How did your dad react to your trooning out? He's the one I'm most nervous to tell, not because I think he'll react badly, but because the reality of losing his only son is a pain I don't want to inflict on him

>>40586844 (OP)
just have kids and then transition, easiest shit ever.

>>40586850
*most evil shit ever

>>40586844 (OP)
why the fuck would you tell him? just do it and let him initiate the conversation when he feels like it. itll be easier that way

i never told him directly. ive been on hrt for 3 years and only recently told my mom when i last visited bc she brought it up while we were talking 1 on 1 and she knew practically the entire time but never pressed me on it. i can only assume my dad knew as well and that theyve discussed it with each other but the topic hasnt come up since
i never actually straight up told either of them im a tranny or go by a new name & pronouns bc im worried it might be weird and i dont really think its necessary. only one who knows that part is my sister

>>40586844 (OP)
My dad is woke but in an old guy way, not a true woke way so it's cool.

>>40586844 (OP)
i choked up too much when coming out and actually made my dad guess.. but he accepted me. i have been a little more distant from him since i transitioned but that might just be because ive gotten older

>>40586844 (OP)
I never thought I’d come across a post that honestly hits me where I feel it so much. I know my dad would never accept anything lgbt and I don’t blame him for hating it, but that’s not actually what’s holding me back, I would never want to put him through losing his son in that way, especially considering I actually have a good relationship with him. Yes I know that I’m still me, but from his perspective it would be as if his son died and become something unrecognizable. I just can’t do that to someone who I do actually value and respect. I’ve been on hrt for a bit over a year now, I don’t actually plan on publicly trooning. But I haven’t talked to them in a while face to face just cause I’m so paranoid. I miss you dad, I’m sorry.

>>40586844 (OP)
he didn't care about it that much and didn't say anything at all lol

>>40586904
Because he's my dad and I love and respect him?

>>40586844 (OP)
I told him and walked away and he basicly never talks about it. When I make him admit I've told him he tells me it's a fetish.

>>40586990
I feel just the same way you do, even if I'm still me the person I used to present as will be gone and that will hurt the people I care about.

I came out as bi like 10 years ago and my dad's response was based "I'm ok with it, are you?" and even though I was coming out it did still take me a while to become ok with myself.

>>40586844 (OP)
"yeah we knew you were different, its not a surprise desu"
still made me repress for 3 more years

>>40587255
>come out
>then repress
???

>>40587137
Need a hug? And yeah, my dad wouldn’t be as chill with that even.
>>40586904
I think what anon was more saying with this post is no need to push that conversation on him and make him confront that. You can often be a lot better off to give him plausible deniability and a way out where he doesn’t have to actively process the fact that his son is “that thing”. Just continue being his son, and if he notices any of the changes and actually wants to confront you on and let him do it on his terms, if he doesn’t want to accept that don’t push it. Although that doesn’t work if you’re planning on actually doing any sort of social trooning.

>>40587295
i was a minor at the time and they didnt let me start hrt, sent me to dozens of psychiatrists and therapists, then the next 2 years where i was not a minor they made my life hell and i was too depressed and i couldnt get hrt (the first part is their fault, i admit the second one i should have fighted them)

>>40587484
>Need a hug?
Yes. Do you? :)
>Although that doesn’t work if you’re planning on actually doing any sort of social trooning.
I have a hard time imagining not doing that sometime down the road. Otherwise what am I even here for?
To the point, I would not have that talk until I was well down the road of hrt and passing and basically ready to socially transition.

>>40587849
I'm sorry esl sis, that sucks.

he tried to be supportive but i know he was so fucking depressed, my mom was crying her self to sleep and he realized i lie about everything and i have been since i was 7
i feel bad even though we are not too close he’s losing his only son and i was never a good son to him

>>40588057
they also took my hrt and I’m waiting for diy but whenever someone brings up masculinity or femininity he has this look on his face and i feel like I wanna cry and i know he’s praying ill turn out normal

>>40587911
*big hugs*, I hate myself and most of the lgbt “community” it actually label myself as anything so I kinda just exist. I’m content at the moment just scared. I kind of just exist as me, I have pretty much exclusively male brained hobbies and all my friends are chuds so bleh. Just kind of existing

>>40586844 (OP)
only time i've ever seen him cry, grandmother had to threaten to take him out of the will to get him to use my name/pronouns

>>40586844 (OP)
I feel bad for your dad, not you

>>40586844 (OP)
I told my mom who told my dad and he had a fit of rage and broke shit, he also printed off a ton of pol anti trans shit and botched bottom surgery pictures and brought them to my house, he chilled out and accepted me after a few years though

>>40588128
kek, your dad's values were bought off

>>40588116
We're all gonna make it anon

>>40588131
Me too

>>40586844 (OP)
He's fine with me being a tranny, but not liking men. It's really weird where that line is / was drawn. He does admit that some people are just "born in the wrong body" probably on account of my situation with pais. We still have an okay relationship, eat lunch or dinner together once a week talk or text a few times a week. He refuses to meet my husband though.

>>40588247
Legit, thank you for happening to make those thread, I usually just see obsessed tranny jerking themselves off over hating fathers cause their own dad was le mean. Sometimes it’s funny to poke at them, but I never really feel like I fit in here let alone xitter queer spaces.

>>40586844 (OP)
I never told him but he asked one day because my mom found my hrt and I just told him I don't owe anyone an explanation for my life. I think he just gave up after that.

left a letter on our dining room table to never come home again with a box of bullets next to it

>>40587849
Same
Didn’t figure out until abt 16, but not being able to get hrt as a teenager kept me repressing as an adult because my life was over, cue years of depression and antidepressants that made things worse
Stay strong anon

>>40589371
Did they let you keep the ammo? Jokes aside that they were the kind of folks to be that hostile towards. I don’t know why you would let them knows

>>40586963
everyone always knows huh

copium.exe

>>40586844 (OP)
my dad died 3 weeks after I started hrt. I never got a chance to tell him he had a daughter

Very well, extremely supportive.
On the other hand, he's in jail for serial rapes and zoophilia.

>>40586844 (OP)
I dont know my parents

>>40586844 (OP)
It doesn't matter

>>40586904
3 words

Health. Insurance. Money.

>>40586844 (OP)
Havent seen him since the permanent protective order and dont really care what he'd think

Totally broke him but he was a wifebeating asshole before that so I don't feel as bad about it as if he was kind

>>40589514
my mom was dead when i was little and found out from outside sources

>>40593597
he found out*

>>40586844 (OP)
mine seemingly never bothered to understand he just asked if I needed any specialists, but beyond that he leaves me to my own devices and doesn't bring it up. He probably just has no idea how to handle it so he's waiting for me to work it out on my own and become less of a mess before even trying to attempt that conversation

>>40586870
Why is it evil?, genuinely curious

>>40586904
I tried doing this and then my parents flipped out when they found out I was taking estrogen without telling them. It probably would have gone better if I had just said so from the beginning even though I wanted to boymode for a year first at least.
Make sure you guys never ever get sloppy with hiding your HRT if you do this.