>>40504621 (OP)It's probably true for cis people, but I think at least sometimes it's different for trans people, because they understand firsthand what it's like to look like one thing but feel like another on the inside. Like when I was visiting my then-GF a couple years ago, she was completely pre-everything and mostly closeted except online, and not only did I feel no urge to call the obviously male-appearing person in front of me "he", I had to bite my tongue to not say "she" in front of other people since she was closeted. Maybe it helps that I knew her online first, I dunno, but I first met her online before she'd come out at all, so I had known her as a "boy".