alright, gay (or bi… its complicated) man here talking, never been on a date before never held hands no kiss no nothing, just a complete loser desu!

The isolation of just going to work and college is maddening so I wanna try going on dates and getting into a relationship. I don’t know how to be a good boyfriend.

I want to ask any of those who are currently in the dating scene or are in healthy relationships for any advice. It can be what I should talk about or what I should do, etc. I’m a bit of a nervous wreck but I’m starting to ease up on studying and I’m working out while trying to maintain a good attitude, and even though I’m not a looker I feel like I’m mentally healthy enough to put myself out there.

Gay people help me I see y’all and your adorable boyfriends and I am filled with envy tell me how to be a good boyfriend thanks.

(also I dunno if this is relevant but I’m pretty sure I’d be a bottom, not a lot of real estate down there if you know what I mean)

>>40585955 (OP)
Gay top here in quite a happy little relationship with my bottom bf. I guess you could ask questions if you have specifics in mind, but the basics are pretty simple and you've probably already heard them. Communication is big. If you're more of a bottom than most tops will probably enjoy "taking the lead" on most things, taking the initiative, when it comes to sex and intimacy but also just normal stuff too. But it's important that he knows what you like and don't like. Let him push your limits a bit if you're enjoying it, but don't go along with something you're genuinely not enjoying just to please him, in the long run that's not going to be good for either of you. Let him lead, but also let him know what's working for you and what isn't. Let him in on your desires and fantasies.

When it comes to relationship stuff just make an effort to be good to him. You don't need to overdo it, just make the effort to get to know him, ask questions, figure out what he likes and doesn't like, get a sense of what his needs are. It's not that different from being a good friend, but like, being a REALLY good friend, kinda going beyond the boundaries and becoming a lot more intimate than most friendships.

Try to be someone he can RELAX with. That's a big one, in the long term. Some people stir up a lot of drama, and some people also feel like there's a pressure to always be 'on' and entertaining each other in a relationship. And it's definitely important to have fun and try new things together, but at a certain point if you really wanna be close, you have to know when and how to take the pressure off and just be comfortable together. Know when to back off a little and be easy company, and you can get to a point where he pretty much always wants you around.

>>40585955 (OP)
This guy >>40586075 has the right idea. Don't worry too much about your physical attributes- plenty of gays are superficial about that stuff, but since from the outset you're looking for romance, the crowd you draw might be surprisingly relaxed about it. I've been told by tons of gay guys that they're sad and lonely because they want real companionship and can only find one-night stands- those lonely lads just need to find each other, and happiness isn't so far away.
Once you're actually in a relationship, especially if you're living together, most of the relevant advice applies the same way to straight couples. Don't hold grudges, talk it out instead of bottling up secrets or frustrations, know which chores are yours and do them...
>Try to be someone he can RELAX with
This is huge; part if the appeal of a gay relationship is that certain fundamental boundaries that M/F couples face aren't there to trouble yours. Being someone, or with someone, who has to work to keep up appearances around the other partner gets exhausting and is thankfully avoidable for people like us. Men are cute, men are exciting, men are funny; if you're always yourself and can make him laugh without trying, other good things should follow naturally.
Good luck out there!

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>>40585955 (OP)
>Mail form Alice
>Mal Menu
>Mal Receve
>lain,s pokete Maler
yeah lain was so ahead of its time doods

>>40588595
now that i think about it i think it's actually pokate