>Leave trans wife because she claims to be poly and cheats on me multiple times emotionally and finally ends up doing it physically.
>Begs me to stay and be poly with her
>Wants throuple with another girl and bunch of crazy shit
>Nope.avi, back to Canada
>Month passes, bpd neurons activated, she contacts me again
>She sends me a 4chan thread
>It's her saying sorry for everything and that she fucked up
>Tear up a bit, maybe she is sincere?
>Decided to take the bait and reply
>We talk and talk, it seems to be going great, she seems to be remorseful and willing to change
>After 2 days of honest talking, she brings up poly again
>Still wants throuples
>Heartbroken again


BPDs are the worst. I took the bait solid. She never changed. Are all trans girls this delusional? I want to forgive her but then she does this shit again. I'm just going to date the cis girl I've been talking to, I can't wait for her to change anymore. I told her I'd wait for her but after her saying she is still poly after cheating on me, all hopes are lost.

>>40485131 (OP)
wow

>>40485131 (OP)
>Are all trans girls this delusional?
not all, but many, maybe most.

Why post all this just to tell me you're still poly? How does that make sense?

>>40485131 (OP)
its not bpd, i have bpd and i would murder my boyfriend if they slept with someone else. my ex boyfriend called another woman pretty once and it made me go schizo and us arguing for months

>>40485147
>why
BPD

>>40485147
Attempted manipulation, luckily malebrained so she's not good at it.

>>40485155
I don't even know what this is at this point. I thought she was serious and we could go back together. But it was just fireworks, she never changed. She told me her "definition" of poly changed. That's so horrible. It doesn't change anything for me. I just want a monogamous relationship like we agreed in marriage.

>>40485167
Cut her loose, she's not willing to change and frankly there's no reason she should have to, that's why you split and find someone that works for you.

>>40485161
I didn't want to believe it when I saw the thread. I thought the girl I married still existed. But no, she is gone.

>>40485167
i dont know either but don't call it bpd please. there's a lot you can attribute to being bpd but this isn't one of them. she's likely just a selfish person who sees others as objects, which describes a lot of autistic people

>>40485175
Yes, you are right, but she's the one contacting me and telling me about getting back together and she's going to make amends. I don't see any amends, it's more bullshit

>>40485180
I'd agree with that. NPD instead of BPD.

>>40485182
Yeah nah, just trying to put the genie back in the bottle. It's good that they should feel the burn of what they did, it's an important part of growing. If you let them get away with it it would get worse, not better.

>Cheated on by unstable BPD trans girl

Tale old as time. Were you two actually married?

>>40485213
Yes, unfortunately.

>>40485226
I'm sorry dude. She never brought this up when you were dating? Are you now officially divorced?

What reasons did she give for wanting to be poly?

>>40485242
Never, I even asked her if she was anything like that and she said no. Waiting on divorce. I appreciate it man.

>>40485244
Apparently she just is and I was "forcing her" (completely delulu) into a monogamous relationship (she wanted to get married the first time we met). She keeps saying that she needs a woman and a man in her life, but when she cheated on me, she did it with two guys.

>>40485259
Just don't take her back. It's obvious she's trying to manipulate you and you deserve better.

How long did you two date for?

>>40485264
>she wanted to get married the first time we met
So she was crazy from the start and you still hitched your horse to a burning wagon. Wow

>>40485264
>she did it with two guys

a-at... at once?

>>40485182
>she's the one contacting me
Just block her. This is my advice to you and my advice to past-me regarding crazy exes who wouldn't leave me alone.

fuck man, I feel you.

I have had something similar and it hurt me pretty badly emotionally and financially.

I'm not like this and I know a lot of transwomen aren't but I know there's what feels like a big chunk who are.

I hate polyfags so fucking much

>>40485287
You're right, but here's the problem, I'm a hopeless romantic and this kind of crazy for me registers as devotion/love.

>>40485321
The thing you have to look out for is escalation. Usually when you cut off a narcissist’s supply (you) they start to spiral. That’s when they do some crazy shit. Keep yourself safe anon, bitches are crazy.

>>40485342
you are the BPD one haha

>>40485342
That’s understandable and I’m not faulting you, I just hope you take some time to work on yourself. Maybe some therapy so you don’t get run thru by some BPD girl again. Fix whatever in you needs you to be a savior, or what makes you blow past obvious red flags and fuck with crazy women.

>>40485333
I wanted to date another trans girl but if they're all like that I'll just have some kids with a cis girl, like I should be doing anyway. I got a few cis girls from college who aren't totally crazy that I'm talking to. I just wished I didn't have to do that and we could go back together as a monogamous couple. Really sucks

>>40485362
I do have a savior complex, and she word for word wanted me to be her savior and help her do better in life. I was stupid enough to think it's possible

>>40485346
Nahhh lots of people just have a savior complex. Crazy people can be alluring and passionate but you can’t fix them. They are definitely not worth it.

