont ever look at it like "wtf did i really make this i didn't know that i was capable of it"

>>40474765
Just be honest with the new partner, so they understand the situation and we you are mentally

>>40477553
I like the idea of scribbling. Just making a mess, and not caring.

My art levels never progressed beyond age 5 lol. Ive been too crushed by life but it would be nice

I play Gacha games with cute girls and cook delicious food elsewise I'd go crazy

>>40478965
>delicious food

What do you cook?

>>40479238
Uhh Cajun food, steak, soups, stuff like that

>>40479406
Ohh id love some nice food right now. I had steak the other day, and it was so nice.

Im eating a lot more vegtables now, almost every day. I miss cake, i miss chocolate

>>40479423
I eat veggies everyday cause I love veggies but cake I've never been a fan of. I do love dark chocolate though

>>40479466
It feels nice to eat healthy, i feel better in myself. I also try to drink 4/6 liters of water a day, its good for skin.

Cake is lovely, birthday cake, red velvet, victoria sponge. But its so so bad for us, the amount of sugar isnt good.

>>40479618
I hope you continue feeling better anon.

>>40478889
>Just making a mess, and not caring
it also works with physical art. buy some paper, buy paint or cheap markers, scribble on it, smear paint around, glue random shit to it, you get the idea.

>>40464251 (OP)
I've not lived a long life, but I've lived a hard and varied life. after reading this thread, im seeing people give their experiences and anecdotes, but ill tell you the genuine truth with a single question:

"and when nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. what do you call it, freedom or loneliness?"

For some of the people in this thread, that is loneliness. for others it is freedom. The truth is that its both: when i was single, i had no qualms about being single. i had my hobbies, i had my goals, i had friends, i had many ways to enrich myself. so when i did end up in a rleationship, i was not desperate. i treated the other person as my equal (although not in bed hahah) and i loved them as much, if not more, as they loved me. Good things will come and go in life. the ones who cant come to terms with that are the ones who are desperate, sad, depressed, etc. but if you are a good person, and you improve yourself, the good will come. the good will come.

>>40480212
Thank you, i was screaming and crying yesterday, but today i just spent it being comfy with my teddy.

Tomorrow i have the doctors then i want to come back home and avoid all people

>>40480512
What had you screaming and crying?

>>40480486
Freedom or loneliness. It can be both.

:)

>>40480521
Not good at dealing with conflict. Someone close to me upset me

Its best i stay alone

>>40480567
I'm sorry you feel that way, anon