>>40577832 (OP)I’m a cis guy and I have had a really painful time trying to disentangle my sense of masculinity from the expectations I was raised with to become a father
I realize that so much of what I was taught about being a man was geared toward fathering children and it has been very tough being honest with myself about whether doing so is really what I want
Anyhow I just wanted to say that I suspect it is really similarly difficult to disentangle femininity from motherhood; like it’s one thing to say “okay yes they are separate things” in some abstract way whereas in deep psychological ways we live and act like they are inseparable
I’m not trying to call into question your yearning to be a mom, more like just posting in support to say I get the deep sadness about it