>>40485386
the first step to getting treatment is admitting you have a problem. I know bpd can be embarassing especially for a man but you really can't keep livin in denial and expect different outcomes

>>40485386
They're very alluring. I love the crazy passion and the clinginess. I love the highs of the bpd, but when the lows come and the abuse starts, it's a different story.

>>40485396
I'm not BPD, I just love girls who are clingy. It gets me going. And that girl was really really special, she just self sabotaged everything because she was too afraid to accept our love for what it was.

>>40485406
You should have beaten her more.

>>40485406
stop trying to play it cool lol your behavior says otherwise

>>40485416
You can try to be patient and educate and show the right way as much as you want but sometimes they're really stubborn and will still do whatever the fuck shouldn't be done. I've always been extremely patient with her and she knows it. Yet, it didn't stop the disaster she inflicted on us

>>40485366
I think there’s a higher prevalence of BPD and NPD and other mental issues among trans women, but I wouldn’t say all of us are like this. Categorically refusing to date trans women because of bad experiences is totally fair, I’m hesitant to befriend other trans people for the same reason. But just be aware that cis women are also prone to being crazy like this, and might be even more dangerous. Not just because kids can be involved, which can make stuff really ugly, but because like another poster hinted. A crazy cis girl is on average a lot more skilled at manipulation than your average crazy trans girl. Just be careful and protect your peace anon, no matter who you end up with. Dealing with instability and heartbreak like this will take years off your life if you don’t protect your heart.

>>40485436
I appreciate the advice. Thank you. I don't think any girl is worth having an heart attack over. I'd like to give another trans girl a chance, and if it doesn't work due to impossible-to-live-with mental illness, then I will only for go for cis girls.

>>40485460
forgot to say, I agree with you about the manipulation, I'm a bit weak against emotional manipulation due to my predisposition for careless romance. Some cis girls will attempt to nuke your life, but generally the ones who are capable of it are easier to spot than the avg trans girl.

>>40485475
>I'm a bit weak against emotional manipulation due to my predisposition for careless romance
Not to say I’m better than anyone but I used to feel the same way. A couple bad relationships sobered me up. I was lucky though. I’ve seen other people fall really hard and just disappear into their own head and feelings after stuff like this. Betrayal can be really traumatizing. Anyway, I hope your posting that screenshot of her post here isn’t some way of getting her attention or something like that.

>>40485434
Did you educate her with a right beating?

>>40485147
How did this apology make you tear up?
Like, I get feeling bad that she's obviously spiraling, but she just insulted and pitied herself and grovelled for forgiveness.

This is why only gay males should date eachother, having 2 emotionally retarded people in a relationship is a recipe for failure. Honestly you guys need a 3rd so you can have a woman to mediate these things.

>>40485685
Wouldn't you feel at least a bit emotional if your ex told you she was deeply sorry and wanted to see you again?

>>40485704
After having been betrayed and then recieving this schizo apology, I would feel very secure in my decisions. It would stir the grieving feelings back up, but not in a "I should forgive them" kind of way.

>>40486094
You're right and part of my definitely felt validated in my decisions, but another part of me is loyal to the death and even though she betrayed me, I still married her and felt like as a husband I should give her a chance if she'd do the right thing. It's irrational, but we did really share something really really special and I still struggle with turning the page completely. I believe in people, I'm an optimist, to my own disadvantage. I want to believe people can do better.

This whole saga is probably going to take that away from me. I used to think it was dudebro talk to say "once a cheater, always a cheater" or "avoid girls with high body counts". Turns out there's a lot of wisdom in that, if someone shows you who they truly are, you have to believe them. It takes away some of my belief in humanity, chips away at my love for people.

>>40485131 (OP)
who cares

>>40485131 (OP)
YOu silly fool BDP are the disposable vapes of people. The most moral thing you could do after sleeping with them is kill them

Save yourself the heartache and ignore her. BPD people are loose cannons unless they are deep in therapy. They make you feel like the most important person in the world and then completely discard you the next week. Unless they’ve done some work to control their demons, they cannot be trusted. Loving relationships are not full of stress and uncertainty.

I wish she would tell me if there was something we could bring to the relationship other than a another girl.

Your “loss”…oh so you left me for another girl u had on the side?

What happened to not getting validation about our problems from other people?

All rhetorical questions to ask yourself.
No revenge. Hope ur rebound goes well.

>>40488908
If you had another girl lined up we are literally doing poly rn. lol lemme guide u through this.

>>40488908
I asked you to be mono with me and you still insist on doing this poly bullshit even though you've proven yourself incapable of following any rules or boundaries. If you could just tell me what you actually need from our relationship instead of an extra partner, we could fix everything

>>40488942
role reversal? What is it that you need? What can an extra partner give you that I can't?

>>40488923
I haven't done anything with the girl in question, she's been texting me since she heard I came back. I didn't have the heart to flirt with her or do anything with her because I still believe in you.

>>40485180
That's not how autism works.

poly people are mentally unfit for real relationships
news at 11

unblock my number and let's talk. I promise it's gonna be ok.