As a trans woman, I understand how shitty dating can be. Cis people are pretty much out of the question, because no cis person wants to be seen with us and after years of searching for our true love, we try to make it work with the only people who have something, ANYTHING in common with us, other trans people. But we don't have much in common, and since there are so few of us, we stick it out anyway, instead of admitting to ourselves that we are unhappy and are better off alone, we open up the relationship, hoping that with every new partner you might eventually, FINALLY fill that gaping hole in your heart. But you wont, because polyamory is not the and never was the answer. You know its true, I do too. Lets just face the facts.
You're right, I'm not poly. At best, I want a sub to share with my partner, who I actually love. I want someone to hurt in ways I'd never think of hurting her and I think she might enjoy playing with that toy too. Again, I'm not actually poly and neither is she.
>>40505206 (OP)No, i'm actually poly. I've been in multiple satisfying monogamous relationships and am in one right now. But ive always dreamed of having a triangle relationship; one where its like a normal monogamous relationship but three people all dating each other equally instead of two. Sleeping in the same bed and living together. That would be awesome but i'll probably never have it because its hard enough to find one good partner at a time.
I know that jealousy wouldnt be a problem either because with one of my partners on the past we experimented with threesomes and such and it was awesome and only made our bond tighter, even though i had feared it would do the opposite
>>40505206 (OP)im not poly
>cis people are pretty much out of the question what? ive been with my cis bf for 7 years and he was never afraid to be seen with me. good cis people are out there
>>40505410There are some cool cis people, I dated a cis guy for 2 and a half years and it was chill, but you have to admit that the majority of cis people have a hard time even looking at us, let alone dating us
>>40505403>one where its like a normal monogamous relationship but three people all dating each other equally instead of twowill not happen ever, sorry. you cannot love two people equally, one person is always going to feel like the unwanted child, its the unfortunate reality of poly relationships
>>40505474yeah most cis people do have a pretty dim view of us, and most that don't still won't date us. i guess im just not sure if that small amount of cis people is bigger or smaller than the amount of trannies
>>40505527i dont think there are more cis people willing to date us than trans people, but even if it were true the average cis chaser is really weird and off putting. like eating a hot dog off the ground
>>40505410they exist but they are rare. Majority of cis people I've dated just see us as an exotic oddity until they get a "real woman"
The amount of times I've seen someone get cold or cagey after finding out im trans is heartbreaking. Even if we do end up dating they attempt to keep it casual or hide me away. It's made me cynical about people.
>>40505481This was my experience in a triad, constant rotating between who was the focus. Oh and when the hinge who asked the two of us to be polyam wasnt the focus anymore than the tantrums started...
>>40505548idk I consider a "Chaser" as different from someone open to dating trans women. Chasers tend to be very objectifying
