>friend starts a discord for trans people in our city
>more and more cool trannies I recognise start joining
>we all go out for drinks and stuff semi-regularly
>they are mostly the twitter transbian passoid type but in a cool way
>it might be the most fun I have had in a while
>slowly I start recognising less and less of the new members in the discord
>more and more of them are now manmoders, creepy ancientshit hons or femboys
>I track one of these fucks down on grindr and see crossdresser on their profile :(
>last couple times we have been out drinking this new contingent has been pretty creepy and kinda ruined the vibe

I'm not crazy, others have voiced concerns about them but apparently its not enough to kick them out besides more keep joining

There are splinter groups forming but none nearly as big, are irl trans communities always just doomed to this happening once it hits a critical mass?

>>40481283 (OP)
this is a community problem in general, you need standards or else new people come in that don't abide by the culture established in the beginning and it gets diluted, you need to be able to tell the fringe people no you can't join our group or it just goes to shit, doesn't matter what it is

>>40481328
But like, what do those people do then? Im imagining in this scenario that they join the friend group and don't hurt or cause issues, do they have to cause issues or problems first or is this about something else

>>40481362
i just gave a general example but in your case it's probably best to clique up with the people you like in there or start your own server with only people you want, if there isn't enough pushback to kick them out then it's not worth the drama, especially if everything grew too large anyway

>>40481328
There could probably be some kind of screening that would workto filter out creeps but I don't think anyone wants to do that, besides it would probably just get us accused of gatekeeping transition or someshit anyway

>>40481283 (OP)
>it's not a social contagion mom!

>>40481283 (OP)
never let your circle get too large

>>40481454
I'm always afraid of this but I want HRT, how do I check so I don't do nothing stupid

>>40481484
Just because something can be a social contaigon doesn't mean it can't be real at the same time. Anorexia didn't exist in Japan until the Americans introduced it but its still a real condition

>>40481509
you motherfuckers got me

>>40481283 (OP)
>There are splinter groups forming but none nearly as big, are irl trans communities always just doomed to this happening once it hits a critical mass?
This is known as real life. Why do you think clubs check people before they let them in?

>>40481283 (OP)
>There are splinter groups forming but none nearly as big, are irl trans communities always just doomed to this happening once it hits a critical mass?
Maybe the only solution is making the group private when it's big enough and the vibe is still mostly the same. And only slowly let more people in if they're friends of existing members.

But idk, it's definitely a weird feeling having to moderate a friend group like that.

>>40481538
Yeah but most clubs are going to kick someone out if they start acting up, meanwhile we a relegated to awkwardly laughing at their shitty jokes because we are too woke to do anything

>>40481484
do you believe you're a woman born with a birth defect
or do you want to be a woman just cause

>>40481587
I don't have enough sway to get the admin to make it invite only, and I don't think they would want to anyway. Aside from that my only hope may be for one of the splinter groups to get big enough to actually do things

>>40481630
i don't feel like a woman most of the time and it makes me sad because when I do it is very happy

The solution is obvios and simple yet it confuses and angers the average mind.
If you want to keep a social group cool, you will have to start excluding people based on vibes alone

>>40481710
Some trannies have atrocious vibes until their comfortable enough to come out of their shell a little and I wouldn't wanna exclude that type

>>40481283 (OP)
just gatekeep more you retard

>>40481283 (OP)
yeah a similar thing happened to my group, original one kinda collapsed but the og's are in other groups

>>40481283 (OP)
Name the city

this is retarded. Am I the only one who thinks cliques are gay as fuck and you all sound like insufferable douchebags? I don't know why the tendency with you fuckers is to constantly try and create these shitty private heirarchies instead of just being fucking normal with real friends

newsflash dipshit even without those interlopers your "friend" group would still devolve into infighting doubly so if you start purity testing people

>discord
>going on 4chan to complain about shit going bad with terminally online fetishists from twitter

Fuck I hate you people. Why is EVERY fucking tranny like this. None of you fuckers want to talk about anyone but yourselves and you ghost people or try to defame them at the drop of the hat

This is why I feel so alienated by attempting to transition it's like everyone is a fucking horrible person AND I still have to deal with normalfags and chuds

I'm so fucking lucky I have neoliberal or slightly edgy chud lite normalfag yuppie/ex hipster cis friends as my dominant friend group who are accepting either way because I've known them for decades and despite looking like the kinds of people who would none of us play these stupid fucking social games you all default to for some fucking reason

>>40481283 (OP)
>they are mostly the twitter transbian
Already doomed to be freaks

passing is a myth

>>40481283 (OP)
cta?

>>40483040
>reeeee you can't sit with us because... um... you're not wearing pink!
>that's it!
>it's because you're dressed wrong and you're... creepy?
>yeah, creepy!
>ew!
You're completely correct. That kind of gatekeeping keeps autists out and socialite sissies in, turning everything into a popularity contest

>>40481283 (OP)
You just described what happened to this boards except the ancient hons invading, they're still at Susans. It's 99% just manmoders, boymoders coping they're not manmoders, young cookedshits, femboys, and hrt reppers.

>>40483040
Are they terminally online fetishists because they pass and have a real life or is it just you coping?

>>40483040
>I'm so fucking lucky I have neoliberal or slightly edgy chud lite normalfag yuppie/ex hipster cis friends
ok so you don't realize how rapey/bigoted sissy CDs/lateshits can be, its perfectly reasonable to exclude those people from your social circle

>>40483217
One of those is not like the others hon.

>>40481283 (OP)
OP if im a relatively cute transbian but im a fuckup loser can I attract another relatively cute transbian who is cooler and better than me?

>>40483234
sure

>>40483040
Absolutely based. Catty bitches are always on some vibe checking bullshit, but never on the vibesmaxxing game and learning to gel with others on a genuine level.

>>40483040
Nah, you're retarded. You've obviously never maintained an enjoyable group for a long period of time. Do you think 4chan just lets everyone post here? You think there's no moderation at all? lmao

>>40481362
You have a core group of people with voting power and you vote on who you allow it. Anyone can suggest new members, but they're screened and only officers can initiate a vote.

Basic vidya game clan shit

>>40483040
I wonder if we will ever know how massively linked transgenderism and being terminally online is

>>40484317
>Do you think 4chan just lets everyone post here? You think there's no moderation at all?
Just judging by the shit that gets posted here, yes. Stop being a newfag.