>>40500168the key to irl friends is losing your shame. at least in some ways, some shame is good, like have good hygiene or whatever.
the basic crux is that everyone wants other people to reach out to them all the time, and so you get caught up in ohhh people will just forget about me if im not the one messaging first or w/e. thats pussy shit lock in and just initiate every time, people are busy (and pussies themselves) and until you become close which takes forever its just not reasonable to expect. how many people have you vaguely known but dont reach out to? they all feel the same woe is me thing. the most consistent throughline of
the most social people i know is that they'll reach out to SO MANY people basically every day. personally thats exhausting so i keep it down to just a few at any given time, but the same idea applies.
do that enough and you'll be fine. you'll get rejected or ignored a bunch and you just have to push through. it sucks in the moment but after awhile you've done it enough that it doesn't sting
tl;dr just find someone or a few people you vaguely know or have been around and lock in on reaching out regularly and try to schedule things irl as much as reasonable. dont focus on just one person try at least a small variety.
(from then on social begets social, so just continue and you'll lock in. its brutally hard but worth)