First of all, I'm not shaming anyone who doesn't pass. It's not their fault. I'm shaming people who don't pass and believe they pass and they filter out all incidents that indicate they don't pass.

For the most part, passing is not within our control. The just-world fallacy is widespread and prevalent in trans circles. Trans people will tell you that if you don't pass, it must be your fault because you haven't put effort into your transition. More often than not, this is bullshit, and it's a type of victim-blaming attitude that stems from the false belief that working hard pays off. It's like telling a 4'11'' man that if he's short, it's because he hasn't put effort into his height. Do you see how stupid that is? People absolutely hate acknowledging the fact that most of what happens to us is out of our control. This is also why obese people are shamed. It's much easier and more convenient to shame them and blame them for their poor eating habits instead of acknowledging that they might have hormonal issues that cause obesity, no matter how much they diet.

There is only so much you can do to alter your phenotype. More often than not, FFS is not sufficient to completely feminize your face, and not because of the surgeon's fault, simply because most male characteristics on your face cannot be completely eradicated.

They'll say you're a phrenologist, but acknowledging that there are clear differences between male and female craniofacial structures is not phrenology; it's simply reality.

They'll say that only brainwormed autists on 4chan notice these subtleties. This can't be further from the truth. People don't need to have a degree in human anatomy to clock you. It's the overall silhouette and the thousands of little traits that all cumulatively betray your birth sex.

They'll post photos with hundreds of filters, anglefrauding, using forced pigeon toe, covering half of their faces with contrived hairstyles, doing the V sign with their manly fingers and making retarded facial expressions just because they're fishing for compliments and they want to be told, "Hon, you have BDD. Seek therapy." Ugly, unpassable trannies LOVE being told they have BDD because having BDD is way better than having an unfixable manly skeleton. Would you want to be told that you will never pass because of your immutable bone structure, or would it be better to believe that you pass and you have braiworms and BDD?

They'll post selfies on transpassing, wondering why they get clocked, and everyone will blame their eyebrows. It doesn't matter how bad they look, everyone will say they get clocked because of their eyebrows. Why do they do that? For the same reason I explained above. Blaming the eyebrows, something that you can fix, is way better than realizing your face is exceptionally virilized and not even hundreds of surgeries will fix it.

Some trans women get called "sir" and "man" and "he" they are told that they have schizophrenic paranoia and they are having auditory hallucinations. These unpassable trans women are super happy when someone tells them they have brainworms or schizophrenia. Why? Because having paranoia is much better than having a skull that has masculinized beyond repair. So they love being gaslit. "No, hon, nobody is laughing in your face, calling you a 'he" or 'sir.' It's all in your head, hon. You're paranoid. I can sell you false hopes for $200 per session."

Trans women love to say that women come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. There is something called "female range." There are cis women who are taller than 6 feet and have broad shoulders, but they look unmistakably female because the preponderance of their physical traits is within female range. By contrast, there are very short trannies who do not pass because their proportions are obviously male